Mindshift With The Honeys #10: For Every Problem There Is A Solution

Are we ever going to be problem free?
I do not do drama. I absolutely can't stand it. I think most of us are this way. Does that mean drama is never going to happen? Or course not! We will always have issues and problems arise in our lives! That's okay. It really boils down to how we react to it.

Jamie, my husband (@eventspeaker) and I are always talking about that ninja thought. When an issue arrives, it's that first initial thought, that ninja thought, is what we need to get the reigns on. Wrangling that little sucker and controlling how we emotionally initially react can really help us to come up with a solution so much faster. I'm not saying that you are never going to be irritated, or to stuff your feelings away. It's very healthy to feel. We should feel. Acknowledge that feeling, and then quickly ask yourself, 'What Do I Want?'. This is called a pattern interrupt. (Coined by I believe Tony Robbins). Interrupting the pattern and focusing on the future of what you want, rather than what happened. This stops the feeling of what happened, and gets you working towards what you want.

Someone asked me the other day, 'but, what if you just lost the thing you wanted'. I said, 'Maybe the Universe has a better plan for you. Maybe it's time to let go of that, and think about the things you liked about what you just had. Most of the times, there were things we liked, and didn't like. Now is the time to dream big, pull all the things you liked about it, and how you could improve it.'

How Do I Find Solutions?
Solutions are my thing. I personally like to come up with solutions. Do you ever have those people in your life that just want to complain about things? I have found the best way to help those people is to not help them. I will ask, 'How can I best serve you right now? Do you want me to just listen right now? Or do you want me to offer you solutions?'. And sometimes, I don't even ask, I just listen. Usually, they think they want the solution, but, they really just want to have that thing to complain about. But, I've gone side ways here!

So, how do you find solutions to every problem? First off, breathe!! No, seriously, breathe! That's a great start. But, after that, ask the right questions! If we ask, 'why does this always happen to me?', that question is going to keep you in a funky loop of beating yourself up. Your brain is trained to give you an answer when you ask a question. So, asking 'why does this always happen to me?', your brain is going to make you the bad guy for it 'always happening to you'. So, asking the right questions is crucial. That's why I love the question, 'What do I want?'. It's such a great mind shifting question. The other question you can ask yourself is, 'what am I grateful for?'. Again, this completely shifts our focus. My other favorite question is, 'how can I ....?' If you go to sleep on a good question, chances are you will wake up with an answer that will seemingly come to you out of the blue!

Let me know how you best like to overcome problems!! I'd love to hear from you!!

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