ONE CHRISTMAS

My Elder Sis, Married Woman, she didn't come home this Christmas.

Younger sister, that one is a married Woman too, she didn't come home this Christmas either.

I vexed, was telling Joy Silas when I called her post-boxing day that when I get married, Jane wouldn't go home for five Christmases, back to back, was kidding though, she got the jerk and laughed, i actually just wanted to make her laugh - but here's my point,

The House is quieter now,
Most times I'm in my room reading or writing, or alone with my thoughts, any time now and I won't be here as I am now.

Last born Bro will be the only one left at home soon, that one too, he is always at his own corner pressing phone, no, not one corner, his own corner...

These days I see my Dad and Mum chatting a lot, thank God for them, sitting before the TV set watching movies together, gisting and teasing each other, misunderstanding and reunderstanding themselves again by their self, between you and me, they've only got each other as the most permanent person in their lives now.

Not my Elder Sister,
Not the Younger Sister,
Not Me,
Not my Younger Brother...

Before you become a Father or Mother, you are first a Husband, a Wife, a Couple,
Before the kids, you had just your wife, just your husband
One day, the kids will all be gone, starting and running their own families, and you will once again have your wife and husband as a very permanent feature in your life.

I've seen Men and Women who anytime they have issues will instead of making peace turn to and seek solace in their children

I've seen Women who allow their kids come in between themselves and their Husbands,
Who allow the kids become their Husband,
Who stop all intimacy and romance with their Husbands and focus all their energy and attention on the kids, lavishing all their love and emotions on them, allowing motherhood to drive a wedge and gap in between her and the husband slowly but surely.

Fathers
Mothers
Parents to Be
✔️ Do not build your life around your kids alone
✔️ Never replace your Spouse with the Kids. It's a killer of Marriages
✔️ Do not neglect the love between you and your spouse because of the now found love between you and the kids,
✔️ keep the fire burning in your Marriage, go on dates, keep the kids with a trusted baby sitter once in a while, pursue each other,
DON'T JUST BECOME PARENTS, REMAIN LOVERS

Hear Hear,
After the children leave Home, it's crucial that you've maintained the friendship and romance between yourself and your spouse, that you still know each other and like each other.

Don't be that couple that are only together because of the kids, because when the kids grow up and leave, what then holds you together?

As much as is possible, no kid should be your best friend while your spouse is still alive.