others as little more than "game pieces" in their personal maps of life. And I find myself alternately disturbed/depressed that a healthier non-usary alternative seems to be the exception, rather than the rule.

Sad and yes, very true.

It's all so transactional, and definitely not unconditional.

Absolutely and I witness this in my own family often!!! In so many ways I find human behaviour so fickle.

And yes, I am an idealist and romantic, in many ways... even if it's not always the most functional way to be, in life!

Functional schmunctional. Don't change!