RE: Forgive & Forget: When To Forgive & When To Let Go
Reading your post brought me to tears. Sixteen years is a lifetime for some. I can't imagine.
I am so sorry for the situation you have been dealing with.
I have to admit when I met my oldest daughter for our first lunch before I was nervous... I felt as if I were going on a first date. Was I wearing the right pair of jeans? Did my hair look good? It was so nerve-racking!
The thing that really upset me as this turmoil went on was one of my daughter's in-laws told her to just forget about it. Just let our relationship go. All I could think was.. if this were my daughter-in-law or sister-in-law or whatever the relationship was, I would tell her to talk to her relative. Make peace. Sort it out. It saddened me that someone who didn't know me or the entire situation could be so brutal and harsh.
My dad always told me... in every argument, divorce, etc there are three sides to the story. His, hers and the truth in the middle.
Thank you for understanding. I dont talk about it much. Mostly because it is negative and I try to avoid negativity, and partly because I am a little embarrassed about it. Seems like most women have great relationships with their parents...
Good for you trying to make it right and fix things! I think that is important! If they won't reciprocate that and make an effort to make things right, then at least you can rest easy knowing at least you tried.
I cant believe someone would tell your daughter to just forget it and give up on the situation. Especially an in-law! How callous. I know I would also encourage any of my kids' spouses to go and fix things. Life is too short to have negativity and dispute, especially within family.
Your dad was quite right, definitely three sides to every story, and no single person is ever to blame.
I think some people like drama though. Some people seem to thrive on bickering and strife. I have some in-laws that are constantly doing this amongst themselves, and it really seems like they enjoy it in a perverse way...
Sad that this is where society is heading...
True...