RE: My story so far with a covert narcissist
This is heartbreaking. I am glad you are sharing this and that you are seeking away to disconnect from this relationship and the abuse. Love should not feel this way. It is obvious you are a thoughtful, caring person. You deserve a partner who will lift you up and appreciate these qualities.
It is funny that your wife is involved in charity work. I worked in philanthropy for a looong time. So many donors and employees exhibit the traits you describe! I have worked in multiple offices where the “leaders” acted like your wife. It was TERRIBLE and that was only work!! It can needlessly break down your sense of confidence and self worth and it makes you question your abilities. It is a horrible feeling at work and I would imagine so much worse to feel that way at home.
hugs to you. You are doing the right thing and making a good choice about how to move forward with your life.
Thank you for reading and caring @dfinney. It's a hard time right now, but, the hardest part is finally coming to terms with the idea that she can't actually love another person, even her immediate family. that it was just an act this whole time. I will be making another post today - God willing and the creek don't rise - because I am meeting with my therapist this afternoon, and I need to take a very bold step. but it's gonna be hard.