Everywhere around the world are helpful people, you just have to ask
We forget sometimes from what kind of situation we were coming from. That we were also ignorant, unknowing, uninformed, or just stubborn.
This is almost something you can trace back to any kind of situation in life.
Work, crypto, moving, financial advise, life experience. You name it, and deep down inside we have questions about it. Are we making the right choice? Was I just ripped off? Did I make a wrong trade? Do my family and friends have my back?
Go back to these questions above and redirect this order.
Your family and friends must have your back, otherwise you have done clearly wrong. Is this not the case? Make amends: these people are more important than anything and define you in the end.
My point is:
You should be okay with yourself. And what kind of choices you are making in life, or stuff you are dealing with. And who are the better people to reflect this with than your loved ones.
Even if you are making a 180 degrees radical turn, your loved one should support you and ask some challenging or at least interested questions. They are the ones who want to see you happy. They are your support, your backbone.
But what we often forget:
Is to just ask this!!!!
Why do we do that? Forgetting to reflect?
Is it because we are to proud? Because we fear they might give us an anwer that we dont want to hear? Or because we dont want to consider their side of the story. One thing I have noticed is that talking about what is ahppening with you will always create understanding.
Today
I met with a girl I do not know. I lived on Sint Martin and I am moving to Switzerland. She used to live in Switzerland and is moving to Sint Martin. How big is that of a chance? Id say smaller than anyone can imagine. We also have a mutual acquaintance, more than one even. Isnt that strange?
From all of the people in the world we are shifting lives? And we also found out about it, and had a chance to talk about that as well?
Interesting, I thought already beforehand. But also this conversation with a random stranger could turn out into crap. You dont necessarily have to have anything in common. Or do you?
The key to these kinds on conversations is being honest. Talking about the stuff you loved and hated about being there, and also asking about the situations you might run in to. And I am not talking about polite thisses and thats. Im talking about spilling the beans. To a stranger. Aint that good sometimes?
And why? Because of the feedback
You have to open up sometimes to get something back in return. In this case, honesty and opinions. And that will get you further in life and you can take that back to your loved ones again.
Its okay to crack the shell sometimes. Ventilate and be vulnerable. Making change is scary and will go with failure. Realize it and own it! Ask the damn question if you want to know something, nobody will smack you around for it. Life isnt primary school !
Steemit might just be the same:
You have to profile yourself, but people will appreciate you more if you are a genuine person who shows a bit of themself. Take my word for this. Sometimes you will not always have positive reactions to it: but you are you for a reason.
/End note to self (and be proud you planned your trip to your meeting correct this time)
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Wow. This message came at the right time. Family and friends should have your back, even if they tell you what you don’t want to hear. Dealing with this right now with a set of friends who “think everything is okay” when it really is not. Great message, @karinxxl!
Oe.....honesty is the best policy I guess in this one @mrscwin . What doesnt mean feedback has to be a rant, but touching difficult topics is what friends do right!
"just ask" has been the most effective strategy for find people to help me.
You will be amazed how many you will find if you just ask ... :)
Exactly!
But often is seems like the one stressy thing we refuse to do because it seems a bit like failure or so??
Im past that part: I just ask hehe
There’s no failure, only feedback . :)
Wow! The odds do seem against it, to meet someone from Switzerland who's moving to St Martin when you're doing the opposite!! Did you learn anything useful? ;)
'Just asking' is so important. Why we sometimes hesitate to do it? I do think pride has a lot to do with it. With the feeling that 'I should be able to handle this on my own'. The more we switch to an understanding of life that we are all in this together, that an other persons well-being will add to our well-being also, and the other way around... the more our resistance to finding support with each other can drop.
Love the topic and your writing style :). Following!
Pride is the main reason I guess.. People are so helpful in general actually! Whether it is to get directions, or to talk about the hard step in life...Once you ask , the door is opened at least!
Well, I think we both learned a lot about our 'new' homes and that was the main goal. Taking a bit of the stress away haha! Because that is what always pairs up with big change:
the unknowing, and that is stressfull (and cool at the same time )
Good point. The unknown - that's what it is all about right? Sometimes we think we have some control in life, but it'll just be illusion. There's nothing certain. The beautiful thing about travel and new situations is that the unknown is so very obvious. And we have to adjust accordingly. We have to be the most open, flexible, relaxed yet aware version of ourselves to respond to all the unfamiliar. Stressful, in a way. And definitely cool!!! :)
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Wow! The odds do seem against it, to meet someone from Switzerland who's moving to St Martin when you're doing the opposite!! Did you learn anything useful? ;)
'Just asking' is so important. Why we sometimes hesitate to do it? I do think pride has a lot to do with it. With the feeling that 'I should be able to handle this on my own'. The more we switch to an understanding of life that we are all in this together, that an other persons well-being will add to our well-being also, and the other way around... the more our resistance to finding support with each other can drop.
Love the topic and your writing style :). Following!
I totally agree, how big is that chance??
SO we just HAD to meet up, and thats cool for having the abilty to ask all 'dumb' questions (there are no dumb questions, but you know what I mean)
We should do this more, I learned a damn lot at least and everyday I am feeling a bit more confident about my upcoming application WEEK
I LOVE LOVE LOVE this Karin. Great reminder. :)
Thanks fine lady! We try our best right!!
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