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RE: Where do you give your energy?
I used to have a really bad habit of getting frustrated with friends and continuing to stay friends with them even though they would make my gut turn when I would have to hang out with them (it wasn't always like that, I did like them at one point). I didn't think I had any other option because they had been around for so long. Now instead of focusing my energy on how I'll get through the couple of hours I have to spend with them, I have just closed them off from my life. I've moved on and learned that my life is no different with them in it than with them not in it and I FEEL soooooo much better. I can put my energy elsewhere now. Sometimes we put energy into negatives things we think we can't let go of, but we can!
Yes, most people want us to remain the same just to protect our relationships with them when in fact we are growing and learning and they are staying still. I try to just be a fluffy ball of sunshine for a while and hope to push them forward a little but if it doesn’t work, oh well. I have one friend who really brings this out of me. I used to get all whiny with him, and now his whining brings out a ridiculous amount of positivity thst he can take or leave. If he insists on whining, I won’t see him for a month or two. He’s getting better.