What is the hardest thing in life?
The hardest thing in life is not ‘choice’, but ‘decision’.
Decision is a result after a fierce ideological struggle when facing something important, a kind of courage, a belief, it represents prudence and rigor.
The decision is not only the action but also the result of the ‘choice’, generally results after doing a lot of analysis, usually more important.
The choice represents a general directional decision that applies to the determination of a series of uncertain objects, with the emphasis on making an action, the consequences of which are usually less severe, so the selected result is not necessarily the final outcome.
In life, we will encounter a lot of needs to choose, and the decision is more important and difficult, such as love and occupation.
The hardest part of the decision is not black and white, good and evil, it's a dilemma.
Right and wrong is often the annotation of black and white, good and evil. When you use values to measure the current problem, in fact, more often there is no absolute right and wrong, just some views from your experiences and some from the real facts. This is often the time to decide, but also a dilemma.
The hardest part of the dilemma is trade-offs. The dilemma is there because it is difficult to balance the gains and losses between the choice of needs and desires.
Everyone wants to be the master of their own body, and in the decision of the innermost self is often competing with the outer self, other than understanding what you really want, but also to have persistent efforts and courage to re-understand the true self.
The precondition of each decision is not a separate appearance, one or the other can be coordinated integration, the need for experience to accumulate empirical recognition, but also the need to try the wrong spirit of innovation.
Everyone's ability to resist pressure, affordability, resilience are gradually thriving in the environment, emotions, and events. Without experience, you cannot arbitrarily say that someone will not accept the result of a decision. The excuse for fear that others cannot afford it and cannot or dare not take the initiative is often the reappearance of the inner cowardice of their own voice, so the dilemma is that their own escape from reality dare not face the problem created.
In the world of relationship, love is the most instrumental. The choice is difficult to break, is derived from love, has both pain and sweetness, gains and losses are difficult to discern, is both give and take.
To establish a core value system for love, we must understand mutual understanding, trust, tolerance, motivation, know how to love each other, and before loving other, the most important is to learn to love yourself.
When oneself exudes the light of love from the introverted, when oneself is steady and tenacious, has the direction, has the appeal, has the influence and love, they will cherish the love for other deeply, also is worthy of each other to give back more love, will not lose oneself in the decision of the loss of trade-off.
Posted from my blog with SteemPress : http://walkinharmony.vornix.blog/2019/02/25/what-is-the-hardest-thing-in-life/
Really?
If every single decision is based on the line of trade offs for self benefit then no matter how good a deal is, often times this will end up in disaster.
There are some times when one just need to live, love and give without any calculations of self benefit towards others / cause, could be the most rewarding time of one's life.