The Crab Bucket Mentality
Yo Jesslets!
This was going to be a post about gosh I can't even remember, I wrote it yesterday and saved it in my drafts on busy.org but the site seems to be down. So you'll just have to wait until the site is up because once I put something down Its erased from my memory.
I checked their discord and all I see are people saying, is it down for you its down for me lol.
I guess that's what decentralisation is about right? Shitty communication with your community. Thankfully we have other front ends so single point of failure can suck it.
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In any case I am sitting here trying to mentally prepare for a wedding, gosh I really am not keen on these events they're so time consuming and I just don't enjoy them but you have to kinda go for moral support and the food right?
I'll probably get tonnes of questions on why I am not married and when I will be, from people who can't even balance their own cheque books or properly wipe their own arses lol
Its a funny old thing at how entitled older people are
- Just because you're older doesn't mean you're wiser.
- Just because you're older doesn't mean you have life experience. * Just because you're older doens't mean you know whats best for me
- Just because you're older doesn't mean you're an authority on anything
People tend to be stingy in general and hold on to what they have unless its opinions, when it comes to opinions they're more than happy to shill that shit out like its the gospel truth.
I don't want what you want
No offense to you and your definition of success but believe it or not I don't want what you want. I don't see your life as success and I don't see your life as the life that would make me happy.
I don't have any opinions on what you do, say and think so why do you have to have ones on mine?
If you're so happy with your life why does it bother you so much what I or others do? Wouldn't you be so content that you couldn't be bothered? Wouldn't you know that people are allowed to live their own life and choose their own happiness?
If you're miserable sort that shit out but don't try to force me down your path because it makes you feel better about your decision.
Just because you blow someone elses candle out doesn't make yours any brighter
Basically If I can't have it, neither should you! We'll you're entitled to your opinion but you're not going to stop me from what I'm doing.
There is no right way to live, just your way, if you don't like your way change it, don't try to change others to suit yours.
If my life shows you all your insecurities that's more a refection on you, than it is on me. We all have one life to live, I don't plan on using it to imitate and follow what others have done, for to em, that is a waste of my life.
Have your say
What do you think? Are people just full of shit? lol
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Agree with pretty much everything. Age can definitely be a misleading factor when it comes to accessing someone's wisdom, kindness, and other qualities.
And happiness and ideas of how life should be are very personal..
PS. I am not a big fan of weddings and other such events too!
It’s as if they have this card they can play called age and they use thinks like manners and respecting elders and other traditions to hide from criticism
I agree, it’s a personal choice! Like I’m totally happy if you happy but I’m not going to get on your case if your happiness isn’t what I think is happiness
Lol i was about to comment looks like only the dudes are hating on weddings! Nice to get female also throwing down with the boys
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Quality venting there Lord of the Jess!
I've been there and experienced the geezers prodding to size up whether you're a threat to their fragility, can make use of you, or a not worth my precious time socialites.
Let the liquor flow and bite the tongue until you find that drunken bunny that can ride your "vibe"..
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lol Lord of Jess, I like that! I think I’ll coin that phrase or should I say token, I don’t really like token since I was always the token person of colour all through high school lol
I don’t really pay much mind to it, I’ll just keep my mouth shut there’s no sense in reasoning with people like that’s they’re too far gone up their own arses!
That energy I could use to steem or something constructive
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Yes live your own life not what someone else says you should do this or do that👍.
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There have been very few instances that I would listen to anyone who hasn’t shown me real proof that they knew what they were talking about!
If you have what I want for sure I’ll listen, teach me how to replicate that, if not I wouldn’t be very attentive to anything you say
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In Jamaica we say 'crabs in a barrel' meaning a group of ppl who insist on holding you down or holding you back in life... ie. watch crabs trying to climb out of a barrel, the higher one gets the more likely another latches on and they all fall back down.
People like that a pretty easy to spot but not immediately, some make it seem like they are trying to help you at first then, boom--- back down you go. It can be anything from a simple game to a promotion at work.
Always keep an eye/ear out for them.
Nice to hear different perspectives, cheers #SteemOn
Ah I’d love to visit Jamaica some day I don’t know much about the country but I’d like to experience the life there, the food the people!
I think Cape Town has a lot of the same problem especially due to race and all those other made up stuff we use to divide ourselves
Indeed you really need to do due diligence on those you let into your life! You become like the people you surround yourself with so choose wisely
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Hahah nice, weddings are lame. My wife and I got married in Vegas, F em!
I know people that are getting married just to check of the ‘next steps’ in their life and relationships. So lame
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I don’t really have much of an opinion on weddings 💒 really they do seem lame but what do I know? Lol
Indeed, once you check off all the boxes you -= happiness
I guess I’m just a miserable cunt, lol! Happy to play my role
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