Hello, it's @brightex again. I will be sharing this story I titled "control that temperament". I hope I touch one out of many lives who read this.
Once upon a time, there lived a very handsome, talented, creative and extremely bright little boy. A natural leader, one whom everyone loves to be associated with. But he had a very bad temper and was also self-centered. Whenever he got angry, he usually said and most times did very hurtful things. He had little regard for those around, even friends and as such naturally had very few.
As he grew older, his parents became more worried about his personality flaw and pondered long and hard on what to do. Finally, the father had an idea. And he struck a bargain with his son. He gave him a bag of nails, and a BIG hammer and told him “Son, whenever you lose your temper, I want you to really let it out. Just take a nail and drive it into the boards of that old fence behind the house. Hit that nail as hard as you can!”
The hammer was mighty heavy and of course, those weathered boards in that old fence were almost as tough as iron, so it wasn’t nearly as easy as it first sounded. Nevertheless, by the end of the first day, the boy had driven about 40 nails into the fence (Wow, that was one angry young man!) but gradually, over a period of weeks, the number dwindled down. Holding his temper proved to be easier than driving nails into the fence! Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He felt mighty proud as he told his parents about that accomplishment.
His father was very pleased and responded "As a sign of your success, you get to PULL OUT one nail each day you don’t lose your temper even once.”
Finally, after many weeks had passed, one day the young boy was able to report proudly that all the nails were gone.
At that point, the father took his son with him to take one more good look at the fence. “You have done really well, my son,” he told him.
“But I want you to take a look at the wall and notice the holes that are left. This fence will never be the same again no matter what happens from now on. Saying or doing hurtful things in anger produces the same kind of result - a scar. It won’t matter how many times you say you’re sorry, or how many years pass, the scar will still be there. And a verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. People are much more valuable than an old fence. They make us smile. They help us succeed. Some will even become close friends who share in our joys, and support us through the bad times. And, if they trust us, believe me they will also open their hearts to us. That means we need to treat everyone with love and respect. We need to prevent as many of those scars as much as we can.”
Don’t you think this is a most valuable lesson? And a reminder most of us need from time to time? Truth is everyone gets angry occasionally and at some point in time but the real test is what we DO with it.
If we are wise, we will spend our time other than being barriers in relationships but building bridges.
If you are touched and feel this should go round the world, please resteem.
Thanks for your time!