I had to do some unlearning, too; growing up with a mother who could find the "speck of dirt" in almost any situation... and then the world had better "snap to, and make it perfect."

In a sense, that was its own kind of drama.

Some people genuinely have temporary setbacks and can use help. I have to be pretty mindful of knowing the deeper difference between (for example) a one time situation where someone is broke due to medical bills and situation where someone is perpetually broke because they don't take care of their health and don't have insurance. Self-created? Or one-time incident?