My wife kind of laid claim to be a geeky nerd when we were first dating with stories of taking courses in RPG programming and such. We could kind of talk about statistics and analysis of variance in process control and other geeky topics. Kind of the old bait and switch though. Sigh
Oh, well things change, love remains.
LoL there are seasons in life. I've been more geeky and less geeky at different times of my life.
Motherhood was a big distraction. Also, I didn't aways have access to as much tech as I wanted.
Give her time :-)
Oh also, my husband currently has a job that we can't discuss in great detail. I've actually been surprised how many people are in this situation and how they find it a bit smoothering to their geeky relationship.
We sometimes discuss principles vs details.
It would look something like this ...
So that's the general back and forth of it. It's normal stuff that happens in every environment but at least he's getting to express his frustration in terms that I more or less understand.
And I'm more or less getting to yammer geek.
Another way to be geeky is just be geeky about the way you talk about everyday life. It takes practice but if you want to find your once geeky wife, be geeky on the field of life where she's playing. Like @mitchmiester did to me. I mean sticky notes all over the wall can be an artsy fartsy trait as much as a nerdy thing. It largely turned geeky because of what he did.
Of coures, it's possible that absolutely none of these things apply to you ... but thanks for triggering ideas for future posts ;-)
I think we all change a lot as we age. It is fun to see all the differences. At this point I'm really fine with how people are. I can talk shop with one of my engineering buddies on many things, so my wife is able to be herself. Thanks for the tips though.
This is really great news and a very awesome plan!
Chin up, friend. We have all been victim to the bait and switch as well ;)
It happens - part of life I guess, lol.
And I'm thinking that most of the time the switch is needed. When people don't adjust to life's curves, we end up with juvenile adults that can't be trusted to make community benefiting decisions. ... you know the kind that benefits a partnership vs a pair of roommates that might not have to live together next month. ... Just say'n :P