I came across an outburst by a lady who feels that Banky W is wrong to marry Adesua. Let me quote her "Does it mean that BankyW had no lady who stood by him and suffered with him when he had nothing? Now that he is built, he married an already made Adesua. Any body that preaches to ladies to stand by their man and fight with him should go to bed, and to my future husband, if you know that you will leave me after we have gone through hard times together better don't come but if you know that you will marry me after we have conquered together, you are welcome. "

I shook my head after reading it,didn't want to say anything as it was a public page. I decided to write on it generally to ladies including myself cause I know that she is not the only one that have that wrong ideology.

I think the reason most people think that way is because they don't know their worth or they have no worth (sorry to say). Marriage is not a tool for paying back good deeds,neither is it a favour. We need to quit given men that impression that they are doing us a favour by marrying us.

If you have a worth and know your worth, you won't be the one at loss when a relationship doesn't lead to marriage.
Have you seen a guy genuinely in love??? No guy in his right senses will leave a virtuous, equipped, well behaved, ambitious, attractive, understanding, etc lady that he genuinely love for another girl just because he has made it in life. Aside the emotional heartbreak of separating from someone that you were dating, there is no other justifiable reason to be sober. On the long run, it's something to be thankful for as a broken relationship is far better than a broken marriage.

Do's and Don't To Stop You From Lamenting Over A Relationship That Doesn't Lead To Marriage

1. Have a worth and know it :- Gold doesn't cry when the owner loose it,the owner does the crying. If you have built yourself and equipped yourself with all the right qualities,you won't see marriage as a favour and there would be no cause to lament that the guy left you for someone else.

2. Define your relationship:- Don't build a relationship based on assumptions, there should be a defined reason you are together.

3. Single until married :- No matter how you love a guy or the guy loves you, he doesn't own you until he weds you. Don't see yourself as a wife to someone you are not married to,don't change your name and start performing the duties of a wife, also don't allow him block the chances of you getting married. You can be smart about it by being loyal but still available. Allow him know that he doesn't own you yet and you too shouldn't claim ownership of him until he weds you.

4. Be Yourself :- Be original and do things naturally, don't go out of your way to try to please him just to show that you are a good lady, washing, cooking and doing things not at free-will but to proove yourself marriable. If your care and contributions to his life is genuine, natural and at free-will, you won't see it as a job that deserves salary(marriage) at the end of the day.

5. Silence pressure :- Yeah the pressure from our parents,peer,social media, etc is usually high and most people fall for it. Because of these some ladies want to get married to just any guy and get mad if it doesn't work out. Remember that these people won't stay in your marriage with you, don't push yourself to someone for fear of how the society will react to your status.

It's a great priviledge to be a lady,flaunt your charisma
Thanks for reading
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