It wasn't taken as abuse directly at me in all honesty, I'm used to micro levels of abuse on building sites now anyway. It's more to display the fact that I didn't stand up for what I believed in. I'm a straight guy and it's a community that I believe in and the fact I didn't challenge him on that just means I'm not fighting for the beliefs I hold.

I'm glad I don't have to work with him again that's for sure, but there is always someone else around the corner! That discomfort is something you have to learn to be content with I think, it's always the voice in your head that runs amok. I hope in time the thinking twice goes away and you can be at peace in public, things have to get better over time.