From a slave to a Master chapter # 58 - three practical tools of reality creation

A Memoir

While you remain on the road, letting go of any attempt by your mind to actively search to be realized, or a spouse, in particular, there are three main tools that would propel you forward by attracting to your life only the appropriate events and people.

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Breathing

Thanks to its simplicity, this ancient wisdom is more valid than ever before in order to attain the purpose. Take the shallow and quick breath that until now you have accustomed yourself to exercise and replace it with a deep motion of air into your self while using your consciousness to accompany the air throughout your entire body. As an imaginative analogy, you can see yourself connected to your TrueLove by a long stretched rope whose edge you cannot see. With each deep breath that you inhale you pull the rope to you, bringing your One a small step closer to you.

It is not the place here to detail the chemical changes that happen in your body with every breath taken, or to explain how the oxygen transforms the genetic structure of your DNA; what important though is that you understand that conscious breathing does create inner changes within you and cleanse the way for your True-Love to reach you. And Like with any change the new habits will also take their time in establishing a long-lasting deep and conscious breathing.

It is probable to assume that throughout the process you will doubt yourself whether or not you breathe correctly or perform the exercises as recommended: “by the book”. However, such thinking is nothing more than torturing yourself for nothing because there is no one recipe for breathing “rightly” and each person has a suitable way that fits his/her body. You may at first prefer to lay on your bed and practice your breathing there, and only afterward to try it while walking; or vice-versa, first you will change the breathing habit during your daily routine and later in your room alone. Be attentive to the factors that cause you a feeling of comfort and effortlessness for those signal that you indeed place your full consciousness in the process. If all the above seems to you very simple you are right. It is. Do not complex the experience with superfluous thoughts and unnecessary doubts.

From now on this breathing practice will go with you and with time will appropriately become a second habit which will not change even after you will have manifested your TrueLove and will experience together an unfaltering happy relationship. The deep breath is the best connective tool to sublime life of your own creations and there isn’t any other tool as easy, simple, accessible and free, as this one.

The simplicity may in itself become an obstacle if it would cause you to disregard the validity of the breathing or to denounce the possibility that through simple breathing one can really make such a significant change in one’s life. Such thinking would indeed impede your progress. Therefore, it would be imperative that you would identify the root belief that caused it. Do you still believe that you need to work hard for your dreams to manifest? Do you not yet believe that there is something grander than the reality that is preserved by your limited sense? Can you not accept the natural axiom that TrueLove is the fundamental heritage of any human being regardless of their race, color, sex, status, and any man-made camouflage?!

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The emotion

Your feelings are the second tool that you have at your disposal in order to accelerate the process. You can harness your natural ability to feel to create the desired reality of your likings.

You surely have oftentimes heard the suggestion to live life from and through your heart, to listen to your intuitions or to block the endless mind chatter; not for nothing love is symbolized by the shape of a heart; many books and workshops could teach you how to reawaken your emotional body and how to become more intuitive. Nevertheless, it is very clear that you have that knowledge within you and although it sometimes is hidden you can easily pull it out by yourselves. Every human being regardless his/her life-circumstances is capable of feeling per-se, be it a feeling of anger, envy, joy or happiness. The cruelest and most vicious mass murderer is absolutely able to feel something no matter how detached from reality he has chosen to be. The feeling is indeed a question of choice.

To speed up the manifestation of your TrueLove you should, therefore, consciously feel. Once or twice a day, whatever suits you, dedicate several minutes – but be cautious, no more than a few minutes each time – to quiet any thought or inner conversation that you may have and feel your own private TrueLove. Do not make an effort to imagine how he/she would look like or under which circumstances you two would meet each other or any other specific detail. Remember, this is a feeling exercise and not a mental one. Espouse a neutral attitude towards the outer reality and feel as if your TrueLove is standing by your side. Then observe –

• How do you feel?

• How certain are you in the existence of your TrueLove?

• Are you sure beyond any doubt that your TrueLove will soon come to you?

If contracting emotions run through your essence, like feelings of fear, anger, shame, regret, or anxiety – then there still are some blocks that must be tackled before anything else is done and mostly before further exercises are taken.

At some point expansive feelings will grow and flourish - felicity, joyousness, physical pleasure, longing, satisfaction – and those will then be transmitted “in the direction” of your TrueLove to signal your own emotional and mental readiness. This simple exercise, if perseveringly and patiently done along with the rest of the inner work, will greatly quicken the arrival of your TrueLove to you.

A very crucial supplement to that exercise – once the intense emotional focus for those few minutes is over, it is very important that you bring your attention back to the now moment and to the immediate reality in which you live. Furthermore, do not think about the emotional exercise at all, and as much as possible as soon as it comes up, release any thought that revolves around the subject of your exercise; totally cease thinking about any matter that is connected to your TrueLove. Especially don’t bother your mind with questions like: “when will I meet her/him?”; “how will it happen?”; “what should I do to make it happen?” etc. Keep breathing, keep focusing on the now moment.

Obviously, it will not be easy to monitor your thoughts all the time. The nature of the love life is the most preoccupying issue for the majority of humans but I cannot stress this enough – it is very important that you don’t impede the flow of the creation with your thoughts. Gather all the self-discipline, all your psychological strength and, at least in the beginning, force your mind to wander elsewhere. Although there will be moments when you will catch yourselves thinking for some time about your romantic situation, do not be discouraged. Simply acknowledge that mind stumbles and bring your focus back to the now moment. In time and with the training you will develop self-control until it will become second nature.

The emotional exercise is extremely potent and will allow you, perhaps for the first time, to use the enormous power that resides within you to affect the energy and to alter your reality. If you be persistent and devoted the results will show up rather fast. But remember – keep it simple!

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Celebration

A third, necessary and important tool that ensures good quality of life within the kingdom of love (and outside of it as well) states that one should celebrate each and every moment of the daily life. Simply put, the decree is live in joy.

It may take time until your personal work would present large scale results. You may need to appropriately exercise deep breathing, entice relevant emotions and become patient until your personal TrueLove will come and spin your head. Throughout the process, you might find yourself traveling to distant locations which would amaze your mind, or you would experience weird and unexplained phenomena – all for the noble purpose to reach Realization. Nevertheless, until those expected joyous moments arrive and imprint your daily routine with exhilarating and satisfying elements, you will have many other days, regular, routine and dull in which nothing would seem to happen to you. Precisely in such times, you must insist to maintain your focus in the present and not to wander in your thoughts to lands of dreams and fantasy. Not only that, be determined to make each moment a feast of exuberant sensual perception and utmost contentedness. Each experience in your reality should be made by you an expression of gratitude to the fact that you live on earth.

For example, in the morning when you wake up deeply breathe the air and bless the singing bird that fetes its own existence; when you make your cup of tea slowly sip it while noticing how new and different its taste is; State "I Exist". Can you make a routine of that?

There is no point anymore in doing things incidentally. Refrain from reading the newspaper while you dine with your beloved family; be present in the event and give it your full attention. If you find yourself disliking the blind date you were set with, don’t wander in your thoughts, wishing the evening to be rapidly over. There is a reason why you created that experience and only if you are fully conscious in it you would be able to receive the lesson; enjoy the delicious cake, examine your date’s taste in clothing (but do not judge!), ask questions, learn how they perceive their journey towards TrueLove, and be there, in the meeting, and not elsewhere. After all, you already decided to continue the date so it would be pointless to torture yourself and the poor them with self-beating thoughts and miserable feelings.

To sharply sense the meaning of “celebrating life” you can decide that once a week you would create a fresh, never known before, experience in your life. You do not need to climb mountains to achieve that, nor to dance naked in the middle of a street. Rather, choose something from your ordinary life. If you smoke then pick a day once a week and make it a non-smoking day. Celebrate that day; notice your feelings, the difficulties, and satisfaction. Or, decide that today you would buy for your spouse a large bouquet as a token of your love. Celebrate the experience of the buy: observe the reasons that led you to choose the certain flowers that you picked, inhale their smell and watch for the comments of the people on the street while you pass them holding the large bouquet. Then, when you get home, enjoy your spouse’s surprised reaction no matter how much they like/dislike that surprise. You did the buying for yourself, to celebrate your life. Any happiness that you managed to cause to others was a bonus.

Celebrating life can also befall while doing the more mundane chores of life like cleaning the house or working as a cashier in the supermarket; it all depends on your intentions and mode of thought. Every action can be approached in a way that would enhance your connection to the fabric of life. Have you tried sweeping the floor while dancing to your favorite songs? Or why don't you change the order of the seats around the dinner table? Role-playing, in general, is an efficient way to increase the vitality of life and hence its festive features. Small changes in your lifestyle will allow you to feel better every time you encounter an occurrence in your life.