In Africa, Asia , South America and even in developed countries, it is evident these days that so many ladies are married to mainly their kids and not their hubbies. The bond that is meant to exist among couples are been transferred to children because the man is never around as such most men are ceremonial husbands and never around. Their wives hardly feel their warmth, love and presence at home. They just answer married men but in reality are always absent in their homes.
Many men abandon their families because of the love of tighter vaginas and perky breasts. Some other men run around town with friends and no thanks to the start of new football/soccer season in Europe and other sporting activities in North America and Asia, many men gives reason of lateness due to work load but instead go hanging out with friend in bars , watching their favorite teams play as such stay out of home until it’s midnight before they crawl back to snore away beside their hurting wives.
Most times when these hurting women tend to start a conversation, they are met with cold eyes, unwelcome replies and more emotional disconnections that further cut their hurting hearts to bits.
Many African & Asian women are married in public but in private are single mums since they are sharing their homes with absentee husbands who prefer to come home just to sleep, wake up early morning and rush out. Absentee husbands are always on the move. They know how to be absent at home and can win awards for being ceremonial husbands as such, their women enjoys nothing being married to them.
These absentee husbands knows nothing about their home, their wives well being, when she is happy or sad, sick or healthy, when she has issues at place of work, when she needs his love & affection, when she needs him to be a father to their kids. These men that are always absent from home knows nothing about their women’s dress size, shoe size, not to talk of her bra and pant sizes! (These ones are out of it completely). They don’t even know when their woman is enjoying sex under them or crying because she is in pain from their sexual brutality. Some women even just to make their man happy acts as if they are enjoying sex with him during the painful encounter!.
When asked their wives favorite perfume, they will start scratching their heads since they have no clue...as they cannot even remember when last they took her out or even bought her something that put smiles on her face, yet these same men sees themselves as married men! If you fit in the above description, you should hide yourself in shame! This is why you should not blame some women who transfer all their love to their children.
They do these because they want to feel loved and since they lack the affection and love they were supposed to have gotten from their hobbies they had to get it from their children. When I see a man that keeps complaining about his wife focusing too much on their children, I laugh and usually tempted to ask him what he was busy doing leading to the wife to get to the stage of transferring her love to their kids! Wonder how on earth he was unable to notice that she was gradually slipping away from him emotionally till the level of pouring all her love to her children!
Men, it is time to wake up! This period is a very dangerous time to be absent from your home and duties as a married man. If you have the insinuation that you cannot be replaced by a good looking, sexy and better built smooth talking guy that knows how to thrill your woman better, think again as things are happening! Although society (especially in developing countries) tends to support and protects men’s excesses against women, things are changing fast, so wake up to your duties!
Wives that are married to absentee husbands that visits their homes but never stays are always lonely, feels abandoned and as such sad. Some of the women do not even know what else to do to get their husbands attention and as such have lost hope in having a fun filled marital relationship with their husbands.
Those men who use excuses of work and business trips to stay away from their wives and rather be with younger ladies needs to understand that one of the quickest ways to destroy your marriage is to leave your wife alone for too long. It’s bad enough that you get home late and still will not engage your wife, the mother of your children in any conversation to know how her day went or what happened at home in your absence. Instead, you prefer to engage in watching football matches, playing games and watching late night movies.
Men, stop hurting your wives with always being absent from your home and marital duties. One of the most miserable experiences for a wife is that feeling of isolation when her husband is never around. She may have friends, relatives and a job to engage herself with plus taking care of kids but it’s not the same as having her hubby around. Her desire is to spend time with you, the man she loves. That very man who chased after her and won her love and affection with beautiful gifts and words before they got married...
Remember that family always comes first. In raising kids, women should not be left alone.
There is always that positive effect of a father figure. This reminds me of some great steemains worthy of emulation and my mention like @papa-pepper who stresses on one of his numerous posts about a family man ...In his own remark, ”a family that works together gets a lot done”! @papa-pepper displays a strong family values and shows us how a father needs to always be around family especially to his little-peppers. Little wonder @mama-pepper is always looking radiant and @grandpa-pepper is proud of having him as a son... Also @quinneaker who always travels anywhere with family and shows great attention to the affairs of his lovely little kids. This men are always around their wives, watch them give birth to their lovely kids and are active in guarding them to positive part of growth. This goes to show that there are a lot of good husbands out there. Keep it up guys!
It is worthy of note to point out that if a wife is left alone by her husband, it causes deep heartache for women. When she feels abandoned by you, she gets depressed after a while, fed up & as such, she attacks back with hurtful and disrespectful behavior. If Her ability to verbally hurt you is her strong weapon, and she uses it out of fear in an effort to try to get your attention.
I even wonder in the first place why your wife should even be fighting for your attention. Why did you marry her then?
Note this:- Everything you give a woman, she incubates and gives you better...In the words of ― Erick S. Gray “Whatever you give a woman, she will make greater. If you give her sperm, she'll give you a baby, If you give her a house, she'll give you a home. If you give her groceries, she'll give you a meal. If you give her a smile, she'll give you her heart. She multiplies and enlarges what is given to her. So, if you give her any crap, be ready to receive a ton of shit!”
When a wife starts to complain because you never spend time at home, never takes her out, and never engage with your own kids, chances are she is feeling abandoned and isolated. When you stop spending time together, the emotional distance between you two grows very fast.this is not a good relationship at all. Most husbands need to work on their marriages as it is not only the duty of a woman alone to keep a marriage intact. More so, marrying a woman is not an avenue to do whatever you want simply because you are a man, if you do not see the need of meeting up your marital status and being present with your family at home, then remain single, a woman is not a beast of burden nor is she a robot who should keep taking your misconducts.
Life is already stressful enough for you to add to your wife’s stress by being an absentee husband. Now is time to change that your bad attitude and always be physically present to enjoy your wife and family otherwise, someone else will! A word is enough for the wise…
Finally, if you are among the absentee husbands, take a bold step and change, then go to your wife and children and say that magic word- " Sorry" ensure you mean it! Wishing you a fun filled sweet home...
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Sources: Kate Halim: Ceremonial husbands on the rise
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