The psychology of sophistication: Why do people disappear from our lives?

I have read for some time a scientific research that discussed the reason why the wise man is the main settler of the planet, and there is no one competing with him on this small blue homeland

The research was published in Scientific American under the title "The Most Invasive Species of All". The researcher concluded that the dominance of the rational person on the planet is due to two main reasons. The first is his ability to manufacture advanced weapons of fire. Human beings with strangers who do not know or close them.

It is true that at the moment everyone is cooperating with everyone to crush everyone, but it was different millions of years ago. It was the vanguard of cooperation with outsiders that made the wise man the dominant master on the throne of primate at the top of the tree of life.

But what if the feeling is turned with with whom we cooperated and we knew them from friends to strangers suddenly? Or, more precisely, what if they disappeared from our lives?

Recently, a new term, "ghosting," has emerged in psychology and is used to refer to the disappearance of some people from our lives without warning or warning!

There is no need to elaborate on the term because it explains itself, and I guess that most of you have touched this thing in real life, has passed the situation of one of them disappearing and, especially if it is the narrow circle in his life.

What is the reason for this withdrawal? Why do you suddenly hate a friend even though you loved him? What is the reason for turning your feelings toward your girlfriend from being positive to being without reason? Why do some people withdraw from our lives without a sign or even a warning?

No more phrase what the reason, let's put a point here. Let us begin by knowing what really happens in such situations.

They crossed the line

In every human life there are many red lines that threaten anyone who tries to cross them. Ironically, however, most of these red lines, which the author has sworn to, have made it hard to believe that no one will cross them, becoming too wrenching to cross, pass and trample on them.

All this will only give rise to feelings of anger and indignation, but turning into a ghost - and the disappearance of some of your life will not be the result of crossing this red line in everyone, but as a result of the crossing of another line is not red. Line of the opposite type has no color never, can be defined as a line "distance" and not a color line!

Let us imagine from a lofty perspective that every person has three circles around him: the first of them - the farthest - is for the unbounded friend, the one with whom the relationship is limited to the phrase good morning or evening; the second is dedicated to the dear friend who is often the owner of a light, Heart, and when I talk about the lightness, I mean the one who releases his jokes, which almost bursts your pulmonary artery to the intensity of her wrath.

In the third circle, everyone thinks that the closest relatives and dearest dear and this is completely wrong; because this circle should be empty of anyone! If there is someone who dared to cross the line and stay in it, it is only you!

The reason why some dear people suddenly disappear is to enter this circle and cross that line that should not be crossed, because this area is not reserved for anyone. Therefore, it is natural that all who enter it and turn into a ghost of being essentially unprepared for reception.

A very similar situation to stand in front of the panel of ingenious beauty, Kalmonaliza or virgin rocks, for example. From the distance you will see beautiful, and when you approach more you will begin to see the color paleness, and when you progress more, you will find some gaps, and when you stick too much will not be able to see at all.

Your friend turned from Aziz to a ghost back because he crossed a line and entered an unprepared area to greet anyone, getting too close. Therefore, it melted automatically as soon as it entered and no longer had an effect. It may be more surprising than painful, but now the cause of it has become clear to you.

If you become one of your life, you know the reason, and if you have a dear friend, try not to make it cross the line and do not cross the line also so as not to melt in an area not eligible for housing.

From love to hate

It is now clear why some are disappearing and disappearing, but what can make some people not only monsters, but enemies also hated? We hate them and they hate us and maybe they get nervous to go much further!

The explanation behind this hatred lies in the importance of the person, because you often want to love him more, but he has crossed some lines that are not qualified to cross, and he disappeared from your life, and you lose him because he did this! It can be said that this hatred and the desire to tear that person out of an old longing for his love more, but it has failed and thus turned to hate.

Perhaps Mustafa Sadiq al-Rafi'i, a strong proof of the credibility of this speech, when he said in one sentence that: "True love is the one that carries a bit of hatred."

If you become one of them and do not care about him, this indicates the superficiality of the relationship and the feelings that were exchanged between you. But if this disappearance turns into "controlled" anger and hatred, it is evidence of an old desire to establish a close relationship with him. In turn hate to blame him.

The solution lies in the castle

A weak man is one who does not possess a castle of his own, or may have one, but he has given his key to all, so that they enter and leave whenever they want without asking or even asking permission.

If you wanted to know the mystery of the mighty, it would be that they were isolated in their personal castles they built without doors or locks, because they built them on the grounds that they were only them! So it is impossible for anyone to enter or even approach them!

Whether they are friends, relatives or family. These are definitely loved, loved and loved, but this does not give them permission to enter that area that is not reserved for anyone to enter. Anyone who tries to enter will be threatened with becoming fully dissolved without warnings or notices.

Did you know that there are some people wishing their parents to die because of their desire and their determination to enter this castle and demolish them on their heads! It was necessary to hate them because they are trying to tear the person through the demolition of the only place where he finds himself in it! This is for parents, so how about a friend trying to enter? How can Habib try this too?

Respect the distances between you and the people, respect the castles of others, keep your own places easy for anyone to find, places that form the support and focus of your personality in the arena of life in all its branches. You may have to be isolated and introverted in that safe place you created, but it is positive and not negative. Entropy is a point of strength rather than a weakness, and perhaps that is what I will discuss in an upcoming article.

Let me remind you here of the words of the giant Dosto

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