It's a pretty complex- and sadly common- issue I deal with quite a lot in my coaching and counseling practice.

Most of the time, I've found the behavior can be tracked back to hyper-critical or hyper-supportive parents. One sets up a latent anger at having anything or anyone try to control your life, but without any tools to express feelings in a healthy manner (because it was probably unsafe, in childhood). The other sets up a sense of entitlement that leads to someone becoming sullen and "difficult" when they don't get their way, because they were taught to expect to always get their way.

Thanks for providing these insightful articles.

Bright Blessings!