SEX, COURTSHIPS AND MARRIAGE.
Sex generally is a topic people tend to shy away from discussing especially Africans as they mostly see it as an abomination or just an act to discuss with/act our with their partner in private.
Courtship on the other hand has solely been placed on the already burdened shoulders of religion to mete out rules and regulations guiding them.
Marriages these days are based on selfish desires, greed and most times, peer pressure!
The one thing that unifies couples together in marriage or courtship better than money or any other thing is sex. why then is sex an issue that should be discussed in the 'dark'?
While courting, most religious bodies (that's the only set of people we listen to these days) will tell you to avoid sex with your partner and keep the bed undefiled till marriage. Do marriages where sex isn't involved in courtship stay stronger or better than those that have sex during courtship? No! While courting, it is important to do everything possible to know your partner at all levels, sex inclusive
If you keep your bed 'holy' till marriage and discover after the wedding that your sexual orientation and chemistry aren't in sync what would you do? Would you give him or her a divorce that could have been avoided in courtship? Remember that ending a relationship is way easier and less expensive than getting a divorce. I'm not saying religion should be pushed aside in courtship, I'm only saying we shouldn't be slaves to religion and pay for our shortsightedness later
HOW IMPORTANT IS SEX IN MARRIAGE?
Some men believe that once they are married, they can leave their wives unattended to and start having sex with single girls out there. I'll keep saying it, sex is the most unifying action in marriage, the more you have sex with your partner, the more you guys get closer and become a stronger unit overall. Sex in marriage is not only for procreation, it should be for pleasure also. Believe it or not, more than 50% of broken homes is as a result of lack of/inadequate SEX!
WHAT CAN BE DONE?
Ladies, please note that the fact you're married doesn't stop you from being hot/sexy. The moment ladies marry, they resort to being unattractive thereby making the husband seek sexiness elsewhere, please try to look as good as you looked when you guys met. And yes, do not just stay stuck on the missionary sex style, be adventurous and explosive, do lots of sex styles and positions as this would help you guys stay together stronger. Remember, the more sex you have with your partner, the more united you guys get. This isn't to say that other facets of relationship/married life should be ignored, sex is the most important of them all.
What is your take on sex, courtships and marriage?
I think i have to write this topic in series, What do you think?
The opportunity for courtship is being abused on a daily basis just because we try to make relationship work through sex.
But the fact is that relationship and sex are two different things that should only be linked at the appropriate time.Premarital sex doesn't make any relationship stronger, it kills the relationship especially when the intention is not for marriage
5 out of 100 survive this no sex before marriage, then what of the 95% that are divorced, unhappy in such union, clearly sex is the main reason for high rates of divorce.
Premarital sex if frowned at in Africa. Many relationships these days wont survive if we go back to the traditional settings where sex is sacred.
You (@adore-eu) might still be having such view anyways but the current conception of sex is beyond the 'sacredness' ascribed to it.
Sex outside marriage is worst for me. Anybody who does that does not respect the institution called marriage.
@sweetestglo-eu
very nice post dear... love this topic as i do a lot of such educations in my health page ( food clinic) on facebook... i like this line...
"While courting, it is important to do everything possible to know your partner at all levels, sex inclusive"
I have gotten a lot of messages from guys asking me for help that heir wives is very angry on their wedding night ( no sex till marriage) because of the size of their penis...as such they need something o get a bigger size... or drug to make them stronger... as such i do a lot of sensitization on same subject...
Thanks and will love to read more from you... it is true...sex forms a main part of fun filled marriage... and any couple who has issues related to sexual rigidity... should seek medical help... and not be shy about it...these issue might happen to both male or female..there are ladies who hate sex and this can cause problems at home if their man loves sex... it may be hormonal as such proper medical attention is needed ... thanks once more dear...keep steeming hot!
Nothing is important enough to justify sex before in the life of a Christian. As a matter of fact, experimenting on sex makes people sexually unsatisfied when they are married.
Our fathers and mothers who did not experiment on how their spouses was sexually active before marrying them, enjoyed better marriage than what we are seeing today.
The statistics regarding divorce rates is as a result of sex, there by not knowing your partner's sexual powress...
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nice post but sorry i dont share your idea of sex before marriage.For me, ibelieve that when in a relationship with a man, i should pray hard for that relationship to cuminate into marriage. So if i am begging God to make my relationship work, how then do i engage in an act God forbids?He hates fornication. I am happy and proud to tell anyone that i finished my university and NYSC, got married and i was still a virgin.I dated four guys before marriage but the moment they talk about sex, i end the relationship. If you get married and your partner knows nothing about it, then teach him/her what gives you pleasure but practicing with differnet men who would not marry me? Hell no.I like your post , its very ok but you asked for my opinion.Lastly, anyone who has sex outside marriage bond has no christ in him and should not be forgiven.
Your an inspiration to women. Mehn you too much
Our society has derailed so much that young boys and girls indulge in all forms of sexual immorality in the name of courtship, but the fact remains that marriage was instituted by God and its Him that sustains it. Therefore getting into anything outside the manual and standard of its builder/founder is a risk.
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But the practice of sex before marriage is what I will support. It's totally rebellious against our God's commandment on fornication.
I will get back and vote again when my vote will count for you, pls