The cry of my friend Sarah on her abusive marriage...
HELLO... DEAR LOVE ONCE a tell from @vickyson
One faithful evening she called over the phone I had her crying I quickly told her to calm down I would be with her shortly dropping the phone I locked my door and I went to her, reaching there she was sitting right there crying all day I rush because they always fight with her husband.
When she saw me she asked softly do you think I will be wrong if I leave this marriage? do you think that people will laugh at me if I work away? is this entirely my fault or was it my sin that God decided to punish me this way? I wish I could answer her but I am as confused as she is, I try to console her telling her to calm down it's going to be alright but she said for how long will she continue like this
She then continues I met him sometime back then and August makes it exactly 5 years when I met him at first, I was not convinced of his love for me but when he kept on persisting I gave in to the love seeing the seriousness and the likeness he has shown me, I decided to give it a try, we date for a year then he proposed to me and I said yes because he has never given me a reason to doubt his love
We have been married for 4 years now In the early hours of the marriage he never activated any of his bad characteristics but when I became pregnant and when the pregnancy started to grow, I liked some things like the pregnant woman he never gave in and his complain was that I don't have money, I will now bury the interest I have on those foods and let it slide
To my shocking experience when I was in labor, she said, he abandoned me at the hospital when I was in pain and God answered my prayer and delivered me from the labor room successfully even though it was a long labor, I was happy that it did not lead to the theater the bills was small but he was never there to pay the bills at the hospital I cried all day long even though I supposed to be happy that I gave birth
I managed to pay the bills because I had money with me I thought he run because he didn't have money but I was on his phone one faithful day checking his balance I saw that there was 350,000 lying down in his account when I confronted him he gave me an excuse that it wasn't his money but as year turned to another the money was still there
He never bothered to buy anything for the baby I eventually did everything as if I were a single mother most of the time, I cry but I cannot report to anyone because I have been advised never to report matters to anybody but then for how long will I take this pain when our son was about to start schooling he said that he doesn't have money, I was not bothered I take the child to school and I pay the fees
For these 4 years of marriage he has never bought me a gift not to talk of the baby he hardly comes home on time and when he finally comes he will beat me up and call me names because he is drunk making excuses that I cannot explain, I bear all those pain for this long drying in silent when I tell my parents my mom said you have to be more patience and tolerance because marriage is always hard but with time he might change
She said I always pray to God for a change in my husband but then none of the prayers reach up to heaven and finally he comes up with an excuse to beat me every night when he returns from wherever he's coming from being drunk, she does everything in the house they soap, baby food feeding herself taking the child to hospital when he sick because he never cares she knows that marriage is not roses but at least she could have peace of mind even though he's not taking care of her
I was just there like a status looking confused I tried to calm her down but she was still crying and telling me all this I said to her don't make a decision now that you are confused and angry about the whole situation
She said do you still think I need someone to tell me what to do in this marriage all I got was tears and bitterness I was supposed to be helping my family, especially my mom because she has suffered a lot bringing us up but because I am single-handedly doing everything in this marriage I cannot help her, even in my sickness I treat myself I am practically living alone inside the marriage
One of the annoying parts is that we are living with his parent and his mother always takes his side whenever he does something wrong I'm complaining, I don't understand anything my peace is as take I went to the hospital last and my blood pressure is high what can I do I may end up dead one morning, I pray that the universe will forgive me somehow, she said.
I asked again what about your boy she said God will take care of him he will be just fine because his father has a brother who is God fearing, I believe that he will take the boy from his father, if not he will become as drunken as the father
She said at this point she has come to the end of the road in this marriage and whatever it is she will not take this bitterness again she said that I want to go away to find peace and happiness for myself before I end up dead in the name of marriage I feel sorry for my son but then is better if he grows and see me alive then death
She said I will not advise anyone to marry a drunken and jobless man because no matter what happens he will choose his drinks over your happiness and peace of mind disgracing you in public is nothing to him. She turns softly and says are you happy in your marriage? She asks,
THE CRY OF MY FRIEND SARAH
What advice would give her if she were your sister and a friend
I would love to invite this key friend to share their told about this.
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