What is love, and what is love actually?

Today I decided to speak a little about Love, because one of the things that theory REI explains, with help of a good understanding of three minds, is also a love (yes, a true love).

Unfortunately there is around 170 psychological theories on this planet, which should also affect what love is, and provide a description for it. The love actually is something that exist nowaday rarely. It can happen only to two people who accept himself on the first place and each other on the second. REI theory explains love on a very different new way, which also has not been explained before. Instead of focusing on a group, REI theory has a simple approach for individual as for group. Trying to describe one individual with the knowledge from theory that provides the same results for all people therefore would not work. Having a different characters of people, taking in consideration their state and including contradictory attributes of the three minds, gives a whole new view on the individual.

And because the theory REI offers the simplest and really the most perfect explanations what love is, I would give You some examples how those three minds see our common world (the laws, ideals, norms, that are commonly spread) and fight for his own will to (pre)dominate others. But let see first what is "love" these days:

• Love is when someone fulfil the wishes and sacrifices himself for loved one.
• True love is unconditional. Love is attention and complete sincerity.
• Love is feeling of suffering, when the loved one is not in our presence.
• Love is giving and receiving.
• The only true love is parental love to his children.
• Love is just a consequence of the fear before loneliness.
• In true love, the quietude and arguing do not exist, there is only passion and happiness.
• The one who really loves, is also jealous. This is the only authentic love feeling.
• We can only love ourselves, the others are only a proof that we deserve love.
• The love means that you have not yet meet the right person, which will enchanted and inspire you! Some day it will happen to you too, you just have to believe.
• You can truly love only once in a life.
• When you meet the right person in your life, this changes you totally and you become a better person. But even the biggest love ends after a few years, than it goes only for a habit.
• The true love is asexual … the sexual love is illusion, the rest of the big dreams, which reality walks over them.

Maybe after reading this you'll ask yourself, what the hell is true love then? I have ask a lot of people, what is love to them, and they say it is sensational feeling at the beginning with someone, but after some years, this feeling ends and it becomes a habit to be with someone. Because you do not have enough background of the theory REI, I will explain only simple principles. I will start with the two concepts, that are in this age of living understood the same; to fall in love and to love. There is a remarkable difference between those two concepts.

To be in love (or to fall in love or to have a crush) is happening when we fall in love or we have a crush for some person. It is this sensational feeling at the beginning of relationship and has nothing to do with true love. The one that is in love is actually under a lot of different body chemicals. In theory REI we explain this as the minds lost their objectivism, or with a more friendly words said, they stop opposing one to another. This is the state of the mind that lasts from 6 months to a year, with the people that are first time in love, up to 2 years. But this is really rarely so the best information is; to be in love takes up to one year. That is the state of our mind when we can see even a devil as an angel, when we write poetry but are not poetic in ordinary day, when we are a lot less sick, the others can't disturb us with anything, even the people who we dislike, became for a short time a good people. When we are in love, we feel butterflies in our tummy, don't need a lot of rest and we always get up rested, no matter how much sleep did we take. To fall in love is our greatest lie that happens in our head. So it means we lie to ourselves. And this lie can be much more destructive for us, when we end a relationship. But when we are in love, it means that we conquer another person, write him or her songs, bring him or her flowers, open the door as gentlemen, get dress like ladies and put more make-up on face and none of these things is hard to do. Only while to be in love lasts. Let me say only this, more we have some expectations from person that we fall in love with, more powerful will we feel this sensational feeling. Does it sounds familiar to you? :)

To love means something totally different. When this sensational feeling of having a crush at the beginning of our relationship ends, can happen two things. The first is that the relationship can progress into true love or the second, the relationship ends. As you have already discovered, most relationships ends. But there are also a lot of couples that stay together, but not because of true love, but because of the habit or tradition (Wedding), and they can live a quality relationship, but still without true love. The truth is, that we do not know anymore, in these age of living, what true love is and that is also subject to our everyday stress, arguing with others, disappointment, sad, jealousy, envious, competition with others, divorce, lack of well being, happiness, luck, satisfaction, health, and a lot of many other situation that one person can be in. Because we do not know what love is, we recognize a lot of conflicts when we grow up, and think that what we feel inside, means what has world us learned about. All of this without any though, that this maybe is not real. So what is actually a true love? For this answer to answer to you, I had to write a lot more than these few lines of writing. But let me give you a rough description. The true love is, when you accept your partner as it is, with his positive and negative sides. You are aware all the time, that you are in the relationship with the right opposite character (yes this is what theory REI claims - natural law) than yours, and you understand that some things will be quite different for your partner. True love is also giving your true honesty, it means you can say to your partner anything about yourself, and you will never be ashamed of (connected with the self acceptance), and that the partner can say anything about himself / herself to you. Both must self-accept themselves and both must accept the partner as is. There is no place for ideals, habits, expectations and other strange things that we don't like on them. But every love started when we fall in love (and this is inevitably) or shorter when we have crush for someone, so how can we also overcome those falsely play? Everyone is having those feeling inside, that when we do something for other, we feel better. Well, here with theory REI, this is not quite true. Especially not when we fall in love and with this sensational feeling, when we do not feel anything too difficult to do, want to please and fulfil the loved one. Then it is important to give only what is real you and to accept only what you really want. When we fall in love, there is pretty much deviation from our real us. We do a lot of things for person that we love, that in the regular day we won't be doing. That is also the reason, why people think that the partner has changed. This is not because the partner has changed, but because of our own expectations and lies, that we're by ourselves believed in, in time of having a crush. It is important to not explain the partner by our thoughts or to judge his actions. It is important that we do, what we are really prepared to do our entire life, to act as we are, to give as much as possible truth about real ourselves. Nobody is perfect and who knows that, gives his truth easy to someone else. Our masks cannot be real, even if they are so easy to put on, when we are in love. This way will be also transition from falling in love to true love less difficult.

To experience true love, everyone by himself has a lot of work to do, because of the false knowledge which we absorb all from our birth; from parents, society and the globalism, which represents that everything is the same for everyone, and that we only do right, if we do as the media reports and as we read in the newspaper, is on the TV and others say. The true love is ability, which pulls with it a lot of positive human characteristics features and requires on the first place, that we think with our own head. The easy way to understand this is when we think this way; if we want to experience a true love, we have to meet hierarchical criteria. But those criteria are only positive characteristics that one should learn; for example: no jealousy, no envious, no greed or excessively competition with others and so on – the features called acceptance. I will represent the difference between acceptance and unacceptability of one person (psyche) in one of the following topics. With the modern world we have summarised the world as it should be. But with 98% of people being unsatisfied and living his own negative characteristic attributes, happens two things; a great progress of community (when we have a society) and a lack of satisfaction and true values (also health) for individual. Therefore it is urgent to return love to humanity and to teach people word about love!

The theory REI does not only explain what true love is, but also provides explanation for the rest of the values, such as friendship, family, happiness, relationship, marriage, health, honesty, to be in love (to have a crush), explains human behaviour like selfishness, egoism, to take care of, to love, to help, parental love, envious, jealous, enviousness, excessive competition, greed, fear before things, all kind of phobias and even disorders like autism, Asperger syndrome, stuttering, where homosexuality does comes from, dyslexia, etc. I would talk about the dyslexia next time in the specific topic, because there is already available solution that REI theory provides, the method that totally eliminates dyslexia with people that have it. I will attach all of the tasks that dislectics have to learn, and describe the course.

I would like to give you some insight what the theory REI is capable of. Keep in mind that the theory is rather new and there is only one article about method that removes dyslexia, proven to work with theory REI. As with all of the new theories, there is only a time when theory REI will be identified as valuable. Theres is also a knowledge and a book that is available for everyone who wants to know more about the theory REI and want to get rid of the “modern world scenery” characteristics and acting. Also coming up in one of the next topics.

Read how Instinct, Emotion and Reason has evolved
Read about important attributes of the REI minds
Read more about Theory REI
Read introduction of Theory REI