SUCH IS LIFE

"But such is life, the silliest proverbs prove to be true, and when a man thinks, now it's all right, it's not all right by a longshot. Man proposes, God disposes, and there's always that last straw to break the camel's back." - Alfred Doblin

I really don't know if you ever missed a beloved one before. Life has a way of taking from us the one thing we cherish most. It is very unbearable when someone you truly love suddenly disassociates or passes on. I'm someone who never take for granted people who come into my life, I believe a person is only a person because of other people.

The people in your life have significant impact on you and so it is pertinent to keep up a healthy relationship with them to keep them, however it is not everyone who comes into your life that will remain forever, some of them will leave you and others you will lose contact with as times passes by.

There were moments you wished it had never passed because of the wonderful experiences it brought. At College, there was so much fun, best friends were my immediate family members and we were so intimate that they knew almost everything about me. I'm sure I have reminded you of some of the memorable times of your life in college or high school. I would have loved that anyone who comes into my life for good stays for good but that's not how things work in life. We are not in control of all events that are bound to happen.

No matter how you will try keeping people by your side, time and circumstances may not allow things to work the way you propose. Besides some actions are inevitable.

There are parents who build all their life around their children, they are fond of them and want to be with them all the time. The children eventually grow up and to start their own family, leaving their parents behind, the parents now have the shock of their life. I'm so close to my wife now than to my mum, unlike some years back when I was always around her. It's good to have people in our life but then it is also important to know that we cannot keep them forever. The best thing I have done and has been helpful is to always move on with my life. It is true, we can't keep everyone forever but we can move on in life.

Though losing contact with great friends is sad but the sudden loss of our love ones is a painful experience, is very uneasy during those moments. Imagine the person you have known for years leaving without saying goodbye. Yea, that's life, perhaps counting those you have lost will be a hard thing to do. Some whose death came as a shock since you knew it was impossible for them to have met that fate yet the unexpected happened.

I remember standing still and perplexed when someone came to me and broke the news about the death of my childhood friend. I couldn't hold myself for some moment and felt bad due to the shocking news.

I began imagining all the good times and all the experiences we have shared together when we were little. How will life be with his absence? I thought I couldn't move on. With time I realised that's life, even if we live long like Methuselah and reach 969 years we will still die. There is no cause for alarm, the only thing we need is understanding that 'such is life'.

Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart. Eleanor Rooseve

Another thing also remains prevalent in life, and is hard to explain. People you love most, they are the ones who end up hurting you the most. How does it happen that way? people you have been nice to, shown so much love and have given your all, are those who end up hurting you. I can't recall the number of times I have been wrong by people that I cherished the most. I sincerely believe it's the more reason many people find it hard to relate with others. Whether we like it or not, that's life, offenses are bound to come.

Every time we make the decision to love someone, we open ourselves to great suffering, because those we most love cause us not only great joy but also great pain. The greatest pain comes from leaving. When the child leaves home, when the husband or wife leaves for a long period of time or for good, when the beloved friend departs to another country or dies … the pain of the leaving can tear us apart. Still, if we want to avoid the suffering of leaving, we will never experience the joy of loving. And love is stronger than fear, life stronger than death, hope stronger than despair. We have to trust that the risk of loving is always worth taking. Henri J.M. Nouwen

It is not about how much we have tried to do things right or avoided anticipated situation from happening but rather that is what life entails. Such is life...

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