The comparison game is a serious game

With each publication by friends on social networks or here on the steemit platform, enjoying a holiday, engagement or marriage can sometimes make us feel unqualified in life exactly when we feel we are "backward" in life.

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But the comparison game is a serious game. The pressure you get when you try to keep up with how others live and compare it to your life can make you depressed and focus on your own goals and your life.

Why comparing yourself to others is a big problem ?

If they compare ourselves to others. We tend to feel that we are in a "lower status." Why do we put ourselves in this position according to the theory of basic social comparison, we are social beings, and we urgently need to understand ourselves and know our place in the world, especially in our surroundings and in people close to us ..

Social comparisons fall into two categories: low comparison (comparing yourself to someone worse off than you) and high-level comparison (comparing yourself to people you think is better than you). Both these categories create problems in how we envision ourselves

While a low comparison can seem like a way to feel better, it really means that we link our self-confidence and self-esteem to the misfortune and misfortunes of others. It also makes us focus too much on the bad aspects of people as opposed to seeing the whole picture of a person.

Of course, a high-level comparison can motivate and inspire us, but our bad thoughts tend to flounder in inciting hatred or unrealistic standards, which means that we overlook the intricacies of our own lives and focus on the achievements of others.

The other problem with comparison is, although we are not used to comparing ourselves, others have a tendency to point out how to compare ourselves to others. Whether it is the choice of not marrying or having children, or any personal decision we choose to imitate (or not to imitate), there will probably be someone who has a different viewpoint or attitude, which is likely to lead us to doubt the personality or may Think about changing this decision. But we have to understand the importance of focusing on ourselves and our personalities because the perspectives of others are limited and based on their opinions and experiences. Too often pure curiosity is what leads us, not that we mean it. It is essential that we do not care about the views we do not need and focus on what benefits you in making your life as you want.

Remember that everything takes time. It is often frustrating when we know that some of our goals in life must be realized at a time, but things are not the way we planned them (this is when the comparison game is in its strongest state) so try not to focus on A specific time and always remember that you are always on the path of your dreams.

People walk in the way of their dreams at different speeds and no problems in this. Be proud of what you have reached, there are many things that your life deserves for you to appreciate regardless of the size of your successes. And remember that you will achieve your success and goals in your time - the best time for you and no one else.