You cannot fix the Past; but you can shed off the burden of the Past

in life •  2 months ago

Past is something that is gone way behind, even a yesterday is a Past, but we humans are so much tuned to keep clinging to our past that we just do not want to let it go. Even if the now moment is beautiful we will bring in our past into our present and bring hindrances to our Present.

Something unpleasant that happened in Childhood, or some years back if we keep clinging to it how will we be ever able to move ahead. What happened in Past we absolutely had no control over it but if we do not let it go how is it going to serve any purpose to me, is something that we need to reflect on.


Sometime back a client visited me and she was very unhappy about the way her life is going on. She absolutely has no problems right now, she has a loving husband, financially doing good, she is having a good life but still she is very unhappy. After a little deep dwelling the reason surfaced up. Years back when she got married she was living in a joint family with her mother-in-law, she had a very tough time with her and that has deeply rooted in her, which she cannot let it go. Mother in law is no more now, but the experience she had with her, the memory of that is still with her, which keeps pulling her down, in-turn she has lost the connection with her husband because she feels that his mother ill treated her which was not fair.
For sure it was not fair, but can anything be changed. The answer is definitely NO, so she need to heal those scars and move on. This is so much deep rooted in her that now she does not want to have any children. I see that the feelings that are instilled in her from those memories are spreading onto the other parts of her life.

Another case where the girl got married at a very young age and she had a miserable husband. She got divorced in 2 years time but the 2 years experience with him has left some very strong unpleasant memories which she cannot let go. She is married again, the husband is very nice, but she keeps relating her current marriage with her previous one and keeps finding faults with her husband, which makes their relation miserable.

If we keep going back to our past, keep reflecting on it, do now allow the memories to release it will keep circling back to us in different forms. We make statements like I am a very unlucky person, when we say this in the present, there may be no luck, unluck happening to us but from our past experiences we make such statements, and what we are doing in return is attracting similar energies around us based on our thought process and actions.


What we think and what we do, our life shapes up with that energy in that direction, if I keep thinking I am a useless person with all the experiences of my past, then forever in future also I will be a useless person.
We know how a snake sheds off it's skin time and again and gets a new skin, similarly we humans should also learn to shed off the past and not carry the baggage of bitterness in future.

Past was past, it serves no more good in present, and hence it should be left there. Everyday we can be a new person, you may have been a terrible, sinful person in past but that does not mean the present also should be or will be same. But if we keep feeling guilty about it all the time then we are not giving it a chance to Let GO.

Years back I was a very bad person which I do not shy off to say, but I decided that I want to change and work towards it. Many people from my past still think I am the same and relate to me in that manner, but they do not realize that I have moved on for better and they have not because they are still stuck in the past.

Now the another question that comes up is How do we Let Go off the Past, It is not very simple as said. It takes a lot of effort and continuous healing to let go off the past, specially if it is filled with painful experiences. But the most important is that one should be willing to take that first step. Through Meditation, Release exercises, Regular counselling, changing lifestyle one can easily let go off that burden. The most important is to express our true selves and allowing the mind to be pure and bright with Good thoughts, Good words and Good Deeds.

A very beautiful quote by Steve Maraboll
"The Truth is, Unless you Let Go, Unless you Forgive yourself,
Unless you Forgive the Situation, Unless you Realize that the situation is over,
You Cannot move Forward."

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Past is always a building block to build a strong future. For sure past can not comes back but we can learn from it and tries to make a stronger and beautiful future . Also never let past to haunt us...or spoil the future....just keep moving

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That's rightly said, if it starts haunting us means we can never progress in life in such circumstances

The past is nevermore for us but what we can do is to learn from it so that we could use it to brighten our future.
It is just good to reminisce the good parts of our past because they are just memories that are a treasure that no one can ever take away from us @nainaztengra


True, we should keep the good memories of the past and release the rest

Wonderful article. There is no point in carrying the burden from the past and hurting ourselves. But I would say that we should retain some of traces from the past just to keep us more strong. The lessons we learn from the past should be retained as a non-disturbing experience so that we don't make same mistakes again in our life.

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Ya it is so much important to keep the lessons of the past, else we are again going to fall in the same pit

So inspiring as usual ! I can relate to what you say (and I know friends that will even more).
I haven’t had time to pass by recently but I still follow you !
Take care my dear.

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Hey, I know you are always around and I can understand. For me also currently it's a bit challenging to keep up here due to other commitments, but I am sure a little bit drifting away does not make you forget your friends


Definitely not ! Take care

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The marriage of the past happens a lot and is why subsequent marriages often fail. Good stuff hun.

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Past experiences of personal relationships are something that keeps coming in the way big time. Bur I feel after a point of time in life you feel you do not need so much of drama in life

Nice article! I always wanted to fix my past as I made several wrong decisions. I know it was hard to forget the past but as you suggested, let go of the burdens can be a great option.

We can easily lose ourselves in the negative ocean of the past, but embrace the future of sunlight is definitely a better way to go.

Happy Friday!


Some past experiences can leave a deep scar and it may not be easy but it is best to let it go. People say it is not so easy, but I say it is not that difficult either.

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This is such wisdom. I keep trying to apply it to my life, letting go of the burden of the past, but it's a process. I'll keep working on it. ;)