Steem Basic Income Giveaway (First Impressions)
"Don't judge a book by it's cover"
Haha, I couldn't resist starting off with the theme of last week's SBI giveaway! This week's theme is first impressions, we've all done it to others, we jump to a quite first impression based off a person's looks or their appearance. Often (at least for me), this first impression is nothing more than a collection of our accumulated experiences, unconscious stereotypes and prejudices to date. So, it often means that our first impression is wrong. Unless it is right, in which case we tend to remember it and add it to our list of confirmation biases.
For this week, I want to do the reverse. I'm asking about what sort of first impression do you think that you transmit to other people, and if you think that it is right or wrong. It could be anything to do with your public character or something to do with the way that you look.
My First Impressions
My public character is initially friendly but slightly sarcastic. Or at least I think that is how I come accross. It sometimes leads people to think that I really like chatting and being around people (if they encounter the friendly part), which isn't totally true. I enjoy talking to single people (single, as in one person not unmarried...), but as soon as the group increases in size, I want to go and jump out the window. In fact, most of the time, I will just silently leave. However, if they encounter the sarcastic part, it can lead people (especially when English isn't their first language) to think that I am nasty or mean, which isn't true at all!
My appearance is Asian (I have Chinese heritage), but I grew up in Australia with mostly non-Asian friends. Which has led me to forgetting that I look Asian. This hasn't really been much of a problem, except since moving to Europe, where mixed couples (my wife is European-Australian) are much more rare than they are in the ex-colonies. Unforunately, this has sometimes led to some annoying conversations and situations like people questioning my nationality or being left behind at ticket queues when my wife and children go past and I'm stopped as a random stanger...
Rules
- Upvote if you want, it increases the payout and then I can hopefully sponsor more people.
- Resteem is NOT neccessary, but the more people see this, the more the people will be likely to be sponsored.
- In the comments, tell me about the first impression that you think others have of you.
- I will be sponsoring as many people as this post pays out in SBD. Also I will kick in at least the required amount to round up to the full number. Winner is by random generator after a shortlisting of quality comments!
Steem Basic Income
One of the first communities that I came in contact with at the beginning of my time at Steemit was @steembasicincome. As a beginning author, Steemit can be a daunting place. It feels like you are posting into an abyss with no ability to grow. Steem Basic Income gives you a guaranteed vote on one post a day, thus giving you a small but cumulative over time support to your account.
With this post, I want to help sponsor people who might not even have the spare 1 STEEM that is required for registration. So, when this post pays out, I will sponsor people depending on the payout of this post. Basically, I will round up the SBD payout from this post and then that will be the number of people I will sponsor. (So, if the payout is 2.3 SBD, I will sponsor 3 people).
Last week's winners
Last week paid out a bit under 1 SBD in total, bad timing as most of my trail votes missed it. Anyway, seeing as I got a whole heap of decent answers, and I have a couple of extra STEEM at the moment, I will sponsor 2 shares. Congratulations to:
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I start out as the grumpy old man. That gives me the option of living up to their expectations if need be. haha But if I like them, I pull a rabbit out of my hat and all is good...
Hah, the benefits of low expectations!
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Thank you so much!!
The first impression that I give is usually completely different than who I am in reality. I have bright blue hair and two half sleeves of tattoos, and I am very small and look much younger than I am. People have often told me that I'm completely different than what they expected when they first saw me. They tend to assume that I'm a 23 year old antisocial dropout punk. I am indeed into punk music and I have a pretty anti-corporate philosophy in general, but otherwise, I'm not really like that. In reality, I'm 30 years old, and I have two master's degrees from Ivy League schools, I'm a really hard worker, and if you have a conversation with me, I tend to come across as articulate and very friendly. I like to have conversations with all sorts of people. On paper I look completely different than the person I am if you pass me on the street. I just march to the beat of my own drum. I feel no need to fit in with people who are considered high class or whatever.
Wow, two Master's degrees! That's impressive, what are they in?
I guess if I saw you in the street, I wouldn't have expected that either from your description!
They're in history and philology. :) (I know it's easy to make grand claims like this on the internet but if anyone wants to fact check me on it you can message me on Discord and I can send you my LinkedIn or something. I just wouldn't link it in public comments here.)
I had to look up what Philology was, but it sounds really interesting. Often in our historical field of music, we need to verify archival sources as well, well... I don't, I'm only a performer, but the I'm sure someone does! And it was only recently (in the last half century) or so, that so many works have been rediscovered and/or found to be wrongfully attributed.
I can imagine that most Philolgists have blue hair and tatoos, well, at least, seeing as you are the first one that have "met", you are now the defining stereotype for me!
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Yay! Thank you! Thank you @bengy!
It was my lucky day after all!
As to first impressions, apparently I look like someone who wants to hear your life story. All of it and right now. Although that seems to be tapering off, and I'm glad of that. But does it mean I look less friendly now? Random people still smile at me so I must be okay?
Did people come along and just start telling you all sorts of things? That must have been trying at times, to always appear interested!
Yes, that's exactly what happened. People, mostly women, would just come up to me and tell me things. Personal things about their life, their children, their relationships. Like I was wearing a 'therapist' sign or something. Trying at times? Oh yes. And puzzling. But I'm a nosy little thing so most of the time it was pretty interesting. ;-}
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First impression of me is a big guy funny guy... and thats where it ends...
A lot of people I find don't put Funny and educated together, they say sometime later as if in shock "wow you're really intelligent", "gee thats a smart thing to say" as if it was never expected.
They can't seem to accept that humorous, comedy, psychology and quantum physics could go together in the same brain LOL.
No one of us is more thaN one thing, but it is interesting to find out from others as to "How we appear, how we occur to them." Getting external feedback is very educational.
A pic I remember from various "First Impression" and "Don't Judge a Book by its Cover" insights.
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Good theme of this weeks Basic Income giveaway, I'm actually a bit self conscious of the vibe I give to others.
Often I try to be professional and 'to the point' when in my work environment, as I'm conscious not to wast other people's time, so I guess that would be the first impression I give to others.
But in reality once I get to know someone, I'm actually very happy to wast their time with jokes and random discussions. Some people think I'm a bit weird like that, but that't just me being relaxed around the people I am more comfortable with.
I'm the same at work. In some orchestras, I am the quiet and hard-working one... whilst in others, I'm much more relaxed. I guess it is also something to do with familiarity as well. So, different workmates have different ideas on my work persona!
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The first impression, probably tall and friendly.
Ah, but is it true? Although the tall is hard to disguise...
Of course it is true, come and meet me for the first time :)
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First impressions of me are very different to what I am.
I can be very shy to begin with - especially if the situation is an unfamiliar one to me. As I'm short, I try to walk straight, and I know how to carry myself despite the fact I'm overweight these days.
As a result, people sometimes think I'm aloof and even a bit snobbish. This is made worse by the fact I don't always remember the niceties that everyone else is expecting!
I grew up in a very Scandinavian community. When I was studying Finnish a few years ago (not part of my ancestry), I learned more about the people and suddenly I realized how Finnish my community was - not simply Scandinavian. Finns - and other Scandinavians - have a few odd habits, such as not necessarily looking at the faces of those they speak with. They also don't always say the words "please" and "thank you" - but it is almost always heavily implied! To the degree we almost don't know that we didn't actually say it!!!
BTW - you forgetting you're of Asian ancestry... I had a very strange experience a couple years ago when my parents and I were looking at property in central Washington. At one point, we accidentally strayed onto the Yakama Indian Reservation. I was really shocked by the level of depravity I observed there - like a ghetto, but not. Anyway, as we left the Reservation again, I looked down on my arms and felt genuinely surprised that they were not brown! (I do suspect some native ancestry, but it is not yet proven.)
Yes, it's true about the Finnish part! I have done Finish friends and also have worked there in occasion. They can in general come across... I guess gruff might be the word? Not unfriendly, but not immediately friendly?
I think that's a great way of saying it! Not immediately friendly. And that was probably true in my hometown as well. But once you're in, they're loyal to you. A bit distrusting if you go away and come back again though.
I was surprised when I saw the original charter for my Lutheran church - in Finnish, not Swedish as I would have expected. My own ancestry includes Swedish, Norwegian and Danish. My uncle, however, is Finnish - likely with some Saami heritage as well. When I look at pictures of people like Kimi Räikkönen, I can name several people from my hometown that he reminds me of. It was humbling to learn how different my town was than I'd always thought.
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people apparently think I'm scary which I've heard from numerous people who think i "hate" them when instead i was trying to be friendly, although those encounters have throttled me into smiling whenever I meet someone new or using a friendly gesture such as a handshake or wave.
Ha, a scary friendly! That's a odd contrast of intention and reception!
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My first impression to people is this quiet, innocent, God loving young guy, but am a guy on the inside, I hustle a lot, though a bit of a nerd and an introvert I've come to appreciate peoples reaction to everything of my actions.
I also love God and godlike character, a bit of worldly things too.
A firework hiding behind a calm exterior!
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That is an interesting question. One I have thought about before.
I think a good a portion of the people that see me think I am a Jack-Ass. My natural face expression is what I and some others may deem an Asshole face. You know, we all seen them, a person you just look at and without hesitation say to yourself, yup that guy / girl is an asshole. I also have a very distinctive natural walk and stance that most would consider cocky.
Of course then there is another portion that think I am shy and place all the natural assumptions on me that come along with that.
The above is based on First Expressions without much interaction. I would have an entirely different answer for first expressions of those I have spoken to.
Ha, funny that both the first impressions are wildly different. Just goes to show unreliable it is...
Very true ....
Ahahahaha since I am a guy could not use the RBF so I am happy that they came out with the
Resting Grinch Face .. LOL !
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