closer
inspired by the movie "closer"
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do we all secretly want to be hurt? do we all secretly want chaos and drama in our lives? do we all secretly reject happiness and long for the things that we can't have? can we live peacefully and happily with all that we have? can we live without drama? the human character is so complex. we are all different. you and i have different wants, needs, values and experiences. and couples are attracted to each other as a result of a certain combination and permutation of their different wants, needs, values and experiences that works for them. |
he wants stability, loyalty and commitment in a relationship.
he's very loving, honest, giving but most of all, loyal.
he calls and texts. he makes time for her.
he is her constant partner.
she wants romantic gestures, growth and security in a relationship.
she's very tolerant, open-minded, vital but most of all, dedicated.
she gives him space. she encourages his goals.
she is his loyal companion.
everybody has a dark side. we're no angels all the time.
my flaws? where do i begin?
i crave emotional reassurances. it's not that i'm insecure.
but i'm hypersensitive to any slight change in one's mood, behavior and action.
so when one doesn't respond enthusiastically, my mind starts wandering.
of course, if i trust the person, my mind won't wander so far.
but i would still feel a bit let down, when the heat cools down,
and when the zeal and excitement fade.
but this is a relationship. it can't be fresh all the time.
there is bound to be up and down.
and i accept that.
but that doesn't mean i don't need the emotional reassurances.
because once every blue moon, l needs some TLC,
like a trip to paris for the weekend or two tickets to a gig.
i'm the kind of person who's up for anything.
i am definitely a people-pleaser.
i rarely exhibit my mood swings in front of other people.
i want to be strong for myself, and strong for others.
but sometimes, even kenya rains.
no one is perfect. and i can be quite hard on myself.
yet i'm optimistic about life and humanity.
because i believe that we can grow to be more giving.
i believe that we can grow to be more selfless.
i believe that we can grow out of our ugliness.
but herein lies my own contradiction.
i love chaos. i love drama.
my life reeks of irony.
because i think that we can only learn from chaos and drama.
we will grow more genuinely.
we are shaken to our core.
i want my core to be shaken.
i am not used to stability.
i am not used to loyalty.
i am not used to commitment.
but perhaps, this is exactly what i need.
a break from being stepped on.
because i've learned that no one can step on you without your permission.
maybe i'm no longer who i was.
or maybe i just transcended and became more mature.
at times, i long to be a person who knows what to want,
truth is, i know that i still have lots of time for the drama and chaos in the future.
but for the time being, i'm happy with stability, loyalty, and commitment.
it's a valuable lesson for me.
and i can grow from this experience.
Different desire but mutual need the blood of one another and have been set in this life
you know there is saying, the grass on the other side is always greener. are you living a happy and peaceful life? and do you think if there was pain and suffering and chaos, life would be more adventurous? trust me its not.
good question. no, I live a very cluttered and abstract life, buoyant enough to live but, volatile at best. i'm better off though, and i know it. i don't long for an adventurous life because i believe it is the life i already lead. pain and chaos made me who i am, and i'm proud to be who i am.
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https://steemit.com/poetry/@mrblu/poem-the-power-of-deception-faces
We all have our standards of our dream partners. But whatever it is, if you love a person, just love him/her, don't own them nor change them.
That last part... and learn how to trust. That's the hardest part of being a grown human being. We are more fragile than children over the subject. It's impossible to trust someone fully without risking being hurt. And we avoid pain at all cost. Sometimes even if it means not being fully fulfilled with life or partners.
Great post as usual. I love your work. Check my latest if you can https://steemit.com/poetry/@tezmel/i-remember-her-part-one and share your thoughts please :)
Actually human always love drama in any situation.
wouldn't be life without it.
I think an important role in this life is stability, loyalty and commitment in a relationship.The stability of life was created by constantly create internal changes as an answer from cycle changes external. The answer is to be in the form of reaction fit because if not, the changes that you do to answer can be precisely in the form of a problem alias happened gap and instabilitas. In conclusion, the reaction of the match contained in the courage to leave the majority of the norm long inadequate and instead, creating a new normal more.
Loyalty, if there question "what thing can not be bought with money?", maybe some people would mention love, happiness,or time as the anwers. These three things indeed can not bebought money, but there is one more thing that sometimes escape the attention of many people, namely loyalty.
Commitment, i think " when you are willing to give your time and energy to something that you believe in, or a promise or firm decision to do something" --Cambridge Advanced Learner's Dictionary.
Commitment is something that makes a personwilling to leave everything valuable in order to meet the cll of his life, even though the price that must be paidnot less and the terrain didn't light.
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@honeybee upvoted
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quite interesting buddy
I could see myself and my partner in the poem, all the way! Beautiful poem, Honeybee! I am looking forward to moreeee! Following you right away. Thank you so much for sharing it.
Its her Birthday on Thursday and I was thinking of gifting her a book with a poem as a note. Now I know how to express what I feel :)
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Great words! Thanks for such a nice sharing, My upvote for you @honeybee