Intolerance-Enough to abuse and harassment

Something that needs to be said-So lets get it out there. Walls are down - let's talk!

I've never wanted to write a post like this. Actually, let me rephrase that. I've never wanted to have to discuss this topic, but recently I've felt like it should be discussed for certain reasons. I'm going to lay it all out on the table so if these topics are a bit much, I apologize. Getting out of your comfort zone is sometimes an awesome way to let someone who sees no hope, maybe show them it's going to be okay. These are my opinions based on my experiences and I welcome any thoughts good or bad.
So before we begin, it will be a very jagged pill to swallow as I will be discussing physical and mental abuse, sexual assault, and sexual harassment. Let's begin.

Mental and physical abuse

I'm not going to speak for others, but I know too many women AND men who live their lives on a daily basis accepting this unconscious ego based behavior. I know it not only because I see it, but I lived it and for some reason I have no shame in that admittance. Back to my story in a minute, but it actually scares me how many of us seperate mental abuse and physical abuse as if one is less damaging. Even if you haven't laid a finger on your partner, but manage to belittle them and shred their souls for your own pleasure, you are an abuser. If you are the victim of this, well then you understand exactly what I mean. It's merely a sugar coated excuse to call it an argument when it is done so maliciously. I can tell you from my experiences, emotional abuse can bring someone into actually believing the bizarre language thrown out there. Unfortunately, sometimes it goes far enough to where it can no longer be consumed and their life is so hopeless in the distortion, they end it. If you're even questioning if you're in a mentally abusive relationship, you probably are and there is help, not for your abuser, for you!
Physical abuse is well, one of the most repulsive behaviors human beings exert onto one another. I don't think I ever understood why it occurs or why people aren't able to walk away before inflicting pain onto their partner. Is the rage inside of them so uncontrollable that they are unable to find another solution? As I've said in my previous post, I've been in and out of physically abusive relationships since I was 14 and I have no excuse for it. I can try to sit here and say maybe I didn't love myself enough, I had a rough life, I was naive, but I could've left and didn't. It's almost like an addiction and once the dealer knows you're hooked, he has control. That's what I want women/men to understand. The more you feed into that addiction the more power you're supplying them to feed from. I remember feeling at one point like somehow it was something I caused which was complete insanity, but they will break you down like that. They will tell you that you will be nothing without them and scare you into believing you cannot do anything on your own. It's a lie. That control they feed from when they make you bleed and watch you cry and smile in return becomes threatened when you have the courage to say enough. Yes, YOU are capable of anything. Never let anyone tell you otherwise and never be scared into feeling you will be alone in this world. More people love you than you think. Easier said than done right? Well, kind of. Take action when necessary. If I can so can you.

Sexual harassment/Sexual assault

This is a topic that is as important to me as all of others in many ways. It's not only personal, but occurs daily to a point where I have to question the society we as beings belong to. How do we as these energies of love allow such behavior to occur and make it so excusable people are willing to leave their jobs? We were not meant to act only on our sexual energies as humans. It is an obsessive behavior towards the physical form influenced by what we allow as a whole. In a matter of four years, I was forced to leave two jobs because this behavior was seen as play. Even as a teenager, men I worked with had no problem making me cringe as long as they received what they felt entitled to. Now this isn't to say people don't lie to be spiteful which is also extremely unconscious behavior. However, there are too many occurrences that go unnoticed because of lack of care or lack of control. I have had bosses that seen it as okay to grope me while checking registers and laugh. Just another daily occurrence knowing they had the power over my finances. I'm perfectly okay admitting sexual harassment/assault occurred frequently until I had enough willpower to say I'm in charge of my being and left. Again, I make no excuses for staying, but I also make no excuses for what in my opinion are abusers. To any man or woman dealing with any person or people you feel are trying to overpower your well being, look at yourself and say I love you and I am stronger than this.

Maybe if others see my honesty, the courage within can shine through. I believe in you.

💞You all are such amazing beings. Never forget how much power you hold💞

Love to every single one of you from me, always. Shine bright💖
Kristan