Hello friends steemians changing our personality is something that we have all wanted, and even proposed, sometime. This may be due to several reasons, but the main one is that some feature of our way of relating to the world we do not like.

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Before talking about changes, it is necessary to point out the condition that makes them possible: the personality does not have an immobile structure. It is also necessary to dismantle a myth: it does not become immobile with age. What usually happens is that with age the patterns associated with a certain trait are usually greater, so the resistance to change is usually too. We understand then the personality as something dynamic, capable of undergoing various modifications: either from an intentional process or propitiated by circumstances.

During childhood and adolescence it is much easier to change our personality. This is because it has not yet been fully configured. In this way, all influences exert a greater power over it.

What do we mean by personality?

The personality, or personality structure, is the set of psychological traits that define everything or a good part of the universe of feelings and cognitions. This structure configures the behaviors and the habitual way of relating to ourselves and to others.

* Other connotations of the personality concept have to do with the representation that the individual has of himself and with the way he presents himself to the world. From this perspective, personality is the "mask" we teach to others, a strategy to hide some internal aspect and improve social acceptance.

* In fact, the epistemological origin of the concept "person" goes back to ancient Greece, where it meant mask. There, in the theater, the masks were placed to represent the different personalities imposed by the actor.

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Changing our personality can become a necessity

As we advanced in the introduction, the years can hinder the change in the same way that the roots have become solid. However, this does not prevent that changes can be made at older ages, although many people believe that at their age it is impossible to change.

* The phrase "I am that I am like that" or "at this point I am not going to change" will not be strange to us. This may be partially true in some cases, but most of the time changes in our personality can be made.

* In fact, personality modifications are a therapeutic necessity for those who have a personality disorder. These people have been structuring a series of behavioral patterns and psychological mechanisms that cause deep suffering to them or to those around them.

* This suffering is usually translated into anguish, anxiety, aggression, loss of self-control, dissatisfaction, etc. Interpersonal relationships are also affected by this type of disorders, which, in addition, are often accompanied by difficulties of adaptation and social integration, with the consequent isolation.

Changing our personality is possible, although it is not a simple task

Modifying the personality is not easy: dismantling and replacing these behavior patterns with more appropriate ones requires finite resources, such as motivation or time. On the other hand, we think that a pattern of behavior - a disposition - is established with the help of the repetition of a certain type of behavior as a way of solving similar situations. For example, there are people whose behavior patterns have been structured using escape or avoidance by system.

If these people know that they have to face a situation in which they do not know how to develop properly, they react by avoiding it or escaping if they have not been able to anticipate it. This is so, even knowing that, in the medium or long term, this way of acting will harm them.

Thus, the result is that, avoiding or fleeing from these situations, these people manage to avoid suffering. However, in the medium or long term they suffer, if possible, more. They will feel incapable of leading a normal life.

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Abandoning old psychological mechanisms to change personality

A change of personality can suppose the abandonment of these pathological mechanisms, being progressively replaced by others more suitable. In the previous example, these people must try to face these situations in a determined way. Thus, they will be able to verify how, in many cases, they are capable of overcoming them. In addition, it will increase your confidence. The person then learns to confront and discovers that he has the power to influence personal growth.

In addition, personality changes are easier to achieve when the person directs his attention towards very specific objectives. In this sense, it helps, and much, to determine how or in what the change will manifest itself (concrete details). Of course, a psychologist must provide psychological techniques or instruments that help you achieve the proposed objectives.

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