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RE: Secrets, Lies, and the Need to Share Knowledge for Lie-Detection and Greater Understanding
My oh my @builderofcastles ....what you just said. No happy endings in that situation. Statistically, there are suppose to be 11% in the population but I think it is much higher. They completely lack empathy and their whole identity is based on a false facade they put out to the world - they depend on it.
Awareness of this is paramount to changing the ugly that is happening. The problem is that most people can't comprehend something so foreign to their being. It is very difficult to wrap your mind around someone being so deceptive or doing something so terrible.
I believe the number is lower than 11%.
However, these people are like errant alpha particles that go and cause a uranium atom to fission, and then to the next, and then the next.
In dating, one psychopath can destroy 10 men. Making them almost useless for dating.
And, our pyramidal structures attract them to the top positions. So, where ever the TV camera points, we see a disproportionate amount of them. They are what's entertaining. They are in all the spot lights. They are really in our face.
And we do not recognize them.
The 'covert' narcissists are the real dangerous types (more introverted). They are not necessarily in the spot light like the 'overt' narcissist. At least with the overt narcissist, you know what you're getting (they brag and pump themselves up) and they can have some capacity for empathy. Not with a covert narcissist - they target vulnerable people and take their rage out on them in secret - get pleasure from it (because it's a feeling they can feel). Both of these 'need' other people to validate them. And often these two personalities have additional psychopathies attached.
Psychopaths and sociopaths don't need other people, but all 3 of these types lack empathy which can make them dangerous because they also feel superior over others.
I would agree that a lot of these personalities occupy top positions of power.
I do recognize them, but it's taken me a very long time to understand and know that this behavior has a name and that they do not think and feel like everyone else. They truly don't.
And yes, they will destroy everyone around them and create a mountain of chaos.
The covert narcissists are indeed very dangerous when dating, or just a random in the workplace.
They do not have the drive to get to the top, or more specifically, they get nothing from being in the spotlight. But, the covert narcissist could be anywhere, and they will suck you in, then suck you dry.
After they are through with you, you will doubt your ability to tell which way is up.
I have 'two' in my family. I understand. Awareness.
Sorry you had this experience. What doesn't break us, makes us stronger and wiser ;)