Indeed. I was told that men don't cry as well and that we are supposed to be tough. However, I've since learned that emotional toughness does not mean 'don't show any emotion' or to 'stuff and hide' the emotion. I've since learned that emotional strength comes from having the ability to express feelings in a healthy way and that it takes strength to cry and be vulnerable.

What helped me most was not what people told me on how to mourn, but by watching people mourn in a healthy way. That influenced me the most and I've never forgotten that lesson. Thank you my friend for sharing. I pray your brothers find within themselves a way to mourn in a healthy way.

Your analogy about mourning being as unique as the stars in the sky is beautiful! Stunning in fact as it is so true.

Peace to you.