How to Read Other People - Using your Higher Powe

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 Subconscious Indirect Communication - If you don’t know what it is, you will be surprised to know that you use this skill every day. You just might not be aware of it! Everyone is always subconsciously displaying an emotion on their face, and you are too. People subconsciously reflect themselves onto other people with what they feel and think about themselves and others. So what exactly is subconscious indirect communication? This is the term broken down to explain it. 

Subconscious = something you are not aware of or intentionally showing/displaying

Indirect = an emotion or perception not specifically directed at anyone

Communication = facial expressions and body language which humans subconsciously analyse to understand each other

This understanding of yourself and other people is most likely a primal indistinct from when brutal survival was more prominent. And that's exactly what intuition is - tapping into your subconscious to read yourself and other people, and in turn it using it to your advantage. Your self image, the image you see in other people, and your current emotion is always displayed to the people around you in the world. People pick up on this subconsciously, and you do the same with other people without even knowing it. This is what determines your romantic relationships, friendships, and others perception of you.

These questions might help you find out a lot about yourself that you didn’t already know: 

1.  When you see someone you are attracted to, how do you respond? If you respond by quickly looking away, this means you are uncertain if people you find attractive or accept you and see you in the same way.
2. Who do you make eye contact with in the room most, males or females? If you usually notice males more than females, this means you are more alert or aware of them, or that you relate better to that gender.
3. When you casually make eye contact with someone on the street walking past you, are you the first to look away? If you are not the first to look away, generally it means that you are more dominant and confident than the other person.
4. When you make eye contact with someone unintentionally, do you ask yourself why and question what that person thought of you? This could be a sign that you are either extremely perceptive, or that you care too much about what other people think about you.
5. Are you comfortable making eye contact with people you don’t know at a party or social event? Does it intimidate you or make you feel more confident about socialising? If it makes you more confident, you are an outgoing and self-assertive person. If it makes you feel more self-conscious, this shows signs of not being 100% confident and having some form of insecurity.

 In saying this, most people are almost impossible to read. This is because most people are distracted by something. Either it be driving, looking at their cellphones, texting or calling, even when people are walking somewhere - most of them seem to be not fully mentally present. They are distracted with what they are thinking about, what’s in the shop windows, or who they are talking to. If you don’t believe me, have a look around next time you go out and see for yourself.

Some people 'stone wall' and intentionally display no emotion to others in public. They they think showing emotion can invite threats and judgement on their character personally. These types of people also don’t feel comfortable showing emotion because they don’t know how to express these feelings to other people, or how to live with them on a day to day basis. Individuals who ‘stone wall’ themselves from everyone else usually have a small, select group of friends that like to keep to themselves. Most people don’t notice them, and they like it that way. They tend to blend into the background and stay unnoticed by choice.

However, people are more likely to remember someone who displays some form of emotion, whether it be negative or positive. When you make eye contact with someone across the room or walking past you on the street they are reading you and you are reading them without even knowing it. Even if you only looked at each other for a second or two, you both subconsciously picked up on a lot from each other. Even though sadness and anger may be a negative emotion, it is still human emotion. Having a blank face and shut off feelings is not a human emotion, and so people find a hard time relating to it.

When others can relate to you more easily, you form closer and better relationships with people who feel the same way as you do. These are the types of friendships that last so much longer than others, because they are based on relating to each other through the way you see yourself and the world around you. It’s better off to just show what you are feeling when you are feeling it. Because let’s face it, who is happy 24/7? Nobody. You might think that others will like you more if you always look happy, but people can relate to you better if you simply be a real person. And by being a real person and who you are, you will attract others alike who see the world and themselves the same way. Have you ever seen someone who looked totally depressed and so-over-it at work or school? When you saw that person, you probably thought “I know exactly how you feel” not “I hope to avoid that person”.

The people that stay friends for longer and are closer see a positive image of themselves in their relationships and themselves. We know this because we pick up on it subconsciously every day. This is the most relate able example I can think of: the popular group in high school. For example, the popular kids in high school want others to perceive them as better than everyone else, which is most likely due to insecurity. People who see themselves the same way usually stick together, and people are always indirectly displaying what they think about others. Some people make it more obvious, and others try to keep it to themselves more.

People in any social setting usually remember others impressions of them, especially if it’s the first one. It’s only human nature to want to be accepted and liked by others. Once they feel insecure or unapproved of by a certain group, they usually won’t try to join their social group because they have been made to feel inferior. People who want popularity or superiority are always subconsciously displaying the emotion/perception of being unappreciative of other peoples presence. Others around them pick up on this, and so they prefer to stay away from them, or they try to gain their acceptance by gaining their approval. This creates exclusivity and selective appreciation or acceptance. This is exactly what makes them popular and explains the whole phenomenon in high school. It is simply self-appointed exclusivity.

The reason I wrote this post was because I experienced this directly in my life, but it didn’t make any sense until recently. I decided a couple of months ago to let my guard down for the first time ever. I wasn’t ‘stone walling’ anymore or trying to avoid eye contact with people. My facial expressions were more relaxed and approachable. Almost instantly, it seemed like out of nowhere people started to talk to me more and it felt like I had a lot more friends.

This is a big part of why depression and anxiety shuts people off from others. It is often because you seem mentally and emotionally unavailable. Humans seek the availability of these things, platonic and romantically, so when they aren't presented they can’t make a relation or connection with you on a basic level. When I was aware of my own perception of myself towards others and how to control it, I was able to invite a lot more people into my life which ultimately led to me being a more supported and happier person.