Will We Save A Life Today?

in #life4 years ago

Every 40 seconds one of us takes their own lives. What can we do? How do we make it safe for the people we love to share their truth on a bad day because then they will see life is worth living? Why is it critical to share our own stories of times we have almost made our premature exit? Where can we find a place to see the common reasons for suicide and simple solutions for what seems at the time like a hopeless problem?

The top cause of death for those of us under age 55 is ending our own lives both directly with suicide and indirectly through poisoning with alcohol and drugs combined with related outcomes like traffic accidents and trauma from the "I hope someone else will kill me" outcome where many accidents and crime victims place themselves intentionally in dangerous situations hoping for an end that appears to be not our fault.

What I hope makes this effective is that I speak from my own experience on everything I share here and I am grateful Steemit empowers the sharing of our stories! From age 19 to age 29 I plotted all kinds of ways to end it all with the most elaborate becoming a police officer where I fantasized hundreds of times about being killed at work and all of the kind things people would share about me at my funeral and on social media. Thankfully all these plots failed as you can see because at the same time I made them I also did want to keep living which just made life a living hell where I could not live or die despite my best efforts. In April 2014 I finally realized that the game was over and that I was very close to actually making my exit after 10 years of half hearted attempts and that I had no choice but to go through with it. I begged God for a way out which was very confusing as an agnostic at the time.

The way out I discovered involves helping other people which is why I show up here with you today with the best help I can think to provide. I am grateful I chose and continue to choose to live wholeheartedly today because still the desire to end it all still comes up occasionally for usually trivial reasons. When it does I stop what I am doing, pray for help, listen for the help I receive, talk to loved ones, and let it pass in just a few seconds, minutes, or hours at the worst.

Today I am grateful I have been branded with this to be of service helping you whether you know from your own experience or whether your loved ones need you to be able to better understand. If you find this post helpful, will you share it because maybe it will save at least one life today? If you prefer to watch, would you see the original video I created for this below?

Thank you very much to @gmichelbkk for converting the transcription of the YouTube video from GoTranscript into this beautiful post for Steemit, which is much faster to read than the video and has beautiful illustrations!

Situations where people often end their own lives

Why is this post and matching video worth sharing?

Experience 11 situations where people often go crazy enough to end their own lives and a solution.

How do I know? I've experienced personally every situation in this post and I share them because I am very grateful to still be here with you today. Many of these nearly ended my life before they were resolved and all were huge fears for most of my adult life which I have since passed through. Many are summarized, paraphrased, or adapted for more general experience to help be of greatest service here. For example, I never received a text message from an ex with the exact phrasing I use in the example below but I did go through the exact situation described over a period of months including a day where I sat at the computer with a gun to my head ready to end it all over losing her while listening to "What Is Love."

Situation 1

Let's get started, this is number one.

You get a message from an EX, the message says:

"I cheated on you and I'm breaking up with you."

This was the very first time that I had a really hard time not wanting to just end it all. I was pushed right to the brink by getting this message.

My first reaction was, "Oh my God! I can't live without you. Oh my God, what am I going to do?"

I've since been on both ends of this and it's really difficult. The truth I've learned is to say: "thank you."

Instead of reacting with what I said, I should have said, "thank you" to the Ex for making me single because I found or will find someone better.

I'm grateful now that I have found an amazing wife that loves me so much. I never would have found her without the horrible pain and having nearly ended my life for getting dumped.

Here are some tips for attracting your soul mate right here.

This is really simple, eat raw vegan, basically, and exercise daily, which is suggested in "How not to die," along with prayer and meditation. There you go, it's really that simple to attract an amazing person to be with.

Situation 2

Here is another situation, message from work, "You're going to quit or we will fire you."

This was really painful for me and my first reaction was, "This place will burn! I'll send you all to hell!"

I'm lucky that's not what I did, but I feel like a lot of us feel that same way whenever we lose a job or a career ends.

The truth, whenever my employer did sit me down to get me to quit, then I should have thanked them, I should have said, "Thank you for motivating me to continue my education."

"Thank you for getting rid of this job so that now, I am inspired to go back to school."

The secret to making more money is to learn 100-plus dollars an hour skills reading books and watching YouTube video tutorials like the ones I make. That has worked for me because I've made over $100 an hour on average, in my business in 2016 and it really is that simple.

So, instead of getting pushed to the edge by an employer firing you, it's a great opportunity to advance your career.

Situation 3

Message from school, "You failed."

You get that F on your report card, you get kicked out of school and you think it's all over now.

"Oh my God, this isn't fair, I don't deserve this. I worked hard, I'm not stupid."

Then the truth should be, "Thank you for encouraging me to drop out and study on my own."

Getting kicked out of school might be the best thing that ever happened to you if you are like Bill Gates or Steve Jobs.

Bill Gates's the founder of Microsoft and Steve Jobs founded Apple, both of them dropped out of school to establish their companies.

I was in a PhD program and I dropped out of that to found my company online as well.

So, this works for anyone.

Failing at school is perfect motivation to teach yourself and yet, there are so many kids around the world that have taken their own lives because of getting kicked out of school, or out of the shame of it.

Statistically, we have lost about 10 or 20 people just taking their own lives while I've been doing this video so far. That's why I'm doing it and that's why I hope to help with.

Situation 4

I've gotten this message from the law many times, "Stop drinking and speeding."

I've been pulled over for speeding at least 10 times in my life and my reaction was, "You don't know me. I'm important, don't you know who I am? I'm in a hurry. I'm going places, get out of my way."

That is a miserable way to live. The truth is that the last time I got pulled over by a police officer, I was able to experience this, "Thank you for helping me see the path to a more peaceful life. A peaceful life where I'm not in a hurry all the time."

A life free of stress and addiction is possible.

There are 12-step recovery programs all over the world working for millions to help with addictions, and billions of people get relief every day through prayer and meditation. If it works for them, there is no reason it can't work for all of us.

Situation 5

Have you got a message from friends like this, "You are crazy!"

I know there are people or someone who's going to take their life today because their friends are telling them how crazy they are, or telling them one way or another that they are a bad person, that they hate them or can't stand them.

I've been pushed to the edge several times by drama with my friends, basically telling me, "You are crazy!"

My first reaction was, "Well, you are too! You are crazy too! You wouldn't hang out with me if you weren't so crazy!"

Then my friends said, "You're being selfish," and I replied "No. you're being selfish."

They said, "You're a jerk," and I said, "No, you are a jerk."

Then, "You did this," and, "No you did that."

That could literally turn into a life ending thing.

Instead, what I say to my friends today is, "Thank you for loving me enough to tell me the truth because it motivated me to get help."

I had a friend who told me that I needed to get God into my life and I laughed, I scoffed to him, I said, "What an idiot you are."

You know what?

Even though that's the way I reacted to him, I did take his advice to heart and I did go forward to get help.

Just ask.

Have you seen "Fight Club," where Brad Pitt asks Edward Norton, "Just ask, all you got to do is ask, it's just like that."

The only separation between the problem and the solution is asking. If you ask for help any problem you have will be fixed. If you have relationships, jobs or finance problems, whatever problems, ask right now for help and they will be fixed. A solution will be given to you.

I know because I've had about every problem and they're all fixed now.

Situation 6

You might get a message like this from family, "You can do better."

My dad told me this right before he died in 2014.

He looked at me and he saw me fat, he saw me addicted, he saw me selfish, he saw me acting like a jerk, and he said, "You can do better."

It crushed me, it just crushed me.

You know my reaction?

My reaction was just like when I was a teenager, screaming at my dad, "I wish I had never been born. I wish I'd never been born."

I remember screaming at him when the truth should have been, and this should be for all parents, "I appreciate you as a parent giving me a chance at life and I'm grateful for the example, and vow to do better."

Every parent gives us a chance, an amazing opportunity to do better in life by teaching us what they did and giving us the chance to improve on it. The question comes down to, "Is it victim, or is it a choice?"

Are we, as children of parents, victims of them having fun messing around and being irresponsible, or does each soul get to choose to be here in this life today?

I believe that each soul like me has decided to come down from Heaven. I chose my parents and I came down to Earth, and then I lost my way. Now, I'm grateful through the help of others to have remembered, and I hope I'm offering you this same opportunity here, to give up being a victim and choose life today.

Situation 7

Then, when you choose life, you may get a message like I did.

In 2014, I was lying in bed with an awful hangover and suicidal depression, and I got the thought, "You are going to die soon."

My response was, "No. Not me! No, I'm not dying, I'm afraid of death, it's not fair, I don't deserve this."

When the truth is, matter and energy can never be destroyed. What we are made of never dies and neither do we. The form is always changing.

Who you are today is different from who you used to be, and is different from who you will be in terms of what your body looks like, what your life looks like.

If you bake something in the oven, if you make something out of five ingredients, baking it doesn't change the initial ingredients you put into it. Your body is made out of immortal ingredients. Whatever you do with them doesn't change the fact that everything lives forever.

If you think that the big questions in life aren't answerable as I did for lots of my life when I was miserable — I thought the big questions like, "Why are we here?" weren't answerable — try reading a book of faith, and you might be surprised to find an answer that works for you, as I've found many answers that work for me on a daily basis, or try reading "The Power of Now," or "A Course in Miracles," or "Proof of Heaven," if you want something that is less written in faith language.

Situation 8

You might get a message like this from the government that says, "We are watching you."

Have you read up on how the government is watching you?

My first reaction when I found out was "Oh my God, get out of my life, I need my privacy. Get out of my life, I hate you. You can't watch me. How dare you watch me?"

The truth is that today I say, "Thank you to the government for helping me live a life where I no longer keep secrets. I feel free to encourage the government to look at everything, to look at everything in my life. You can look through all of it. I'm not doing anything that I am here to hide. I live a life today of no secrets. I'm willing to tell you anything. I don't hold anything inside."


Because a life of secrets is a life of pain.

When we are happy, joyous and free, we want to share it with everyone. When we are miserable, frustrated, struggling and having a hard time, those are things that breed secrets.

Secrets to me equal pain.

If I'm doing great, I want to tell everyone about what I'm doing, sit down for dinner and really give them the whole story.

If I'm not doing so good, then I want to just keep it a secret act like "I'm fine." The solution is to give away all the secrets and you'll give away all the pain you've held on to.

Situation 9

You might get a message like this from the bank, "You owe us a lot of money."

It might be a message from the bank, a bill collector or someone else, and you wouldn't believe how many people have ended their own life over messages like this.

The first reaction often comes off like, "Oh my god, what am I going to do now? I'm going to go broke and die."

There are literally people who were the richest person in their town, country or the world, and when they lost their wealth, when they no longer were the richest person, they killed themselves because they couldn't live with not being the richest person anymore.

There's a better way to do it.

If your bill collectors and creditors are coming at you, you can say, "Thank you for trusting me with your money or services, so that I may give you back a return on your investment."

I owe over $270,000 today and I'm grateful to everyone who's loaned me money, so that I could use it now, and give them a return on their investment.

What I've learned is that money is a game.

More money equals more fear until we find the joy of playing the game and giving back.

You might think that if you had more money, you'd have a better life, but according to the data, once you have a comfortable life, then more money doesn't make you any happier. In fact, more money tends to make you less happy.

If you have a fear about the money you have right now, today, in your life, try having more of it. In my experience, there's even more fear and worry when you have more money because you can spend it worse and people can take it.

Situation 10

You might get a message from your partner like this to put you over the edge, "Why are you being like this?"

My mom and dad had some epic fights over this very thing. My wife and I have had some challenging times with this as well.

My first reaction most of my life has usually been, "Being like what? Being like what? What? You don't know."

The truth is, now when my wife asks something like, "Is everything okay? How are you doing? What's going on?"

I now think and respond to this with, "Thank you for helping me understand and experience my feelings."

I want to experience my feelings and continue going forward.

What you can feel, you can heal.

Any hurt, pain, anger, frustration, depression or fear will be replaced with joy after some time praying and crying.

These are two of the very most effective tools for healing anything. If you won't deal with something, it will keep following you around until you do deal with it.

I ran from pain as far back as three years old in my life. I ran for 27+ years before I stopped and looked at it.

"Wow, okay that hurt. Let's feel the hurt and move on."

I experienced some hurt and fear today right before this presentation.

I prayed about it, I cried and I feel back to normal now in just a few minutes, instead of still complaining at people 20 years later, for the same resentment.

Situation 11

You might get a message from the world, "You are not good enough!"

The world might tell you that you're not good enough. You're not high enough in the leader boards in your game, you're not strong enough, you don't look good enough, you don't make enough money, and the first reaction is often to say, "Well, neither are you. Look at this world. If this world wasn't so bad people wouldn't be ending their lives every 40 seconds to escape it. If this world wasn't such a horrible place, then it would be treating me better."

That reaction produces a devastating result that often ends in a misery, and finally releases in death.

The truth is, we are creating this world together now in perfect harmony. This is kind of a divine dance we're doing. You've brought me into your universe and I'm very grateful for that. I'm grateful that Google and Facebook have assisted with that through Facebook or YouTube ads.

The fact is, you summoned me, either consciously or on some deep level. You summoned me into your world. We're doing this dance together now.

I love this analogy.

I saw a post online where a beggar who was blind put a sign out that said: "Give me money."

No one gave him money.

A marketer came along and changed the sign to read: "It is a beautiful day outside and I can't see it."

Very quickly, the man's cup overflowed with all of the donations he received.

How many days of my life have I spent like a blind beggar, going around in the middle of the beautiful day and I couldn't see it?

The sky was blue, the sun was shining, the people were smiling, and I was complaining about everyone and everything, and all I could see was ugly.

Would you work on making a better world with me today?

I think we're making a beautiful world already.

Would you see it with us?

Would you share in our beautiful world today?

I'm inviting you, I live in a beautiful world.

I'm inviting you to join me, and everyone else in Heaven, essentially.

You can come wherever you're at, no matter how far into the depths you've got.

You're welcome to join us at any time.

Maybe your first reaction is, "Wow, I have to share this post or this video with my best friend. Oh my God, that's the best post and video ever! I couldn't even stand a living. I've watched this video at home, and there's a magical transformation that happened to me."

I think that's possible for you today, and I appreciate you reading this because so many people loved me enough to share these kinds of things with me, that eventually I got the message and instead of creating an uglier world, I'm here creating what I hope is a beautiful world today.

Will you please share this with a friend today?

You can use Steemit or YouTube or Facebook or Twitter or whatever else you like!

You can share the actual video link or the post.

You never know who you might make a huge impact on today.

Whoever you feel inspired to share this with, you might be able to help them or maybe even just in sharing it, you'll help yourself.

I have a podcast with hundreds of episodes that I put on my YouTube channel and Facebook, as well as iTunes. It's called, "Happier People." I have so many days like today, I make the podcast in the morning, there's something that comes up in my life later and whatever I said to help you in the podcast, ends up helping me.

So, maybe just sharing this video will be a decision you made.

You said, "You know what? I'm going to do something charitable to help the world today."

I've made this video on the spirit of love and joy, out of the hope that in these twenty or so minutes, maybe someone watching it would be able to stay with us today.

I'm grateful to still be here.

I've had a lot of days where I didn't want to be on this world, on this Earth anymore.

So, I'm grateful to have another day today and I'm doing everything I can think of to offer that same joy to you.

Thank you very much for reading this today.

I'll still love you whether you share this with a friend or not and I'll do my best to continue being of service to you each day wherever you are.

Thank you, and I hope you have a wonderful day today.

If you found this post helpful on Steemit, would you please upvote it and follow me because you will then be able to see more posts like this in your home feed? If you would like me to follow you, would you please read this post next?


Jerry Banfield


Hi there. Upvoted and resteem. I am glad that i finally got to know steem and now be part of the community and help its growth because there are so much great thing being done here. Sometime people just need a bit of help from something to feel meaningful to their life. Great work, keep it coming.

Yes, Wilkinshui. You are right. It is an excellent platform.

You have a great mindset @jerrybanfield... Let's make the world a beautiful place, you have tons of self awareness which most people don't have... your perspective of life is powerful.

Keep inspiring the steemit world!!

P.S. By the way.... I'm a speed reader lol

I had to comment before reading this haha.
Going to Read the whole thing now!

I worked around 5 hours on that 1 post that you commented on and it got like 10 upvotes only because I have low following :(

I'll get there :)

And Thank you for Follow and comments Yesterday!

Update* Resteemed amazing post

@adil love what you are doing on Steemit would you like me to feature you as a case study in a future video? I read several more of you articles and upvoted many of them!

I have noticed! Thank you so much! Yeah I would Love it If you could mention me!! I really appreciate it

A great post! Most especially with all the change and uncertainty at this time. Thank you!

Thank you I followed and read your post and upvoted!

I have been through every single situation described, except the "You will die soon" situation.

The first time I got an "F" during early college I felt like it was the end of the World. I thought I was some sort of super smart guy and that busted my bubble. I eventually dropped out, started studying something else, managed to accomplish the goals with good grades this time, graduated in 2009. Even so, you learn that in the grand scheme of things, having failed once or twice isn't important. Heck, getting bad grades does not even mean you will fail at life, you know? You can still succeed if you find something you love, or if you think outside the box.

BIG fan of your happier people podcast btw. I plan on because my annoyed Monday having to start my work week, so come Monday morning, I'll be buying your comedy stuff. I listened to the 10 reasons to not purchase, and I'm still interested! Hahaha. I bet your mom will still end up listening...it's what moms do! 😂

Jerry has a podcast? You guys left me out, I will have to look it up :)

You are such an attribute to Steemit! Such insight and wisdom. You had to go through the trenches to get to where you are. Thanks for sharing all your knowledge! Go get em...

Jerry You are looking like a Sweet Cherry 🍒. Thank for the informative POST...

We're in this together @jerrybanfield
Great indepth Post....

Totally agree with you @missiontothemoon :)

Thanks @stackin
One for All and All for One...

Jerry, I watch you more then leo now. I used to watch him a lot. Keep writing about the psychology stuff

@jerrybanfield not only are you the man to watch on crypto currency you also are a man with upstanding moral and values. This world needs to be a better place and its going to take serious work. You give us hope!

"IF you want to be popular, THEN you must LIKE OTHER PEOPLE. The number of people that like us is directly proportional to the number of people we like."From Vanessa Van Edwards book .
Reestemed !
Jerry thanks for beings such an amazing example for us .

I've got a friend that has been in this kind of situation so thank you very much Jerry for this vid!

Ironic I'm watching your 40 minute video about steem and now I'm posting my third comment on steem on your post HAHAHAHA .

That steem video is "Beast" huh :)

yeah it is lol but i do like his wacky energy and hes very informative

Thank you for sharing ,this a very helpful and powerfull post,
PUmped UP aNd ResTeemed

thank you

That number is unfortunately much to high!
We have to do over best to help people in need and show the love to people who help us!

thanks a lot for this, feel free to share this in my new group, I am doing a gift for all steemit community, this is all that I can do for now, I will try to do more later ☺: https://steemit.com/steem/@clixmoney/a-good-gift-from-me-for-steemit-community-love

Nicely written

I love your work and the fact you talk about so differents subjects is so awsome, continue.

The very Reason I am here , Great words from Great Man @jerrybanfield

i love your posts man always so insightful and you always can tell that you care.

Suicide is a serious issue, and i know people who have committed this act..its serious, and something to be aware of if you are in a depressed state right now.

@jerrybanfield good post

intellectually extracted
Best seen article
This article deserves steemit oscar

hi jerry, you are my biggest motivator to function atm thanks , keeeeep up ur amazing

Experience 11 situations where people often go crazy enough to end their own lives and a solution.

Well fuck me.

Jerry you can do better :D

Having been close to someone that has ended there life, It really it hit home. I will be sharing this with my friends. Thanks for sharing, your a true inspiration for our steemit community.

Wow @jerrybanfield I'm just wondering how many lives can be saved by sharing this amazing post of yours. I urge everyone to spread this across the whole world.
If it can save at least 1 , that will be just great. I have also been through quite a lot that you mentioned and it was really hard these times, if only I got your advise during those times, it would help me a lot.
Keep spreading your positivity always.
Huge kudos man.
Upvoted and resteemed. I'm on my way to read your next one.
Sunny regards from paradise Mauritius

nice post jer!

Awesome message @jerrybanfield i can relate to this big time, i was addicted to meth for 10 years and hanged out with the wrong crowd i hated when people gave me advice and the only reason i am here rightnow is when i saw that my friends and family turned their backs on me and thought i was on the brink of going crazy, i was already homeless and living in a car but when that very last person in my life gave up on me that's when i had everything to get back on my feet! and i did it and proved it to everyone that laughed at me. That is what motivated in becoming a better person and recovered everything that i have lost.

Thanks for a comforting and loving post.

Very insightful. The coping mechanisms demonstrated here are a good step in the right direction to change the pattern of thought for one that see's no hope. However, from my experience and research and education in this field specifically I can share that most (not all) people who commit suicide do so as a well thought out plan, in many cases weeks and months prior. My husband committed suicide 7 years ago, and it was well planned. Some people commit suicide for revenge and make a rash desperate attempt to gain back a person. Science suggests that the mental instability of a person with the mindset to commit suicide is a chemical imbalance in the brain. Could possibly be. Truth is nobody ever really knows the thought process and reasoning. It is just something that you have to live with and like me help others to see what it can do to the survivors. Thanks for sharing

Honored you shared your experience with your husband here!

I love the way you think. The world can either be a disgusting and horrid place or a beautiful one. Staying positive is also a big key to life and to everything else as well. Great post.

I will upvote it but so many times in so many instances it does come to a point when it just seems easier to just get it over and done with and maybe just maybe it is I don't know life really tell me what is so fucking wonderful about it? Wars rumors of wars, the sate of affairs as they are today. I will continue on but have been in that state before where I thought I was awful enough that maybe I just shouldn't be here., that everyone would be better off without me. Good luck on your mission but with a post this long if your depressed your not going to read it. short sweet concise

a lot people have so much comlicated problms thank god i m not one of them i m not saying that i dont have problems but mine are just jsut a lot simle and easy compared to others

Your work and videos are awesome: Thx and keep it up

Thank you for sharing ,this a very helpful and great post.....

Watch a series 13 reasons to die

I am so glad that you did this blog. We all need a little help, and YES it is good to know that someone else has made it through difficult times. Grateful for steemit and the folks I'm meeting, it does my heart good.

Wow very interesting! really great post! up vote it!!

btw, Can you help me in my first post? :)

The prettiest smiles hide the deepest secrets. The prettiest eyes have cried the most tears and the kindest hearts have felt the most pain. (Anonymous)

You are what you are today because of what you've gone through in life, Jerry!

You're very strong. Sometimes living under certain circumstances can be worse than leaving. I know!

Thanks for sharing.

Upvoted and already following you. Will go to the post in your link and let you know why you should be following me.

Thank you I followed off of your comment here! Love the quote!

Thank you! I somehow know you will like what I have to say in my blog posts, once I get down to it. That is one of my favorite quotes. :)

you're doing awesome job Jerry, you really help the community, thank you

I have been following you on Youtube since last week.
You can clearly see a genuine person .. it is refreshing.. even if some people say that you look weird and stuff like that.

Anyway... believe me I know depression .. i am struggling with it for some time now .... it had ups and downs .. I even wanted to tell my manager that i want to put my gun to my head and pull the trigger; I guess I am not that depressed yet.
And since I can not put my face in the camera like other people can ( hats off for you ) I just make contest online and hope I can make other people happy if they win.


Whatever you post it's very valuable.
Thanks @jerrybanfield for this wonderful information, we need it.


good post...

Very useful information. Keep posting the latest information ... I'm very happy if you want to resteem some of my articles ....

hahaha, banfield you're crazy cool

I love that your using your platform to spread this very serious and important message! Having had a friend take his own life, I can tell you first hand that it affects entire communities & those people need to know that there is help out there and many people care about them and want them to overcome whatever obstacle is in front of them. Thanks for the great post!

Yup. Been there. Done that. Hopeless. I didn't know what I wanted. I tried "everything" Nothing made me happy. It just got worse and worse. One day in the mental hospital, I wouldn't talk to anyone and they put me away, I took a vow of silence until I got some real answers. A nurse took me aside and said, "There's nothing wrong with you. You just don't have any faith in God." Her words went so deep into my heart. She was speaking from her own heart. So it was heart to heart transmission. I can still hear the words echoing... "God. God. God." right then and there I made up my mind. If there was "God" I was going to make that my life's purpose. To find Him. I'm still looking. But I'm not suicidal anymore. And certainly not bored either. Thanks for the topic and the honesty. Works everytime.. :>) Oh. I posted this on Facebook...

I was very blessed reading this article. May God bless you real good.

Great post. Sir pls advice me

Excelent post @jerrybanfield
the world need more people like you who cares about people and spend time writing this kind of post! I recently wrote a post about low self esteem because I consider this is a very common problem and I like to help people too trying to advice them with my writes. upvoted and followed!

Such a great, motivational post @jerrybanfield! Since I love life so much I could never possibly think of ending my life! Nonetheless, there are so many people out there that lost directions and fell into a black hole and are ready to leave earth. I have a friend who tried to end his life 3 times, which luckily all failed. He once told us that having a few friends who believe in him and talk positively to him really helped! I'm happy that you found a way to cope with it and are grateful for every day. Though life can be a bitch there are so many wonderful reasons to stay here and enjoy the ride! have a great and loving week

I like your tutorials.

Hi @jerrybanfield
I am organizing a steemit fest in Agra. I am looking for someone like you to sponsor also attend the fest. Can you please look at this post
and reply what are your views on the same?

Great idea I will make a new post about Steem fest soon!

we are arranging a steemit user meet today who live in Agra for the organizing team, and will be making a post regarding the same. :)
Thank you so much! Sir.

Tnx :-)

Drug consumption really needs to stop. Please upvote and follow back :)

Really loved reading this especially since I have been really sad these days. Somedays I just want to give up...

I know the feeling and am grateful that it has passed so many times. Often when life has looked the worst it was just about much better!

Awesome content, keep it up :)

@jerrybanfield thats superb article i have gained so much from him you are way too inspirational man hats off follower for life i also write you can say in start i ant to take guide from you take a look and if you like do upvote and resteem i will be encouraged thanks alot man for such beautiful article


Loved your post upvoted and followed!

thanks alot :)

What a great post Jerry. As a veteran I have both seen and experienced some very low points in my life. Always try to look at the positive side of life and enjoy it to the fullest. Life is hard and has its ups and downs, but there is always a way to get through it.

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to me it's still a miracle...
a bit overwhelming, but you have to start somewhere ^^
so i will give it a shot, hoping i get not to confused

Hi @jerrybanfield this is a great post and I can relate to it my grandma is in need of medical procedure can we help here by re-steeming and voting this link post i have, she will need to undergo endoscopy and we need to raise around $370 for the procedure. Re-steeming this link will be a great help since you have many followers, thank you and may Godbless you...


thank you for sharing, but most of those things i already knew but, it was worth going trough it again, thanks

@jerrybanfield This is a great post and for sure this is a very important topic in our world as of today. I hope enough people out there can help to safe a life today. Sometimes a tradegy can be avoided through a simple conversation with someone you haven´t talked to in a while, I mean over the phone and much more important in person not only with a simple text, not that I am saying that this is not a good way to keep in touch. But a more meaningful conversation face to face is invaluable. Spread love and good vibes. Enjoy your day

Hello Jerry.
I found out about you on the video u posted on facebook and it seems very interesting to me.. And now am getting stuck on the start. Don't really know how to start.
Please follow me back

Thank you for sharing ,this a very helpful and great post.....

Love your content, keep it coming man :)

Hey @jerrybanfield very interesting and inspirational post :) would love tom meet you one day for some personal advice!! @gingerninja

I really liked this post.
We love your blog here, and the videos on youtube, we actually joined steemit because of you, so thank you :)

We share our music here and write about our music career, and about being a married couple working together.
you're welcome to check it out :) @leoandbell

@jerrybanfield your videos are inspirational, thank you!

Great perspectives, I like your thinking!


Great thinking skills Jerry. This can help a lot of people, you wont even know. More Power.. I'm new in the steemit community.

Great post, keep it up.

Steemit will, give back the rewards to the people and not to the big Companies !

I'm become fan of you bro,
it's nice have a cup of hot campuchino and reading your post.

thanks for the wonderful post jerry and i would also personally like to thank you to introducing me the steem community.. i have upvoted and followed you please teach me more in future too..

what an amazing insight to something alot of people silently go through on a daily basis. Thank you for this article.

great stuff my brotha. youre followed now upped !! YES! STEEMWORK!

I realized that its much better to encourage someone that's in an emotional state than to put them down... You never know what a person is thinking and sometimes all a person need is genuine love and to be reassured that everything is going be alright. Thanks for sharing Jerry. Very interesting.

Good thoughts !!! resteemed and upvoted

Life is short. Just stick it out.


This is life touching write-up. Kudos to you @jerrybanfield

This reminds my childhood as well and great that you have achieved the certainty at this time. Thanks for sharing @jerry

This post was exactly what i needed to read before bed. Literally connected with nearly every single point you discussed.

I guarantee you've helped save at least 1 life with this post already. I haven't seen too much of your other posts yet but i have some serious respect and gratitude for you writing this. Thank you, you've helped me gain some much needed perspective on some things I've been dealing with.

There is always an upside to every situation - we just have to choose to see it. We have the ability to view things optimistically or pessimistically - you're so damn right.

Loads of respect for you. Thank you again.

Because a life of secrets is a life of [email protected] you Jerry...I must say u deserve a steemit Nobel prize for motivation...I never regret reading ur post from my feeds as am a dedicated fan. Will gladen my heart if u also follow me to read and comment...upvote on my first post later today. Upvoted, resteemed...keep it up

A good friend took her life 2 years ago. It kills me to think I could have changed things but I was not around at the time.

There is nothing worse than having lost a good friend to suicide. That should never have happened.

What is more saddening is the fact that the suicide rate in our world is extremely high.

One day I'm going to be in a position to help change that.

this is definitely a great post.
I can tell from your words that how much effort you have made to finish this article.

Thank, Jerry Banfield.

sad but certainly the truth

I like reading your post they are so informative and inspiring. Thanks for sharing.

Thank you so much for sharing that. thank you so much for the great videos you release! and all that you are doing for the steemit community!

Hi Jerry, thanks for the very inspiring article, your words"The fact is, you summoned me, either consciously or on some deep level. You summoned me into your world. We're doing this dance together now." holds some truth to our lil relationship. Though you dont know me yet you have been a great inspiration to me and you were a totally by chance gem found in the vast world. We have all been through tough times, I am busy get through one now , unemployment is most probably the toughest for most, even though I am temporarilly employed right now it will take years to recover from the financial losses and the extra loans but hey I am doing something. There is nothing more powerfull than forgiveness and acceptance. By acceptance I dont mean accepting your fate and just sit and watch life pass you but accepting that nobody else is going to do it for you but YOURSELF

This is another good post and I am glad you are talking about everything these days and life is not about money making only. Good initiative.Cheers!!!!!!!