To girls who broke their hearts...

Posting this today because I’ve been hearing a lot of hearts breaking and women weeping may it be in secret or wildly wailing.

You must have heard this from everyone but it’s the truth “YOU DESERVE SOMEONE BETTER!”

REALLY SERIOUSLY! It may be hard to believe since you thought that, that person was perfect for you and genuinely believed everything is gonna work out…. But reality is, it didn’t and now you have to face it. You can either be the distressed ex who can’t let go and focus on what went wrong, the what if’s and if only’s, making out scenarios of a happy endings or you can be the woman who thought about it and realize that there is no point in dwelling on the pain and choose to be civil and moved on.

Everyone deserves to grief, believe me I get it. But if your grieving is taking away his centimeter of respect for you or is making you sound like a mental patient to others, then you better have amazing friends who are gonna smack reality back into you.

You see, it’s such a waste of a wonderful woman if her spunk and spirit is killed by a specie much less of a guy who got smitten by the first woman who rubbed herself on him or was afraid of real commitment and just wanted all the fun and demanding time in the relationship. I hate seeing girls distressed because their man is acting strange and I hate women justifying their men just because he promised to change for the nth time. Don’t you see the cycle... You forgive him, he hurts you… He asks forgiveness becomes all nice and good then hurts you again, I warn you, in psychiatry it is called battered wife syndrome.

I know that there are things worth salvaging and that people make mistakes but one must know when enough is enough, if everyone knows he has cheated and you still turn a blind eye then I think you need to get your brain checked. Wasn’t this suppose to be a relationship? Where a man and a woman SHARE COMMON feelings, thought and affection decided to be together, wasn’t this suppose to be a symbiotic coming of two people helping each other grow? So why on earth do I see women slaving themselves over their men even before they are married. Why am I seeing girls allowing their boyfriends to beat them? I mean SERIOUSLY, you don’t even need to pack your backs… YOU ARE NOT MARRIED TO THIS PERSON You have every right to say goodbye! And DON’T YOU DARE TELL ME YOU CANT LIVE WITHOUT HIM! Hello! World calling to blind-woman-trapped-in-the-wrong-relationship you lived a good number of years before this guy came along! HE IS NOT AIR! You can survive without men!

He might be the most stable thing you have right now, your main source of love or you just need companionship but you cannot run away from the facts. Someday it will catch up and shatter your “world”. You cant make someone your world, explore the horizon or better yet screen guys well and not give in to every dude who shows their affection. As for me I’d like to live by these “mantras”:

1. Right guy + wrong time = WRONG RELATIONSHIP, wrong guy+ right time= WRONG RELATIONSHIP, wrong time +wrong guy = WRONG RELATIONSHIP : simple math don’t push it…

2. What he is today is the guy you get tomorrow. Don’t assume that he will transform to the perfect guy and change all the bad things about him just because you are in his life… unless youre some miracle.

3. If he has left, hurt or cheated someone before, there is no assurance he wont do it to you. Fly at your own (heart’s) risk.

4. If he has cheated on you, that’s a big sign telling you “ HEY IM CAPABLE OF CHEATING” assess well before deciding your next step.

5. Unless a guy tells you that’s what he meant… never and I mean NEVER ASSUME! We, men have several languages.

It is not a crime to be single, there is no deadline to the wedding chapel.

There is no point in getting in a relationship if you have no direction, if all your vision for your relationship is limited to today, tomorrow, next month with you and him right in the middle of it all then you better get some depth in whatever it is you are trying to have.

Im saying SET LIMITS. A relationship shouldn’t eat up who you are, if you lose yourself or who you used to be in a relationship and just get carried away by the raging hormones and emotion then you better stop and think:

What happens if he leaves you tomorrow?

Im not bitter or against love! I am all for love…

Im just venting.

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