How to control negative emotions
Harmony and positivity a weakness?
There are a lot people that dislike when you are aiming towards positivity and harmony. Some even call this stupid, weak and more. In the end it is a personal thing. I am not a psychologist so leave this up to experts to tell me if i am good, bad or just rubbish.
However I will not let (or at least try!) anyone manipulate me towards anything. I am not planning to let anger dominate me - I have gone through such phases in life as well as on social media. Wherever you are there are these people called Trolls - there are different types of them that make you angry. Most of them can not stop trolling. Sometimes it is better ignoring them as falling into the anger trap (depends on your own judgement - not what other people want to tell you is right!).
Control your anger
Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. It can become unhealthy when it flares up all the time or spirals out of control. Chronic, explosive anger can have serious consequences for your health and your state of mind.
There are certain techniques how to get anger under control - everyone also on steemit can learn to keep their temper from hijacking their steemit life.
1) Explore what's behind your anger
Your childhood and education plays a crucial role to identify where anger problems stem from. Past experience include watching family members scream, throw things, hit each other. So traumatic events and also stress can make you more susceptible to anger as well.
2) Be aware anger warning signs and triggers
Usually there are physical signs of warning before you explode. Anger is a normal physical response. It is important to learn about your own personal signs that your temper is starting to boil. Knowing this helps to manage anger before it gets out of control.
3) Learn methods to cool down
Going a bit into detail on this point which is an important one. This can help you to act quickly to deal with your anger before it spins out of control.
- Take some deep breaths. Deep, slow breathing helps counteract rising tension. The key is to breathe deeply from the abdomen, getting as much fresh air as possible into your lungs.
- Exercise. A simple walk around the block is a good idea to release pent-up energy. This help to approach a situation with a cooler head.
- Use your senses. Take advantage of the relaxing power of your senses - e.g. listen to music, cook something etc
- Slowly count to ten. Focus on the counting to let your rational mind catch up with your feelings. If this does not help - do it again
4) Give yourself a reality check - ask yourself AFTER you cooled down!
- How imporant is this issue for my life?
- Is it worth to get angry about it?
- Is it worth to ruin the remainder of the day ?
- Is my response appropriate to the situation?
- Is there anything I can do about it?
- Is taking action worth my effort?
Sources: Helpguide.com, Psychologie Heute, Psychology Today, Pixabay
Nice advice for us to control our emotion! :)
Facing your fears helps as well. A lot of our anger comes from having lots of expectations and not knowing how to deal with it when things don't work out. If we face our worst fears, we are already ready to deal with the worst so we can work whole heartedly towards the best.
This is a very good point, never really did this but you are right, thanks for the guidance.
It's just what I do X-D thanks for the post.
Thanks for the expert advise!
Another useful one, @uwelang. Meditation can handle a lot of those points for you at the same time too. It's a great tool for self-reflection, to raise your awareness of your own emotions, and to eliminate stress from your life by learning acceptance.
In these trying times, this is just what a lot of people need. Social media has made it easy to get your word out quickly, and in turn, it also made people's fuses way shorter. A single word could spark a long argument, and people tend to forget if it's worth all the stress. Good of you to write a reminder, buddy!
Yeah - we all need to step back sometimes judging if it is worth to let anger manipulate you indeed - thanks for the feedback mate
Vielen Dank für das gute Stück!
I have become so good at doing exactly this. It took me years of working as a psych nurse to learn it though.
so you are a central point of contact for advise - glad to read :-). Not easy to realise, challenges every day - thanks for reading and commenting @hilarski
I have developed an emotional scan for my Asyra called Dynamic Success scan and it finds your hidden stoppers and a lot of so called anger isn't anger but fear. very interesting scan and I use it for people all over the world as this anger emotion is very destructive unless used positively. With people around me I call it if directed against me " using my back to get up" or a 'psychic dump of energy". Now I can deal with it and other people it has been a very big game changer for people.
That sounds interesting mate
Yes.... controlling anger is the art of emotion. It is taking time to learn it. :)
oh yes indeed - time and patience
Best thing to do is to surround yourself with positive people:)
I've been trying a lot to be more positive, happier myself, and caring toward others the last year. I lived selfish for long enough :)
control of emotions is 100% the exact opposite of what is needed and is actually the cause of most of the problems. once you control and effectively strangle your real feelings - they don't vanish, they just go undercurrent within and wait until they are 'allowed' to surface or are just triggered in a situation where the control lapses. the way to work with imbalanced emotions is to PROCESS them in private, safely - by allowing them to come out as sound. The result is a real peace, instead of a control that can itself lead to dangerous situations and which does not feel good.
i explained something of this issue here: https://steemit.com/emotions/@ura-soul/there-are-no-garbage-emotions-all-emotions-are-needed-and-need-to-be-felt-to-be-known
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