Yes, most people want us to remain the same just to protect our relationships with them when in fact we are growing and learning and they are staying still. I try to just be a fluffy ball of sunshine for a while and hope to push them forward a little but if it doesn’t work, oh well. I have one friend who really brings this out of me. I used to get all whiny with him, and now his whining brings out a ridiculous amount of positivity thst he can take or leave. If he insists on whining, I won’t see him for a month or two. He’s getting better.