Your Inner Circle - A key to happiness and success....

in #life6 years ago

This might sound like I’m contradicting some of the things I’ve said before, but its not really the case. For many years now I’ve been a firm believer that as much as we may meet a lot of people, call many of them friends, there is a small group of them who will really earn your complete trust.


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Selecting who they are, or even getting to meet them is a journey in itself, but no doubt they are very few that you are bound to meet, and we all must learn to appreciate them profoundly.

I’m not saying that we should not be friendly with those who don’t belong to our inner circle, nothing that drastic. I’m simply saying that being aware of who they are, being grateful and even expressing that gratitude to them is something I’ve chosen not to skip.

I know I often talk on this blog about success, what I believe it means, the search for it that everyone should have in their hearts. So today, I thought it would be appropriate to talk about another aspect of success: having the right people by your side.

Think about this for one second: What good would it do to have it all, if there was noone there to share it with? - The answer is so simple and gray, that it rattles my core. Even if we accumulated all the riches of the world they would not mean much at all.

This is precisely why I think its important to have this reminder, to think about everyone around us a potential partner, as someone that could be part of that inner circle. The people that will stand by your side no matter in what stage of life you are in, that don’t call you friend only when you can do something for them, but when they want to do something for you.

There are risks, I won’t lie about that. I made some mistakes too. I’ve trusted someone before that turned out to not be honest in the end. But with enough practice you learn to recognize those who are sincere, those who mean the words they speak and show you true friendship with actions.

If I had one good life advice to give someone who is feeling alone in the trenches of life, it would be to this.

“Find your inner circle as soon as you can, find your allies, your brothers, your sisters and then nurture those bonds as often as you can, because when life throws you curveballs, they will be the ones to come and events merit celebrations they will bring the bottle of wine.”

Until next time

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The vast majority of us have companions, or if nothing else one companion—somebody we invest energy with, somebody who knows us superior to anything others do, somebody we can rely on when the need emerges. It's been said that a companion is a blessing that we give ourselves. However, what amount of time do we truly spend pondering those individuals who matter more to us then the various individuals we meet and cooperate with for the duration of our life, here and there including family?

The significance of companionship. There's almost certainly that a companion adds to the completion of life. Validness, genuineness, and trust are characteristics we hope to discover in a companion. There's an understanding that the coupling together of individuals in fellowship enables every one of us to characterize and understand an important life.

"The dialect of fellowship isn't words however implications."

"At the point when the character of a man isn't obvious to you, take a gander at his companions."

A decent companion shows up regardless. A genuine companion underpins and supports us, endures our weaknesses, acknowledges us unequivocally, and tends to us regardless.

A genuine companion strolls in (notwithstanding when they'd rather be elsewhere), when every other person is exiting. With a genuine companion the dividers descend and you can be your identity without fear. A decent companion knows you well—now and then superior to anything you do yourself—and isn't reluctant to reveal to you things you would prefer not to let yourself know. A companion is available for you regardless of what time or day it is.

"A genuine companion is somebody who conceives that you are a decent egg despite the fact that he realizes that you are somewhat split."

"It is one of the endowments of old companions that you can bear to be dumb with them."

At last I only say

Don’t walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don’t walk behind me , I may not lead. Just walk beside me and be my friend.

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Hello@chbartist. Youre right true friends are always there wether rich or poor always counting each side. Nice choice of word it moves my heart.

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the true friends are very little, and the fake friends are various!!

very much correct! I remember so many people

Terrific post. Sadly, the younger generation think friends are those who are on their social media platforms.
Yes, that true friend will be with you until either you or they pass from this life.

My best friend and companion

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Friends change these days as much as the meaning. If you find just one true friend, not including your partner. Who is there your whole life... You are the lucky ones!!!
Great post but this convo can go so deep there's not enough 1's and 0's
Have a great day beautiful steemanity 🙈

Hard to tell who true friends are vs. fake friends. But real friends will support you through thick & thin, they won't need anything in order to visit you, they will offer to help you with your finances whenever possible, they will call you randomly to make sure you are doing well, overall they will always have the best intentions in mind for you no matter what.

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Often we avoid risk because we are not ready to accept the consequences. Without realizing it, we have been trapped in the comfort zone for too long.

In fact, like Mario Teguh's success words, the risks and success basically come together. Never expect success if you don't dare to face the risk behind it.

I think sometimes in life friendship becomes more important than the relations because we cannot choose our relatives (blood relatives) but we are free to choose friends. A true friend is a valuable asset. It is not important to make lots of friends but it is important to make true friends. It is not important if friend list is long but it is important that friendship may stay long.
We all have friends but only some of them make a close group-a inner circle as you mentioned. They really matters and make much impact on our life. However, a friend in need a friend indeed.
Nice thoughts dear. Have a great time.

Good see you @akdx - All the best!

Thank you dear!

I agree with you... I have always felt that I love my friends more than my family, because I chose my friends, whereas love for my parents and siblings is implied due to our blood bond. Maybe it's wrong of me to say that way, but it feels right. At the end of the day, when you're in your darkest hour, who do you turn to for help or guidance? When you've got good news, who do you tell it to first? In my case, it's those few crazy bastards I chose to befriend.

When you've got good news, who do you tell it to first? In my case, it's those few crazy bastards I chose to befriend.

The bond of friendship is a thing which connects two souls. One can develop this feeling also for his/her family members. A good communication is necessary for being familiar with our own family members too.

Hello how are you, I agree with you ... I have always been selective with my friends ... I treat everyone, I share with them, I help them, I laugh with them, I pray them ... but my civilized .. My friends really are very few. For me a friend is the one who is with you in good times and bad, who rejoices in your triumphs and who feels your sadness, who shows that they want the best for you, who advises you regardless of what you do not like what is going on to say because he wants the best for you ... there are very few who are really friends ... that's why I treat many ... but really only 3 friends ... and also my husband and my mother are and they will always be my best friends .... Of the 3 friends that I mentioned to you I can say 100% what I'm sure they are with me in the good times and the bad ones and they want the best for me ... equally I love them . They are my friends really!

My daughter is sad because she says she has few friends ... and I always tell her, it's better to have a real friend than 100 friends who really are not ... (I hope you can really understand what I meant. I am writing with the google translator because I speak Spanish, and the translator changes some words) Have an excellent Sunday.

Good see you @blessed-girl. Have a good Week!!!

I actually think you are a pretty good writer and that you put together a nice post.

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Keep doing what you do though.

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Nice words!

As some artists said ... if you want to know someone very well ( this one suits in the artistic world) take him with you on tour :-)

Maybe it can be applied in the normal world as well ... sometime people don't understand the boundaries of normality between helping someone and taking advantages on him ...

Nice subject with long debates on it ... thanks for sharing it

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A large part of my business model is focused on interpersonal relationships. Humans are social creatures and we constantly engage in relationships with others through work, school, social media and elsewhere. Human connection is an important part of our lives, and we make a point to interact with the people we feel closest to.

It’s great to have a lot of friends. However, the key is to have the proper social interactions and the proper interpersonal relationships to achieve success and happiness in your life. Not everyone is going to be in support of your success and your dreams. Who are you going to let into your circle?

That’s why I love the term “circle of influence.” You probably interact with multiple people a day: employees, co-workers, parents, spouses, friends, children. These are all great relationships to have.

But let’s challenge ourselves for a minute. Make a list of the people you interact with on a monthly basis (continuously). This doesn’t include the woman at the checkout counter at the local grocery store -- really think. Narrow that list down to the five people you interact with the most. Don’t create judgments around these people just yet. This should be a true list of who is within your current circle, the people who you essentially have the closest relationships with.

Extra credit time: Can you think of anyone in your life currently who can help make you a better person? Write down five (a different five people) if you can. If you don’t have anyone in your life who could possibly be a mentor, think about whose life you may want to learn from.

How do we determine who is truly inside or outside our circle of influence?

The Outsiders

So often we try to fill our inner circle with as many family, friends, co-workers, etc., as possible to seem like we have it all. It is in our nature to look for trust, love and acceptance. But when we fill our circle with too many people, especially people who are not helping us grow as individuals, we don't create time for the strong interpersonal relationships that can help us succeed. We are wasting time on people who are not influencing us positively, people who are not giving us the energy we are giving them.

Below are five questions I use to determine whether I should let someone into my circle of influence. If you can answer “yes” to all four questions, then you can allow this person into your circle. You want to choose people who will help you strive to be the best entrepreneur, business owner, boss and person you can be.

The Winners

Think of your circle of influence like a team. You want the best players on your team so you have the best chance of winning, right? There are five players on the court for a basketball game per team, just like the five people in your circle of influence.

So, let’s imagine you’re the point guard. That’s your strong suit. You need to find other players who are better at rebounding and shooting to build up your team. Your circle of influence does not have to be restricted to just five teammates; however, you should absolutely restrict the number of people within your circle. What are your weaknesses? Find people who can make you better in the areas that you need it most. Find people who align with your values and your journey.

Great words @sanjaythakkar and thank you for your time.

A friend in need, a friend indeed

A bit of a sense of humor, I like that. Since he's stated his hasn't found anyone on here to add to his inner circle your phrase would encompass the majority here.

True friends can be tested through time and at your lowest moment. There will always be there when your down and lonely, supports you and uplift you in times of trouble - in this moment, true friends shine among others who pretend to be your friend.

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