What to do when you don't know what to do?
Recently, my friend complained: “Chinese New Year is around the corner, I feel that I have not earned anything from last year.
Every day tired and lost, work in a job that has no future, don’t know what I should do, everything is not going well, bad character, no ability, no skills, every day dazed and confused, has been living in pain …”
I said: “Since you are confused, why not find a way to change it.”
We will always have a lot of confusion in life, especially between 20 and 30 years old, not able to find a suitable job, not able to get into a good university, not able to choose the course we like, not able to earn money, not able to afford to buy a car, don’t know where to start...
A variety of situations are emerging, in the end, all the problems can be finalized into 2 aspects:
1) Don't know what your goal is
2) Do not know where to start, lack of planning
So how to solve this?
You can list the things that are bothering you now, and then think about how to solve them. What resources and information do you have at the moment to take advantage of? What is the first step for this?
Then arrange your time to do it.
Find out what you are best at. Think about whether you have done something that gained appraisal during your childhood. What you good at is generally things that you tried many times, gaining all aspects of feedback, and you enjoy doing it. Can you think about how to keep this thing going, and whether you can continue to make progress as your goal?
What steps are needed, and then schedule your time to do it.
If you don't know what you're good at, try writing down everything you want to do, write it down on a blank sheet of paper, and then score them from 1 to 10 according to what you need the most now, and how much do you like it. Pick the one with the highest score and think about how the first step is going to start. Schedule the time to do the first step right away. (Of course, after you finish one goal, you can start the next one)
You can also imagine the picture of the completion of the goal. Let yourself have more motivation, keep progress every day.
When the pain of your anxiety and helplessness is far greater than the pain of your progress, then you know how to do it.
You can try to change the surrounding environment. A lot of people don't want to work because there are no guides around them. You can try joining some of your favorite communities, which, of course, should be carefully chosen by yourself.
Or you can come into contact with something new or book, go to the library if you want to learn.
You can also make friend with people who are self-disciplined around you. Learn more from them to find the advantages of learning.
Life can be wonderful. The greatest generosity to the future is to dedicate everything to the present.
Posted from my blog with SteemPress : http://walkinharmony.vornix.blog/2019/01/31/what-to-do-when-you-dont-know-what-to-do/