Yes! Steemit Is Great But I Still Have A Regret.
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This past month has been a rocky ride for me. I've experienced both highs and lows, moments of joy and that of extreme sadness.
No matter how happy one is, if sadness comes along it diffuses the happiness you've felt and takes over your mood. It is now left for you to find a solution.
You could go for the temporary solution which is finding the right balance between the sadness you feel now and the happiness you once felt thereby putting up an 'everything is OK' face for people to see so no one bugs you with questions .
Or you could go for a more permanent solution which is looking for your happy place where you don't have to pretend you're happy because you are truly happy at least for the period of time you are doing what you like.
I made Steemit my happy place and I'm glad this community accepted me even when I was rock bottom. In order to get away from my sad part, I often find myself going through posts and conversing with people for hours, sometimes late into the night.
This addiction has started to affect my studies but I'm able to balance the two because I had a life before Steemit and I won't like to throw that life away.
It was exactly one month ago yesterday I broke up with my girlfriend and as days go by, its dawning on me that that was perhaps the greatest mistake of my life.
Prior to the break up, I was a confused boy trying to find myself. I was having trouble balancing my life with my academics and my relationship. It was overwhelming at that point and to me, I just had to let one go. So I chose to end things with my girlfriend.
Fast forward a week after the break up, I rediscovered Steemit and this great community has given me answers to many questions that have been bothering my mind. I now feel much better about myself and gradually, I'm begining to discover myself.
So many failed attempts to get her back since then, and yes steemit is great but all I feel now is regret.
if only I had been a little bit more patient.
I'm sorry you had to go through a difficult breakup. However, please remember that you broke up for a reason. It means that you two were up to a point, incompatible. This incompatibility won't go away, even if you get the girl back.
In the (very, very rare) case in which a breakup is really just a mistake, both will want to get back at some point. If this doesn't happen, the incompatibility issue really exists and will create further problems in the future if you do get back together.
You will need to wait for the oxytocin effect to fade, which takes at least a couple of months. Try to cut off contact with your ex for at least two months. You can re-visit the issue after that. If it's meant to be, two months won't make a difference. Do it and I promise you will feel better after that :)
Wow!
I really appreciate these words of advice @elemenya i think we just met today, ztest right? Will check out your blog and follow you after this.
I'm going to try out the two months thingy but its going to be quite difficult considering the very close proximity. But you raised very important points and i believe they are valid also.
Thanks a lot for going through my post and for the thoughtful comment.
Steem on!
Yes, we have met there and actually, this is how I found your blog!
I know it will be very difficult but you have to keep strong; tell yourself that you will deal with it again after the "deadline". In the meantime, focus on yourself, do things that you like, learn things, improve yourself... build a relationship with yourself first and after that you will be able to view your relationship with other people in a better light and make better decisions/choices. Been there, done that ;)
I'm new, not an addict yet but I can see how it could get addictive, even more so when you're living in sadness. Glad to hear that steemit community was able to make you feel better and help you maybe move on.
It could be quite addictive especially when you set targets for yourself. You just find yourself glued to the site and always coming back.
Thank you.
Life is always made of ups and downs. Otherwise, it would be too boring, won't it? :D
I agree with you. If we had everything easy, there are days we won't even want to get off the bed because there would be nothing to live for.
Thanks @lemouth for your contribution
Not at all to sound cliche buddy, however, your happiness isn't really an externally controllable thing. As far as your ex, you're young enough (my daughter is in college) to have more great experiences & relationships ahead of you than in your past, on top of the fact...you seem to be mature enough to ask yourself hard questions that actually lead to better answers. Keep your head up buddy. Not out of some sort of positive mental attitude technique but because, that's the only way your eyes will be open to new opportunities & see forward 🤔😉💯
Wow!!!
Can't believe I'm just seeing this comment.
Thank you so much, I really appreciate it.
No problem Brother😎