RE: Better Life: A Sudden Change of Direction
It is so true what you say about people and their feedback to what decisions you make. They always have a thousand and one reasons why your should not do what you say you are going to do because they themselves don't want it / are fearful of it / or maybe it changes a level of how "convenient" you are for them in their life.
Having come from a family of men, being the youngest and the only girl... I know that scenario all too well... big brothers are awfully good at imposing their opinions and view points on to you.
Personally, I think we should be ever evolving because if we aren't then we are stagnant - and that in essence would mean that even if we DID have a vision for ourselves or a clear direction we intended on - it can and often does change as we go along. All the little decisions we make along the way, ultimately shape the big picture outcome. Kind of like one of those "choose your own adventure" books that we used to have as kids.
I find this topic quite fascinating really - when you start to study or dissect the details of the roads you have chosen and how much they may differ had different decisions been made along the way.
Me... I don't cast anything in stone - sure I have a pretty settled life right now, but I am at peace with the fact that this could change at any second for a multitude of reasons. I too, have also become far more confident and comfortable with standing my ground regarding what is best for MY life now, rather than being swayed by the opinions of others for whatever reason.
This is definitely one of the areas of the human experience I poke around in, a lot.
I always run into this "uncomfortable reality" of just how many people on this planet walk around and see others as little more than "game pieces" in their personal maps of life. And I find myself alternately disturbed/depressed that a healthier non-usary alternative seems to be the exception, rather than the rule.
So often, people seem to be threatened by someone's decision to voluntarily choose less of something, rather than more.
Perhaps the root of my/our discomfort lies in the fact that there's an unhealthy conditionality there. Particularly in love. Instead of simply "I love you, because the world is more beautiful because you're in it!" love "nuggets" are dispensed like dog treats when we do certain things that suit other people's realities, but the treats are withheld when we are not pleasing to them. It's all so transactional, and definitely not unconditional.
And yes, I am an idealist and romantic, in many ways... even if it's not always the most functional way to be, in life!
And a big YES to being ever-evolving!
Sad and yes, very true.
Absolutely and I witness this in my own family often!!! In so many ways I find human behaviour so fickle.
Functional schmunctional. Don't change!
Not gonna!
What you see is what you get. People who need me to be something else for their convenience can go fly a kite.
Or something else...
lol! I second that :)