Some insight about giving suggestions
When we are in trouble, we always want to be able to talk to our friends and listen to the suggestion from our friends.
The friends that close to us will tend to be enthusiastic about coming up with ideas and suggestions.
A lot of times, our friends’ suggestions can enlighten us and gain great benefit.
But sometimes, I find that we should be more careful when giving suggestion.
Many times, even if a friend is giving suggestion out of kindness, but the advice may not be applicable.
1) The person who gives the suggestion often looks at the problem from the individual standpoint. Each person's situation is different, the difference is big, the suggestion that suits oneself may not be suitable for others.
2) The information held by the person who made the proposal is incomplete and may not be able to consider the problem comprehensively, and it is easy to produce wrong judgment.
3) People are prone to become a good teacher, in order to prove their knowledge and opinions, it is easy to mention some drastic advice, and causing chaos and confusion to the situation.
4) The person who gives the suggestion think that he had a wonderful idea, and often wanted others to accept it, which is easy to put a lot of pressure on the person who listened to it.
So, what are we can to do?
As the person who gives the suggestion:
1) Be sure to make careful suggestions, avoid giving inappropriate suggestions, avoid mentioned too much about yourself, avoid giving a conclusion with incomplete information.
2) Avoid deep conversation, for less close friends, it is important to carefully give suggestion.
3) Advice is for reference, do not expect your friends must listen. Respect your friend's own choice.
4) Give your basis and argumentation process, don't just give your friend a conclusion, let your friend know how your conclusion came about, and whether there are flaws in the argument process.
5) You are here to help your friends, not to make things complicated. Focus on your friend situation, don’t keep talking about yourself. Making your friends happy, and be helpful is the most important.
6) A lot of times, what your friends need is just a listener, not advice.
As the person who listens to the advice:
1) The choice is on you, don't pin your hopes on others, don't listen to your friends ' advice, and complain about your friends afterward.
2) Pay attention to the reasons why your friends give such a conclusion, consider whether your friend's argument process is reasonable.
3) Consider your situation is different from the situation of your friends, what suits them may not suit you.
4) Be thankful, learn to thank your friends for advice, whether or not your friends ' suggestions are useful.
5) Don't take your friend's advice as pressure, do not because it's a relationship with a good friend, and you have to listen to it.
6) Feedback your final choice and the reason to your friends, respect your friends who make the suggestions.
This post itself is also a suggestion, so I don’t expect everyone will agree with me, I only hope to have a little inspiration for everyone.
The choice is in your hands, you have to make your own way.
Try to be a rational and critical thinker!
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Totally agree. Personally I do not like to give suggestions, in the best of cases, I can simply offer information, something that the person does not know, but that is a fact, not a personal experience. Secondly, I generally do not ask for advice, asked specific things to people that I think have the answers I want. Third, you have to be careful when taking advice, on occasion, who gives the advice does so that you do something that favors him personally and not you. Excellent post, cheers.