Hi! I just stumbled upon this post. I'll give you my personal response from my personal experiences. I'm very much of an oddball and generally tends to be the exception to the rule. I'm also obsessive with standards, quality and efficiency and I'm not the kind of person who look myself in the mirror and think I look good despite most people telling me otherwise.

My personal experience is that I can connect with a women while having ZERO sexual interest. In pretty much all of those cases it comes down to "not my type". I have great female friends that I love to hang out with and even share lots of personal things with and I genuinely enjoy hanging out with them. But I may not have sex with them for a million dollars. It doesn't mean they are ugly. There's evidence to the contrary. It's just they don't fit my obsessively specific range of taste in women.The kawaii moe type of girls is something I adore but it never gets sexual. You could bring me a super cute kawaii girl and I'd be jumping to hug them but there will be ZERO sexual attraction. It's just how my mind works. Some types of beauties doesn't interest me sexually even though I'd love to cuddle with them.

There are also neutral cases where I think the girl is a bombshell but still not interested enough to go after and let the girl decide if she wants to make a move or not. In both cases I deeply care for the women involved but do not pursue them sexually. I've been around with girls since young age and I've always been very comfortable with them. I also have many gorgeous cousins which a lot of guys drool over. I've also had a devil's advocate smarty pants attitude for as long as I can remember. Probably all that has some effect on my odd situation.