Why I Chose to Homeschool - What Prompted My Decision

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I kind of jumped the gun and answered part of this question when I wrote Why We Chose To Homeschool - The Many Benefits and Advantages.

In this post I will be speaking about what prompted me to look into homeschooling and the experiences that encouraged my decision to stay home with my children.

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Working at the Learning Center


My husband and I had already been married for three years when I started working as a classroom teacher for three year olds at an educational learning center. At this point I was still taking classes to pursue my education career.

I remember it distinctly, the day I decided I would never drop my kids off at a daycare or learning center. A mother was dropping off her daughter for the day. After the mother said goodbye to her she started crying frantically. The mother gave her one last hug, shoved her off and rushed to the door. She turned around to me and said

Ya know I really don’t have to work but it’s my time to get away from her. I get to take a break and engage in some adult conversation.

That seriously broke my heart. I saw this fragile little girl who just wanted to be with her mommy but her mommy couldn’t wait to get away from her. This same little girl had behavior challenges and a hard time making friends with her classmates. There were a few other students that had a hard time saying goodbye to their parents as well.

Trust me, as a parent I now get the part about wanting a break. I believe every parent needs a refresher and some time away to miss their kids (like a date night, shopping time, going out for coffee and fresh air, etc.). It was just seeing how sad she was watching her mother walk away and leaving her in a place she dreaded being. I hardly ever saw her smile and when she did it was because she liked the snack that was served that day.

A second confirmation of my decision to be a SAHM and homeschool came from a close friend. She had two children she was homeschooling and I thought it was the most unique and wonderful thing to see. She sat down with me and shared some scriptures that I did an exhaustive study on. I read in Deuteronomy 11:18-19 that we are supposed to teach the words of the Lord to our children day in and day out;

(18) Therefore shall ye lay up these my words in your heart and in your soul, and bind them for a sign upon your hand, that they may be as frontlets between your eyes. (19) And ye shall teach them your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.

How can I do my duty as a Christian mother if my kids are at school all day?

Another scripture she shared was Titus 2:5 which speaks about the virtues that a woman should have and what was expected of the aged woman:

(5) To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

I dug deeper into these scriptures as a young wife and one day hopeful to be mother. I realized my duty was to take care of my home and children. Contributing financially to our household as a homemaker would consist of me going out into the marketplace to sell my handmade goods and provide services based on my skill set. It would be difficult for me to meet these responsibilities if I were working outside the home.

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My Home Learning Center


While I was working at the learning center I became pregnant with our first child. At 3 months pregnant I decided to leave the center and create my own home learning center where I would keep up to three children on my own. That way when our daughter was born I would already be set up and prepared to watch 4 babies. I ended up watching two of my friend’s newborn babies, a boy and a girl (both were 3 months old when they first came), and it was quite wonderful. I stopped pursuing my education career because I knew this is where I was supposed to be.

We set up our living space downstairs just for the center and I had so many plans on how to teach and what to teach when they reached certain ages. This was my way of staying at home while still contributing to the finances. It was while I was running my own learning center that my third and final confirmation came.

As I was watching over these precious babies they went through different milestones. When the baby boy started crawling for the first time I was right there, recording it for his parents. Excitedly, I showed the mother the video when she came to pick him up and she started crying. I wasn’t for sure what the reason was but I assumed they were happy tears being that he started crawling. She then said

I can’t believe I wasn’t here for his first time. That should have been me recording this.

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I felt so bad and terrible. Not that I recorded it (she expressed so much appreciation for this later) but bad for her in that she wasn’t there to witness that milestone. Some may say she will see him crawl again and again but let me reassure you there is nothing like the first time...it’s a special moment that won’t ever be a first again.

I decided on that day I would never miss a milestone. I never wanted to experience being on the other side...where I walk into daycare and someone shows me a video of my kid’s first crawl, when they took their first step, first table food feeding, first words etc. I wanted to be the one behind the camera and enjoying that moment instead of someone telling me about it. That meant a lot to me. Our kids only get one set of parents and I wanted us to be those parents that don’t miss a beat. Childhood years go by too quick not to enjoy every moment possible.

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I want to say that when I make posts speaking of our choices to homeschool I am not downing parents that choose not to or that are unable to. I am simply sharing our personal journey and reasons for making this decision. Everyone’s family dynamic is different and every parent has the right to make choices for their children that they see is best. I have several friends who want to homeschool but simply can’t because they are single parents and have to work. We have been blessed to be able to do what we set out to do.

So I’m sure you already figured this out but shortly after my daughter was born we decided to close the learning center. I wanted to give my own children my undivided attention and care and that’s exactly what I did. We now have five children whom I homeschool and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I wanted to be a grade school teacher anyway, now I have my very own class at home! 😄 I’ll get to experience grade school, middle school and high school all in one place...in the comfort of my own home.

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Very nice post on your reasons for arranging a home schooling program. It was insightful. :)

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@crosheille, Everyone's Life Path and Journey is different and at the end of the day Diversification Of Experiences make human beings great explorers. Stay blessed.

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Loved this! Thanks for stopping by to share :)

Welcome and thank you so much for your kind appreciation. Enjoy your time ahead.

Perfect timing with this! I'm just putting the curation post together and we were a bit thin on the ground for homeschooling posts this week.

So glad your reasons to homeschool were made apparent to you before you made the choice and not after, so that you didn't miss some of you first child's milestones. It used to break my heart talking my eldest to school in tears every day, because she hated being there. At the time I knew no better. Everyone tells you they'll get over it and they have to learn to cope, it's for the best there are no other options.

Awesome! Glad I was right in time ;D

Thank you. I am glad for the motivation that shaped my decision. It’s sad that they make parents feel there are no other options.

You are so lucky, @crosheille, both to have found your calling and to be in a position to do this.. and your kids are so blessed to have such a loving attentive Mum. My heart broke when you told the story of the little girl wanting her Mum.

Thank you so much @riverflows! I feel so blessed for this opportunity. It still breaks my heart when I think of her.

Really enjoyed reading this post @crosheille and reminiscing back over our family's choices. From the outset, we did not believe there was anything more important than our stewardship responsibility for our "quiver full" of blessings.

There was some sacrifice. The job I held to support my wife being at home required me to travel. I was always at peace knowing how much it meant to me that my children were blessed with their beloved mother always being there. From a broken home, that was not my experience.

Loved the part about not missing milestones. Looking back, we particularly value being the ones who taught our children to read. Before they could read on their own, we read to them all the time. A favorite memory was intentionally changing up a story I was reading for the 100th time. Just for a little variety ... 😏 They would turn, look up with a big "silly Dad" smile on their face and say, "That's not how it goes!" 😉

Thanks again for stirring up some fond memories. Stay the course, you'll never regret it!

Do you ever wonder how many families today in America are making similar choices?

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Thank you @roleerob, I am glad you enjoyed reading :)

My husband says the same thing. He works quite a bit to make ends meet but he is at peace knowing his kids are at home, safe in the care of their mother.

Hahaha that is adorable. I bet it was fun changing up the stories to add a little spice to them. We really enjoy having family reading time.

Yes I wonder that quite often. You really can’t tell from the statistics because so many homeschools are private and not listed. From what I can tell there are more and more families choosing this path and it’s great to see.

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Thank you. 😊

Thank You! ☺️

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Awww thanks so much, how sweet of you ~ ☺️

I can so identify with a lot of what you are saying. There is no way that I could be away from my children at a young age, I want to b there for them and see them develop and let them know that I am here for them. That to me is so important. It does break my heart hearing of young kids and even babies being left with strangers for most of the day xx

Absolutely! It’s a good feeling when your kids know you are there for them and want to be with them and equally as important. It is very saddening. We are so blessed to be in the positions we are in ~ 💛

I’m happy you didn’t miss out on your children’s upbringing. Kudos to you @crosheille for homeschooling. I admire you and think it’s wonderful you were able to do it. 💕

Thank you so much! I am so grateful to be able to do so.

I find it really admirable that you do that - I have never known anyone that does that here in Belgium :)

I really appreciate that, thank you!

I think it takes a lot of patience to homeschool
And even though I toyed with the idea because of how messed up the education system is as I cannot afford private or international schools, I knew I am not cut out for it.
I really am amazed at SAHM who homeschool and I have had long conversations with many of them.
I know a mum who has 7 of her own and bakes fancy cakes to support the household income....
Just amazing.
Thank you for sharing your story <33

Oh yes, loads of patience for sure.

Thank you so much for your positive feedback and encouragement. Wow that is so inspiring, 7 children and bakes to help with the income...so amazing. Thanks for sharing that :)

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I loved Homeschooling my kid!

That’s awesome! Did you homeschool all the way even through high school years? We need to start thinking ahead about how to do that. There are some interactive hs classes online that they might get enrolled in to assist me with teaching, especially those harder classes I know nothing about lol.

Thanks for stopping by @kweenb :)