Communication is key.
Being married for 25 years being together for over 30 you start putting your relationship into perspective. When your young and having fun sex is a big part of it if that's the way you choose others wait until marriage, there's nothing wrong with that, we lead our lives to how we like it not to please others.
Meeting someone your attracted to, those butterflies you used to get when you were meeting up, being alone and intimate is all part of growing up. Falling in love and finding your ideal partner is what most people hope for, to settle down start a family, grow old together is what all the love stories portray.
But real life isn't like that, life isn't that straightforward. Life isn't a love story.
Marriage/ Living together is a big step, being faithful to one person, vowing to spend the rest of your life with one person is the biggest step you will take. Its time to grow up, have responsibility and sharing. You dont know how things will change in years to come. Children, work, money can cause so many difficulties in keeping that relationship alive.
There is a time in your life and relationship where other things will become more important than sex, If you can't communicate with your partner, or share each others interests then the relationship needs help.
We have just had our 25th wedding anniversary, being with someone for so long you get comfortable with each other, you know each other so well, I sometimes know what he's thinking. We talk more now than we ever have, he wasn't the best person to talk with unless it's about golf or work but over the years he has grown and we like to sit and hold hands watching the TV, having a laugh together, talking about anything and everything with the odd cuddle but the last thing we think about is sex. Think you get used to that when you raise a child that has a problem. Our lives have been spent raising her.
What I am trying to say is,
E.G.
- Your in a relationship where the sex is mind blowing but you haven't a clue about each other, you don't know there likes or dislikes, you don't share the same interests other than sex.
- Your in a relationship were the sex is OK, you know everything about each other, you have long conversations and both have the same interests.
WHO WOULD YOU PICK
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Congratulations on 25 years! My wife and I have been married for 8 but together for ten years. We still have a lot of growing and learning to do.
Thank you, We all do, it's hard work but worth it good luck :)
Well done on your 25th karenb54, we had our 54th yesterday, as you said, initally sex is good, 4 kids later, sex whats that?, friendship, cooperation, being able to talk about thigs is more important, dosn’t raise the heartbeat as much either. After 5 heartatacks I am suposed to watch it. Pranking is good fun though.
Pranking is so much more fun and laughing is essential in marriage so prank away lol Congratulations on 54 years wow well done both of you :)
Here i would be set free aafter serving 3 murder imprisonments , makes you wounder.
Ahhh but you have loved every minute :)
It's funny you say that. It's a bit of a media, mass marketing brainwash the whole "you must be doing it all the time" in relationships. Real life has a habit of getting in the way but it's not something that can be readily admitted or discussed because it is just assumed and pushed on people that everyone is always doing it.
I mean don't get me wrong, I still get my boab polished regularly but not to the extent that the media portrays is normal or worse the extent that celebs are perceived to be at it.
Every couple is different, to be honest I wouldn't care if I ever did it again lol we all have different needs :)
Excellent post dear friend @ karenb54, I like how you write so naturally
Thank you very much for sharing these experiences with us
Thank you that was nice of you to say :)
Wow congratulation for those years!!!!
Thank you :)
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Congratulations on your anniversary! My husband and I have known each other for 30 years but we'll be celebrating our 10 year anniversary in July. It's kind of funny but we haven't really had any huge arguments ever! We are best friends and really have no secrets. Sadly, sex is kind of rare but we're kind of old and tired and much prefer foot rubs and back scratches. LOL
Thank you, ohhh a back scratch I could have them 3 or more times a day without complaint lol
I know, right?!?!
That's our running joke. We scratch each other's back and say it's the best sex ever. ROFL
I totally agree wth you its less hassle lol having your back scratched is heaven sex is ewww can't be bothered with that lol