RE: It's not about hate...
I have a perspective on this that I don't think you will agree with...
once that attack has been made on my property, then I no longer have any reason to attempt a rational compromise with that group.
If I can successfully use force to destroy them, that is the logical choice.
If I can not do so, I must use game theory to decide how to survive the situation.
But it will have been made clear to me that these people are an enemy, and to be dealt with on that basis.