Reasons Why Many People Fail
Failure is part of human nature and not all that bad especially if we can learn from it. However in our modern society, most people depend on governments for their daily survival-examples food (need for handouts, food stamps etc) , medical insurance , schools , hospitals etc and when most people get all these from their government, you notice that they are still not happy and the reason is that something is missing. In this post, I will therefore, discuss about some of the underlying factors (feel free to add more points via the comment section).
- Failed Parenting Strategy: there is nothing wrong with parents loving their children (it is natural and good) however, over pampering , making a child feel always special even if the child is failing at school and among peers can have a bad effect later in life. Moreover, some children start smoking due to seeing their parents smoke at home (like normal family thing). Worryingly, mobile phones and video games are popular gifts for children than great books and holiday adventures in children parks-therefore when the children grow up they will find out that they are not special because there is no mum & dad to help them (cook, wash cloths, praise / spoil them etc) and they cannot just get something because they want it which mostly result to failure. This type of failure is caused by bad parenting.
- Impatience: We live in a fast evolving and digital world with its upside and limitations. Example, if you want to buy something, you just go to amazon or eBay and order the thing fast and you get it the next day. Furthermore, If we need a partner (relationship or just for sex) we just go to special websites and get what we want …this has led to many young people missing that social skills of relationship socializing , leading to failure in relationships (including at work) because there is no app that can lead to success in family and work life. Therefore, impatience lead most people to depression, suicide, drugs, alcohol, dropping out because of feeling that they are not making any positive impact. Thus what many people need to learn is patience in life, relationship, work etc.
- Technology : we live in a highly technological world which has made it difficult for our normal social lives . Facebook, for example, has made many people to have more visual friends than real life friends. The reason is the good feeling we have in engaging in social media especially when we get likes, upvotes and new friends, we feel good due to the release of a chemical called dopamine in our brain. In some cases, some people send the same hello message to 50 of their Whatsapp contacts in order to get some good response and when they get dislike, downvote or someone unfriend them , they feel very bad. The relationship with this type of addiction and addiction from smoking, alcohol , drugs and gambling is that the same type of chemical Dopamine plays a great role in feeling good which leads to addiction. Important thing to note is that technology is not bad ,what is bad is children being allowed to use smart phones and social media as companion when they are growing (still emotionally and mentally fragile) because they will always abuse it- for example chatting during meal, not interacting with family members due to constant chatting on social media , and reduction in outdoor activities due to video games and smart phones-leading to failure at school and social life.
- Environment : Most kids that have no social , communication and community life experience face a more difficult situation in the business or corporate world. Reason is that our corporate world cares more of the numbers (financial growth) than human emotions or life- leading to many people not being able to succeed at work. In some cases, people do go to business meetings (or dinner with friends ) with their mobile phones and constantly checking on messages-forgetting that they can build a better relationship through genuine human interaction and showing personal interest in their fellow human beings.
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Many people fail because they are not determined and persistent, even the broken clock is right twice a day. Even if you fail you should gather the lost momentum and try again with a different approach. But never give up.
Good point, hardwork and persistent are good reasons, thanks for your comment
I'm gonna have to add lack of morals to that list.. it's like monogamy and commitment have become a thing of the past
wow, good point indeed, I agree with you-thanks for your comment.
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Failure is a matter of perspective. If set backs are viewed as a lesson or stepping stone to becoming the person you want to be or living the life of your dream, then even "failure" can be a great blessing with something valuable to extract.
If, however, you hold a core belief that you are worthless and can never achieve anything, then you'll never be successful because those energetics will always, always, always manifest in physical reality.
Perspective is part of subconscious core operating system, which is programmed in every moment from (and maybe before) birth through parenting as well as through institutions like schooling.
Most people aren't even aware of their core operating system, and thus have no chance of evolving past the programming.
For those who do recognize their dysfunctional tendencies, it takes conscious effort to turn them around...which can be really, really, really hard if your nervous system is hardwired to tell you you're a failure. The rotten core belief will find a way to sabotage even the best intentions.
The current mainstream system produces way more broken, unhappy, unhealthy people than satisfied and successful people...which gives us parents that raise more broken, unhappy, unhealthy children, who become broken, unhappy, unhealthy parents and on and on and on.
The current mainstream system does not work for programming successful children to become successful adults. The mainstream system itself is a failure of epic proportions.
We need a totally different way to raise empowered, conscious, capable children. We need a revolution.
I know that an alternative is being lived @gardenofeden. We're being the change we want to see in this world to rise above a failed system.
wow you are correct @saramiller a wise comment indeed..wish you a blessed week
Well said.. I feel the same way about the fast paced world and impatients... Everything now a days is so "I needed it yesterday" .. That it is hard to feel successful no matter how hard you try.. It has led me to 2 failed marriages...
True, like microwaves.
Good example... Microwaves made food prep quicker but at what expence..
I don't know. Apparently there is something but I don't know how it works. 😀 😃 😄 😁 😆 Thanks again for sharing...and don't forget to keep steeming OK?
sometimes you fail , sometimes you succeed ! The most important thing is keep trying and pray for your success. Allah is near.. He will always accept your prayer.
there is nothing wrong with parents loving their children (it is natural and good) however, over pampering , making a child feel always special...
An interesting concept that I've been reading about lately points to a common error in raising our children. We err in praising our children's natural ability instead of their effort.
For example, we might say, "You are naturally gifted at math. You're lucky to have such a great gift for numbers." What we ought to be saying (at least equally as much, if not more, "Your hardworking and study has really paid off for you."
They may be naturally good at something, but praising it reinforces a mindset of 'You're already good. There's nothing you need to do to continue being good.'
As I look back on my child-rearing, I see that I have used some of this, myself. While not terrible compared to some of the other things we can or do to our kids, I can definitely see how praising innate ability as being counterproductive.
Good point, I agree with you..
Had time while I lay here blogging in bed LOL! Another Great post my friend ! When we learn from our mistakes , this is how we grow and become better and stronger for it ! Most of us need to crawl before we can walk , fall down , brush yourself off and start all over again ! Its the way of the world ! Have a great day and never stop steeming on ! Good night @charles1 ! 👍👍👍😴😴😴💕
Good point from you...thanks for your comment and sleep well
You have identified some good points. I'd like to add that often people fail because they talk about their plans before they have put things in place, and someone steals their ideas, or sabotages them. My grandmother used to say to hold your ideas close to the vest.
Good point @iamai however it depends isnt it? you can also talk about a plan and get a solid advise on how to proceed from great people.
Also some people easily get discouraged when they fail and that can be a big issue.