The Benefits Of Being A Genuine Person - How To Be True To Yourself
Many people go through life wearing a persona that is not who they really are. While it's important to conduct yourself in a socially acceptable manner and the desire to fit in is strong in our society, being authentic brings rewards and makes life more interesting.
It doesn't matter if you're intelligent, attractive, or charming because if you're not genuine you're not living to your fullest potential.
Authenticity requires a certain measure of vulnerability, transparency, and integrity. — Janet Louise Stephenson - Author
Most of us know a genuine person when we see one and our gut tells us when there's something a bit off about a person. Genuine people share a few common characteristics we'll discuss in this post.
So what makes a person authentic and how can you be more true to yourself?
Genuine people don't spend a lot of time trying to make people like them. Genuine people are comfortable in their own skins and their happiness doesn't hinge on the reactions of others. It's not that they don't care how others feel about them, but they don't let those feeling change how they feel about themselves. They are who they are and tend to do the right thing regardless of people's reactions or resistance.
Most genuine people don't show off or try to get your attention and can let others have the spotlight in social interactions. They speak in confident friendly tones and are interested in what others have to say. They may not agree with others points of view but can listen to them and make them feel heard.
They are not as interested in trying to be right or in winning arguments and respect different perspectives even if they disagree. People can usually tune into their attitudes quickly and respond to how they communicate in a non-combative manner.
Genuine people are slow to judge others. Genuine people let others be who they are and forgive them when they fall short of being at their best. Because they're open-minded they are interested in understanding others so they tend to listen more.
Their open-mindedness helps them see the world through others eyes long enough to understand their perspective without passing judgments based on their own preconceived ideas. This makes people feel safe, to be honest with them and helps them understand people better.
Genuine people follow their own paths. Genuine people are not swayed by the opinions of others if their gut tells them something different. They follow their own intuition. Whatever direction their internal compass points them is the direction they take and stand firm on their principles and values.
They know who they are and don't pretend to be anything else even if others don't like it.
They are generous with what they have. Generous people don't hold their resources back from anyone or fear that you will outshine them. They give everything they have as a team player and want you to succeed. Your success makes them feel successful.
Genuine people treat everyone with respect. It doesn't matter what your social status is or your background. Genuine people treat all people with respect because they know that no one is better than anyone else in this world just because of their title.
Treating someone one way only to have them see you treating others with disrespect behind their back is just as bad as being disrespectful to someone's face. Genuine people respect themselves and it shows by how they treat others.
Genuine people are not materialistic. Genuine people don't base their happiness on having a lot of things. It's not that they don't like material things or think there is something wrong with wanting them, but they don't need things to make them feel happy.
Their happiness comes from inside themselves and they place more emphasis on shared experiences they have with friends and family and the world around them.
Genuine people can be trusted. Genuine people say what they mean and mean what they say which makes them trustworthy to others. They consistently do what they say they will do and keep their commitments. People can rely on them to back up their agreements.
They don't say things just to avoid a confrontation and what they say is what they believe to be true. They don't make excuses for failing to follow through on their commitments and when they give their word they mean it.
Genuine people have thick skins. Genuine people have enough confidence in themselves to not be easily offended. When someone disagrees with their ideas they don't see it as a personal attack. They can detach themselves from the conflict and pick the gems out of the criticism from others, employ what works, and drop what doesn't without escalating any hard feeling.
Genuine people put their phones down when talking with people. Genuine people understand that to truly communicate with others they need to give their undivided attention to them. There's nothing wrong with being able to multitask but they know that another person will only feel heard if you actively listen to them.
They ask questions that reveal their authentic interest in what others are saying and when people talk to them they feel their time is valued and worthy of all their attention.
Genuine people are not egomaniacs. Genuine people don't need others to admire them so they don't make decisions with that aim in mind. They just do what needs to be done and are not concerned with who gets the credit for it.
Genuine people are not hypocrites Genuine people walk the walk they talk and practice what they preach. They don't advise you to do one thing and do another thing themselves. Hypocrites are oblivious to their own mistakes and weaknesses while genuine people fix their own problems before recommending others fix themselves.
Genuine people don't brag that often. Genuine people know that when they do something of value it will stand on its own merits. They're not as concerned about getting credit for their accomplishments and get their rewards from contributing to the team.
They don't feel insecure or worried that no one will notice their achievements and don't spend a lot of time pointing them out to others to elicit praise from them.
Conclusions Genuine people know themselves, feel comfortable with themselves, are grounded in reality, and are present in the moment without needing to read everyone's agenda or to push their own.
It's hard being a genuine person, tending towards introvert I find myself sometimes modifying my behaviour dependinf on the circumstances.
I know it may sound funny, but it can be hard being true to yourself and just being yourself. It takes courage and confidence.
I'm working on both :-)
It does take courage. Getting into the habit of listening to your true self more than you listen to the external noise is a good place to start. To follow one's internal compass one first has to be aware that they have an internal compass.
Introverts are good at tuning into their instincts and once they shed their concerns of what others think about their choices they tend to be good at being genuine.
"To follow one's internal compass one first has to be aware that they have an internal compass" - this is so true ........
Now, telling which way is north is a whole other story.
That is the two skill :-)
I am sharing this for others to understand that you nailed it all the way across the ball park on a bases loaded home run. Some folks just do not understand I am not in a competition, I fit within my skin and like who I am no matter what someone else says or does.
The small minded that walk among us will try their best to destroy who you are because they just don't get it.
Another awesome article!
Thanks for reading and resteeming. I like competition but not because I want to win over others. I like it because it makes us strive to improve ourselves. Everyone wins when we all egg each other on to get better at something, especially as a team.
LOL we are all on this small planet so what impacts one is aimed at us all, nothing says we can't be human about it.
Exactly. I like that.
The times where I have been attacked, ridiculed or judged the most are the times where I have proven my self the most and grown the most.
The most fulfilling part of my life is living true to my ideals despite the world.
There comes a point in one's life where you care less about others opinions. My mom used to say that what other people say about me is none of my business.
hahahahaha oh man thats pretty progressive. SO you have been on this path since childhood then?
I grew up in a small town in Texas. Pretty much everyone was genuine because everybody knew everyone. Not much point in pretending to be something you are not. Also, if you were a jerk, the whole town knew it. I moved to Los Angeles after high school. Holy shit was that a culture shock. Everyone's full-time job was to be as cool as possible 24/7. During the time I spent there I don't think I got to really know one single person.
I have lived in big cities like New York and LA but spent most of my time in a small town where everyone knew everyone. The differences in how people act couldn't be starker. I like small towns because more people are themselves, but once you get used to being yourself it kind of follows you around.
I've followed you pretty extensively, as you are a very prolific individual on this platform, have to say, love the thoughts you've provoked outta my mind.
I have a question, do you think a genuine person in your observations and rationale based on your output here, would be a good sales person? Why or why not?
That's funny you say that because I'm in sales but I don't think your profession has anything to do with it. A genuine person could be good at anything involving people in my view.
Being real, non-pretentious and on one's own path is where each really fits into the big picture. Thank you for really laying it out so well.
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It is so much more fun being a good person.
More fun, more interesting, and more healthy.
Genuine people stay true to themselves.
Sage advice from a genuinely great guy!
You got my vote and a resteem :)
Really cool post, points out to me some things I still need to work on...my skin, though way thicker than it was when I was younger, still needs some thickening. I'm getting better with not giving a fuck what others think of me, yet I have had to work on this very hard. It's something I constantly have to affirm.
I've definitely had some great teachers in my life, and have always been drawn to the ones who give zero fucks. I admire them so much and one day I will have it down pat.
You're an awesome teacher Luzcypher. <3 And I definitely appreciate your authenticity. Thanks for always keeping it real.
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Very inspiring post ,Its really hard to be your true self because societies have exception and because most people are shape by their past ,, nice post though i followed and resteem
I think it gets easier with practice, like most things in life. Thanks for the resteem.
Thats why your post is so inspiring
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Getting older helps! I think we naturally speak less and in a quieter tone which makes us seem wiser... unless there is drinking involved :)
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All very good points. I do try to do these things, but I do have my moments. :)
I really appreciate the point about putting the phone down when talking to someone! I try not to get offended when I see people do this - especially teens - but it does send a message to the other person that they do not have their full attention. So I am wary of this practice in myself.
Hold onto every genuine person you find this generation has people driven by ego money and status as a result good souls are ruined daily keep your head up and be conscious of the energy you give out and connect with.
One of my favorite quote! Good post @luzcypher
Thank you for reading it and for this inspiring quote.
Yup. I like what you've got to say @luzcypher!
And I reckon sometimes we have to do a lot of personal work just to find out who our 'genuine' self is!
So many of our beliefs about ourselves, other people and the way the world works is just programming. Not necessarily in a bad way, but just, you know, as we grow up, we get told things and we believe them without question.
I've been doing so much work on deprogramming myself recently that sometimes I've felt like I'm unravelling altogether haha!
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All the best, and followed. :)