RE: When Geeky Nerds Marry ...
LoL there are seasons in life. I've been more geeky and less geeky at different times of my life.
Motherhood was a big distraction. Also, I didn't aways have access to as much tech as I wanted.
Give her time :-)
Oh also, my husband currently has a job that we can't discuss in great detail. I've actually been surprised how many people are in this situation and how they find it a bit smoothering to their geeky relationship.
We sometimes discuss principles vs details.
It would look something like this ...
What a day! My brain is fried! The new equipment is going to demand a new approach to the database." ... (uh of course I would make up a of a technical design example that I'm not 100% sure is a thing. I'm more user interface usage ... but .. let's go with it... He's not around to ask :)
Oh man! Did they realize this before getting it? Or is the tech just moving that fast?
It's a known issue and some groups have already delt with it so I've got something to go on.
So that's the general back and forth of it. It's normal stuff that happens in every environment but at least he's getting to express his frustration in terms that I more or less understand.
And I'm more or less getting to yammer geek.
Another way to be geeky is just be geeky about the way you talk about everyday life. It takes practice but if you want to find your once geeky wife, be geeky on the field of life where she's playing. Like @mitchmiester did to me. I mean sticky notes all over the wall can be an artsy fartsy trait as much as a nerdy thing. It largely turned geeky because of what he did.
Of coures, it's possible that absolutely none of these things apply to you ... but thanks for triggering ideas for future posts ;-)
I think we all change a lot as we age. It is fun to see all the differences. At this point I'm really fine with how people are. I can talk shop with one of my engineering buddies on many things, so my wife is able to be herself. Thanks for the tips though.
This is really great news and a very awesome plan!