From a slave to a master, chapter # 7 - "So, what tip can you give me to be enlightened? To have a True Love relationship?”

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A Memoir

Excerpt: Almost every conversation that I was engaged in ended with the same question. After I discussed notions like enlightenment, love, relationships and the dating scene, heading towards more abstract issues such as duality and religion, my colleagues smiled and asked me to give them a personal tip so they could find the kind of loving relationship that I spoke of. They did not know yet but what they really asked was "how can I have my enlightenment?". The answer was and is simple: Choose and You shall have it.

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The Journey towards enlightenment and specifically a true love relationship is personal and unique. Nevertheless, now that the road is well paved there is one guiding directive that applies to everyone – Choose! No matter who I talk to and regardless the circumstances of their lives it always begins and ends with the same thing – do you know what you want? Do you choose enlightenment?

Allegedly, it could be considered ridiculous to even pose those questions. After all who does not want a loving relationship? Who would refuse to have a deep reunion with life and nature and another human being that would make one happy and fulfilled? Indeed, at first glance, we all want True Love. The question is – do we choose it?do we know how to choose in the first place?!

Therefore, my first and foremost tip for you – those who seek enlightenment/ true love – is: Choose it.

Choosing is a state of being that does not take much effort or time. It is done continuously by everyone and its outcomes are projected in the outer reality. We live our choices every single moment of our lives. I wrote before that we all create our own reality and understanding that axiom gives us two gifts – freedom and responsibility. Now I add that the first tool for reality creation is choice. You have to choose and once you made a choice the universe will hear you and fulfill that choice. To use a witty parable I heard lately: The universe conspires to fulfill your desires!

How to choose?

Basically, humans can be categorized to two main types: those who make choices all the time and therefore create their reality, and those who drift along the river of life and passively let others determine what shape will their reality take. The move from one pattern of living to the other can be done instantly and requires only a decisive decision.

A difficulty may arise when one tries to remember how to make choices. Whereas it may seem easy or obvious (“How to choose? Well, I simply need to think of the things I want in my life, no”?), a genuine choosing process requires special attention to its three elements.

Proper choosing has to take effect on three levels – the mental, the emotional and the physical. Indeed, there are more levels of the existence but those three are the ones that we use to create our reality.
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  1. At first, one needs to decide if they want to be enlightened, if they want a deep loving relationship? Begin by stating that choice in your thoughts and carry on to declare it to others when this subject comes up: “No, thank you. You are a very nice lady but I am looking for loving relationship and not just a fling. Therefore, I am not interested in going out with you”. Indeed, the temptations that life puts in front of us can sometimes be amazing but these are merely the universe’s ways to check how serious you are about the decision you made. These tests will go away soon after you stress to your selves that you remain firm to your original choice. Remember: the universe conspires to fulfill your desires, so once you made a choice you incidentally ask the universe to test you in order to see how serious you are. Hold on tight to that mental choice you made in your thoughts about enlightenment and true love.

  2. Next – Act in your life according to that choice. In a relationship, for example, it means refraining from doing any act that stands in contradiction to your highest notion of True Love. It begins with the way you treat yourself, continues with how you treat other human beings, and ends with the actions you engage in your daily lives. Watch carefully what you do. You have the inner compass to tell you what complies with True Love and what stands against it. Hurting others takes you away from True Love. Endless searching for a mate in bars, clubs or on the internet takes you away from True Love. Dating people because you are bored or just for the sexual stimulation takes you away from TrueLove. It is you who decide each moment by each action what is your choice.

  3. Your mental declarations and your daily behaviors should be accompanied by your emotional status. I am not speaking about the ups and downs or the myriad range of feelings that humans have. What I am referring to is the harnessing of your emotions to reinforce the choices you make.

Let me clarify this with an example – let’s say you made your mind to be enlightened and with it to have a deep and loving relationship. You choose it and whoever asks you about your love life you make it clear that you choose True Love. Then you walk your talk, that is you behave in a way that matches your initial decision. But still, something is missing. Deep within, you are still not sure that you will make it. You still doubt that you can have what you want. Doubt leads to confusion, frustration, worrying and depression. Those are feelings that do not match with your choice. Actually, they contradict the other efforts you invest in the other two categories: the mind and the behavior.

Remember - Your choice must be valid on all three levels. Therefore, you must harness all your efforts to change those feelings. Change the doubt to certainty. Feel how worthy you are. Feel how the mighty universe is coming to your aid to bring you true love simply because you deserve it. No need to contemplate your worthiness or to make a checklist of all your advantages and disadvantages in order to balance it. Simply – feel that all is ok and that your choice will manifest.

Is this just pretending? Absolutely. At first, your mind will tell you that you lie to yourself. That your choices worth nothing. That you don’t do it correctly. Your mind will battle your efforts to trust because your mind fears what it does not see, hear and grasp in its five senses.

Keep choosing. Keep choosing. Do not give up. Choose on all three levels until you will witness how your choices manifest right before you. And they will.

There is only one tip for allowing enlightenment and along with it the other gifts that life will bring you – choose!


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It begins with the way you treat yourself, continues with how you treat other human beings, and ends with the actions you engage in your daily lives.

Along with other things to follow everyone may consider...thou shalt not have any strange gods before Me. Thou shalt not kill. Thou shalt not commit adultery. Thou shalt not steal. Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s wife. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor’s goods... isn’t it a good start to be enlightened?
I do agree with you especially about “doubt”. People shouldn’t doubt themselves. But there is always this subconsciousness. I don’t think you can avoid it at some point, but it’s only up to you if you let it take you down, if you let it beat you. There was this “person” in my childhood, who said “you are a looser, you are a quitter”. But because I knew it wasn’t true, because I knew it was evil trying to take me down, it didn’t make me doubts about myself at all.

The subconscious play a huge role in people perception and actions. I really agree with your sentiment that it is up to you to decide if doubt will drag you down or you will utilize it to improve. If you doubt yourself you should look inward and figure out why you doubt yourself, then improve that aspect. Looking inward will then project outward to your actions.

Basically, humans can be classified into two main types: those who make decisions all the time and thus create their reality, and those who float along the river of life and passively let others determine what form their reality will take. Changing from one life pattern to another can be done instantly and only requires a decisive decision.

Throughout my life I have come across people who leave everything in God's hands, the whatsoever God wills becomes their secret weapon for all the actions of their lives, this has somehow fostered some noise in my mind, is leaving everything in God's hands the best decision? or rather, I am one of the people who seeks what I want, and even though I know that I must be tolerant with other people, I cannot stand those who leave their destiny in God's hands, as if God is going to find you a job or as if God is going to take a new partner to knock on your door!

How to choose? Well, I just need to think about the things I want in my life, don't I?"

The fundamental problem is that even we don't know what we want and we add the fear to certain situations (like being old and single) makes us confuse the goals.

Remember, the universe conspires to fulfill your desires, so once you make a decision, you casually ask the universe to test you to see how serious you are. Hold on to that mental choice you made in your thoughts about enlightenment and true love.

this is something new for me and on second thought it seems real to me, there are always certain tests that normally make me waver because I'm not sure what I want, now clinging to a mental choice works in all situations? or just for love and enlightenment?

Well I think the mission is in my mind, to choose under the three levels, no matter how far my mind sees it, I will repeat the lesson over and over again until I reach my goal.

As always a reading with a lot of learning, I feel with many tools and good vibes after reading to you, I hope that the universe allows me to read to you always, happy Sunday.

I have no ill will towards those who believe in religion, however a lot of people use it as a crutch because they are afraid to make decisions are major changes in their life. God becomes a scapegoat in order to avoid what they are afraid of. This isn't to say that all religious people do this. There are definitely those who make their own decisions and also follow their faith. It is the extremes that often become the most polarizing.

Exactly! not everyone does, but some simply do not know the meaning of living and only pretend that God lives his way! That's when life leaves without any meaning, thank you for your kind comment.

The fundamental problem is that even we don't know what we want

Hence I'm saying, choose only one thing, your enlightenment!!

Thank you for the kind words. I'm here at least until the end of 2018.🙏

Just this. I love your subject and your post.
I know a lot about love. I am an older man.
The biggest threat to love is the words we say that hurt.
Those words are never forgotten. We may say we forgive.
But, do we truly forget. The invisible barrier is always there.
What we had before is lost forever. After many weeks. months. and years of hurting words. Nearly all love is lost.
So we must all be careful with our words to the one we love.
If we wish to keep that love of course.
Emotional hurt is the most painful of all hurts.
It may heal. But the scar will always be there.
Thank you

So we must all be careful with our words to the one we love.

Thank you🙏

I like the selection of the word "Axiom". I think it suits just perfectly ;)

And naturally, I agree that our reality is either being created actively by us or passively by others. I also like to call the path of enlightenment the shift from unconscious co-creating to conscious co-creating of reality. Or: the shift from being unaware of the Perfection to being aware of the Perfection of the Universal flow, which means that even when we are unware of the Perfection, it is still perfect the way it is.

Having said that, as soon as I started shifting out of the Unawareness I tried to recognize the beauty of the "old and unaware" way, in other words, I tried to grasp why my Soul chose this experience. And of course, each one might have opted for this experience driven by different and unique intentions. Some perhaps simply yearned for a crazy experience, others intended to raise their vibration more quickly in such a high density place, or we wanted to reexperience the quintessential feeling state of Love by experiencing what Love is not (according to our own unique interpretation of Love beneath the Universal All is Love).

You know, should anyone ask me in a future life: "I contemplate engaging in the Earth experience, do you recommend it?", I want to give them a most lightheartedly honest and positive prospect on their choice. ;)

I want to give them a most lightheartedly honest and positive prospect on their choice. ;)

haha...you are being a chicken now 😉

Or the exact opposite, depending on the perspective ;)

Those etheric entities that you will meet and who will ask for your advice will have never been on earth. You are asking them to make a decision without sufficient data/knowledge.

Their willingness is there already, otherwise they wouldn't ask me in the first place. And very same willingness wouldn't even arise didn't they know at that time that they will guaranteedly get out in some way and that it will be absolutely worth it. What's in between is secondary 😰

Their willingness is there already, otherwise they wouldn't ask me in the first place

so why would they ask you at all?

Haha, why do YOU ask this question when you know your answer already? Simply out of curiosity! 😃

We are in my blog.😎 To learn and teach.

כל מה שכתבת מדבר אלי מעיקרו, היישום הוא החלק הקשה...

לעתים, אם אנו מגיעים להבנה לגבי מה שאנו רוצים, לפעמים אנו נמנעים מלהחליט את ההחלטה הנכונה.
דוגמא, רציתי מאוד ללמוד רפואה ובלחץ ההורים ויתרתי על מנת לרצות אותם.

הרבה פעמים יוצא שאנו לוקחים החלטות לא נכונות על מנת שלא לפגוע באנשים קרובים ויקרים לנו.
מבחינתי, זה הדבר שהכי קשה לי לעשות, לקחת החלטה שיכולה לפגוע במישהו שקשור אלי ויקר לי.

במרבית המקרים מה שאת חושבת שיהיה פגיעה הוא לא כך כלל וכלל. בוודאי לא לטווח הארוך.
לוקח זמן להבדיל בין מעשה שהוא פגיעה לכזה שלא, אבל עם הזמן לומדים להבחין.
בהערכה גסה 95% מהבחירות שאת חוששת שיפגעו, לא יפגעו בכלל.
תנסי:)

In my opinion for enlightened lovers, everyone is shown respect. No one is ever tarnished, gossiped about, or anything like that. All people have a right to be, and the enlightened understand that better than anyone else. But i think true love is gone away from humanity nowadays, thats why mostly lovers failure in love. Well nice post again, thanks

true love is gone away from humanity nowadays

I disagree. While it may seem like that on the surface, there are many people who do intensive inner work, to prepare themselves to meet each other, and establiush a genuine deep loving relationship.

An example of true love is the emotion shared between a couple who has been married for 50 years and who are still passionate about each other and care deeply for each other.

The passion is indeed the core of the I AM. People who are passionate about life, in general as well as about their relationship have a strong connection with their I AM source.
Thanks for this reminder👍

Yet another epic from @nomad-magus.

Life is indeed full of choices, what you choose yesterday becomes your reality today.
Whatever it is you are choosing now becomes your tomorrow's reality as well.

But the problem I have found with humanity is this, most people don't know what they want and they end up making choices they don't intend to make.

The simplest and hardest question anybody can ask you is WHO ARE YOU?
as simple as that question might look, if you can't answer it correctly, you can't make your choice. You need to know the man you are choosing for before you know his choices.....

Here is my own conclusion inline with the topic.

  1. Know yourself
  2. Make your choice
  3. Act on your choice
  4. Believe in your heart.

Sorry, I have to add that as number one because it serve as the foundation, personal identity is very vita in making choices.

Thanks as always @nomad-magus

I can totally relate...
Choosing/choise is the first thing we must do.But unfortunatelly there are people who are in constant denyal...
Either they won't choose and they just observe their life passing by or their previous choises ended up being great dissapointments therefore they keep making the same mistake...

PS. it is a great advise indeed nomad-magnus...it is just that..we eople need to see things with clarity to achieve the result we desire.
Have a great day

Clarity is indeed a rare virtue.
Some are born with it, others develop it through life.

Thanks @nomad-magus for the wonderful enlightment true love is some times hard to find if you are not focused because most of the people flow by the rivers of life forexample you search for true love and the other party is in for money or sex . love is a beautiful thing and when it happens to you its atmost fulfillment .Am glad you mentioned choice when looking for a partner .. Our choices determine our destinies if Good then well if bad then we live a life of regrets
Thanks @nomad-magus am going to save this post on my desk top it will help me when choosing a marriage partner
Be blessed
Irene

😀 good luck. Choosing a marriage partner is perhaps the second most important choice that one can make,

Thanks @nomad-magus am gonna take my time to choose

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