Steemit Engagement Challenge S3:W4 - Three things I'd change about myself, and three things I'd keep by @lhorgic.

Hello famz and friends in this commuinty. It please me to take part in this week's engagement contest in this noble commuinty. I found the topic very interesting and then decided to take part in it. Kindly check out my entry below.

Introduction

As human,we are not all the same and as such we behave differently. We have attitude and habit that has become part of us,some of which we don't like and some well-meaning number of us are really working diligently on a daily basis to discard this part of us we don't like and building on the ones we love. I will be sharing just 3 of the things I don't really like (which I am really working on) and the things I really want to keep and build on just according to what was requested in the guideline for the contest.

The things I would change about myself

• My Shy attitude.

How I hate to be shy but it seems shyness has really gotten the better part of me. It is difficult to tell that am really shy when you engage me online or when the talk is far from a physical conversation.

pixabay

When I tell people that am a very shy person,an introvert,they doubt me because of how outspoken I seem to be when they engage me in a discussion,but When it comes to physical discussion I struggled a lot and it has a way of making me lose my self confidence.

I have been working on it and I have seem improvement but my goal is to totally eradicate it such that and very bold and confident when I come in contact with people both online and offline.

The only people that I am never shy before are those who have become so close to me, I find myself very free with these kind of people,I am an extrovert to these people, sometimes I am even considered a talkative when with them.

• Lack of enough discipline

This is one part of me I don't like. I have found myself make a list of things I would love to do and then I find it difficult to work on the to-do.
This seems always difficult for me.

pixabay

The issue is not writing down the things I would love to do like motivational speakers will always advice, the problems with me is following up the plans. I tend to be a bit distracted and caught up in other things such so much so that I end up not doing my to-do.

This has affected me in a way and I really want to do away with this attitude because it has a way of slowing down ones pace. Although I still try to work on some of the to-do but not in the order and the timing I really outlined.

• "Too" selfless attitude

This is suppose to be a good side right? but sometimes I feel am at disadvantaged when I display this part of me very often. It's in my build up and part of my DNA (lol). But one thing I have discovered is that people that are too selfless or kind are sometimes taken advantage of and also taken for granted.

People tend to capitalize on this part of them to carry out their selfish Interest. Some of the things I have gone through makes me want to actually remain in my shell and not show these part of me for fear that some ungrateful folks don't take undue advantage.

As much as I try to hide it part it shows even stronger. Maybe someone here can help out and give me tips on how to go about this. It seem good to be but environmental factor will not allow it appear in that manner.

The things I will love to keep

• Large heart for people

I am a very accommodating type,I don't easily judge people because doing that will not help me see their true nature. One wrong singular action from someone doesn't make me write them off,infact those kind of people are type of people I move close to just to know why they did what they did and see if they really need help.

pixabay

There is always a reason behind every action you know,but when we don't give people a chance, we ain't helping them and we would never really know them. This is the reason why I love to accommodate all manner of people and focus on the good side of them and also see if there is a ways to fix the part I don't like by pointing out such in love.

No one is totally bad,as terrible as fire can be,it still managed to put food on your table everyday. This are some of the belief system I run with and it has really helped me discover and help people in the little way I can because it give me access to all manner of people.

• My Temperament

Yea! I will like to retain this part of me. I hope you didn't think otherwise when you say this sub heading...lols.Well am not a hot tempered person,am so cool,easy going,reserved and collected.

I've been asked many time by those I come in contact with especially those that have come a bit closer into my circle if I get angry and that because they have never for once see me loose my temper. Well ,I just respond with a smile because It really difficult to answer.

I consider alot when I feel anger erupting on my inside like a vilcanoe,as human I should get angry right?, since it's part of the emotional state of man, even my saviour Jesus got angry at some point. So when I feel anger erupting inside if me, I start considering so many things in that instance and before I come into conclusion the anger had dissolved.

And then when I respond,the bomb that would have exploded has been detonated. If I had responded immediately it erupted it would have cause more damage than the intention behind it which could have been for correctional purpose. This has worked for me and still works.It has helped solved situation better than anger would have done.

Let me mentioned before leaving this chapter that am not a super human, I get angry but not to destructive degree.

• Respect and love for people

I love and respect people so much and I don't hide it. It appears in my conversation with people and even in my random talks,I don't know how I developed this,maybe it was my upbringing I wouldn't know or probably my belief as a Christian...
Interestingly I also bear the name Christian.

I believe respect is reciprocal,what you give is what you get in return,it doesn't reduce us in anyway,we don't feel less when we respect other. This is a misconceptions we need to get rid of. Respect for people have given me access to people I can't imagine I would even enter their circle,it had also opened doors and granted me opportunities

The truth is,a natural man loves to be honoured, likes to feel good about himself, like to be respected and valued. When a man spot such person who respect him genuinely, he can do anything just to have that kind of man around him and will do anything to ensure that he himself doesn't breach the relationship.

Conclusion

It is true that everyone has habit or attitude they want to do away with and other attitude they want to keep and even improve on. Spotting these things will go a long way in making us a better person.
Thank you so much for reading till this point. I will love to invite my friends @olabillions @ruthjoe @josepha @ishayachris @msquaretk @jueco @badmus-official to participate in this contest.

Regards
@lhorgic♥️.