How To Make Someone Love You Easily

Humans are addicted to simplicity and averse
to complexity. Only a few people realize that the
reason why their attempts at making love
work, is always met with failure, is because of
their personal complexity. I have met people
who have been so hard to figure out, that
only God could love them effectively. The
moment loving you proves too much of a
challenge to your prospects, they would
gladly go for other options. The key to
making it easy for someone to love you, is to
understand yourself and to communicate that
understanding to your partner clearly.
If you can’t understand yourself, there is no chance that anyone will understand you. If they can’t understand you, they will have a hard time loving you, and at some point they might have to give up on you.
Wanting somebody so badly, isn’t going to
make them stay,you’ve got to find a way to
make it easy for them to stay. That way is by
having a crystal clear understanding of who
and what you are.

1. YOU MUST KNOW AND
   UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU DESIRE.
   How can a lover go about pleasing you, if you
   have no idea of what you desire from the relationship. You will be a mystery to your lover, if your desires aren’t clearly understood. This clarification and communication of each others desires, should be the first prerequisite to the launching of any relationship. If your lover is ignorant of your deepest desires, they will be left to wandering assumptions that will fail to strike a chord in your heart. The point is that it's
   difficult to please anyone who doesn’t even
   know what pleases them.

2. YOU MUST KNOW AND UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU WON’T TAKE.
   Before a person can love you effectively, you must be clear about what you aren’t willing to tolerate in a relationship and communicate that upfront. But unfortunately, many do not even have an idea of their
   partner’s turn offs, until their lover penalizes
   them for violating. That is cruel, and it's like setting examinations for someone in an area
   where they weren’t taught before hand. Understanding what you won’t take will enable your lover know what they ought to avoid, to make the relationship work.

3. YOUR MUST UNDERSTAND YOUR
   HISTORY AND HOW IT INFLUENCES YOUR CHOICES.
   Everyone is either running from something or running toward something. Those who however get
   connected to us as we run, must be given a clear cut understanding of our evolution. Only then will they understand why we are running the way we do. It takes the understanding of our history for people to understand why we are the way we are, and why we do the things we do. This means we must search deep within our heart to uncover our hidden motives, after which we can now communicate them to those seeking to love us.

4. YOU MUST UNDERSTAND YOUR
   DIRECTION.
   The question; where am I going? must first be answered before : who is to go with me? Unfortunately many make the mistake of choosing who to go with, before choosing where they are going. The outcome of this is that, when they eventually determine where they are going,the one they are going with, might not be willing to go with them.
   Direction must always come before affection.
   If you find affection before finding direction, arrival at that direction might eventually cost you your affection. The summary of this matter is that self understanding is a prerequisite to your partner’s understanding of you, and this dual
   understanding is the foundation for all outstanding loves. To make it easy for your lover to love you, understand yourself so well and communicate that understanding so clearly, that it would be almost impossible for your lover to misunderstand you. Doing so will give your relationship the much celebrated stability it deserves.

5. YOU MUST UNDERSTAND YOUR
   HIDDEN FEARS AND INSECURITIES.
   Most of our personal reactions in a
   relationship, stems out of our deep rooted
   fears and insecurities. Those reactions
   however seem irrational to the ones that seek
   to love us, because they are largely unaware
   of such fears and insecurities. In other to win
   your partner’s empathy,those hidden
   insecurities should be shared with them or
   else they may never understand.